I’m the most stupid man on earth so I suffered from social anxiety for almost ten years. I got into university for free, and the university used to give me a monthly allowance of $233. But I lost all of that because I used to skip classes due to social anxiety. Can you imagine losing your university education over something that seems small like social anxiety?
Even when I got my driving license, I felt like it was a big achievement because of my anxiety — even though getting a license isn’t really a big deal.
As for the university, when I log into the university website, I can still access my account. But it says: “Status: Unofficial Withdrawal.”
I ruined my future with my own choices
Anyway thanks for reading this I appreciate it
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Same. Anxiety is a bitch.
Are u still technically enrolled? Talk to the higher ups abt it and just get accommodations or opt for online
Hey, be kind to yourself. You didn’t ruin anything. You had a setback because of a very real illness. If you’d had to stop going to class due to colon cancer, would you be angry with yourself? Well, your brain is part of your body too and it’s sick.
You will never feel good about yourself when you play the game of comparing your progress to others’. You will always find someone further along in life than you are, no matter what your circumstances. Say you had graduated college right away and had a good job; there would still be “more successful” people to compare yourself to. Life is not a competition. When you log into that portal, you’re not accomplishing anything but punishing yourself for no good reason. You didn’t ask to have a mental illness, just like someone with colon cancer didn’t ask to get sick.
What’s important is that you seek professional help for your mental illness, just like you would for a physical illness. You can recover, and while it will always be something you have as with ANY chronic condition, you can find success and even joy. The fact that you got your driver’s license is something to celebrate and be proud of. I don’t know you, but I’m proud of you.
You are absolutely NOT stupid. Trying to accomplish goals with anxiety can feel like a Sisyphean* task. Your struggle to do something can feel as overwhelming as pushing a boulder uphill. The struggle to do something repeatedly is like every time you get that boulder up the hill it just rolls back down. Then you have to do the same thing again and again. Anxiety makes it hard to focus on the long term goal when you are stuck stressing over the short-term.
Please seek treatment for your anxiety, if you aren’t already. It took me until my mid-thirties to find the courage to seek help. I was always told to just get over it or that if I prayed hard enough I would be given the strength to overcome it, or even that I was just lazy and needed to stop procrastinating. Obviously none of that was helpful. You know what actually helps? Prescription meds and cbt therapy help. There are some pretty good books out there about cbt therapy and anxiety if you find it easier to read up on it first.
Don’t beat yourself up over the past missed opportunities. Having treated anxiety will open up a whole new world of potential for you.
*Tldr version because Greek mythology is a very long soap opera: This dude Sisyphus pissed off a lot of gods, including Zeus and got cursed to push a boulder uphill for eternity. Every time he reaches the top of the hill that boulder just rolls back down and he has to start over again.
If your license felt like a big deal, it was a big deal.
>I ruined my future with my own choices
You did not ruin your future. You blew an opportunity. That’s ok, we all do that sometimes. That’s life. You will have a big amazing future in front of you.