I always prefer that people avoid commenting on my weight, in either direction, as it can be triggering for me (and for others with a history of disordered eating).
Without any other context, I’d take it as a genuine compliment from somebody who doesn’t realize that weight-related comments can be triggering and unnecessary.
It’d really depend on how long I’d been seeing him and my other interactions with him. I wouldn’t necessarily take it as a backhanded comment, but I wouldn’t like it.
In my case, I’m into “that stuff” so this would probably be a positive comment for me. But the context does matter. If I weren’t this way it would probably alarm me or upset me.
Maybe he’s being honest and just wanted to compliment you. I don’t see any problems here. If I was in this situation,I just said thank you and moved on to other topic.
Other examples are “well, I usually don’t like (your hair color), but you look great for having (your hair color)!” or “I don’t usually date (your ethnicity), but you’re so pretty for being (ethnicity)!”
It’s meant to sound like a compliment but the actual purpose is to make you feel insecure about yourself.
It’s also a kind of test to see if he can make you feel so insecure that you’ll try to change for him.
I think he meant that you look more womanly now (edit: according to his taste). Regardless, it would puzzle me too and would keep it as an orange flag.
I’m neutral about weight but I know that other people are sensitive about theirs. If you have shown or told that you’re sensitive about weight and that’s his comment, then I think you need to tell him that his comment bothers you. But if it’s only been several weeks, then at least observe how his behavior around people’s weight are in general before making up your mind.
I’d be turned off. Best case scenario it’s a sloppy compliment and worst case, he’s trying to get in your head and break you down. Either way I don’t have the patience to wait and find out.
My fiancé has said that also, in a nice way. He has openly said he prefers his women a bit thicker, but he fell in love with me when I was pretty fit. I think it depends on the person as to whether it’s an issue or not.
I don’t have enough context. Either way to me, I personally don’t like people saying that. I feel that it’s unnecessary. Just say I looked pretty then and still do now
How long have you been dating? Yeah, I’d be wary. If you gain any weight, this might become an issue for him. That’s his hang up and shouldn’t ever be yours.
That would disturb me if that’s what he said verbatim. If he simply said he likes how you look now, and thinks you look better, fine. But if he mentions weight, that’s not ok.
I hate when men say those things!!! I know it’s a compliment but the body is such a battle ground for women. My ex was the same and I’m someone whose weight goes up and down a bit. So I always felt unsexy when I was on my smaller side, and like our love life was just slightly less fulfilling for him. I wouldn’t have felt that way if he hadn’t stated a preference. IMO men should just get what they are given, if they wanna compliment, don’t compare, even to other versions of me!!
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I always prefer that people avoid commenting on my weight, in either direction, as it can be triggering for me (and for others with a history of disordered eating).
As an attempt to make me feel good lol whether or not it does depends on the day and how big of a meal I just ate 😆
Without any other context, I’d take it as a genuine compliment from somebody who doesn’t realize that weight-related comments can be triggering and unnecessary.
Commenting on weight/body, especially before he knows you and how you feel about it, would be a no go for me
He’s probably just being blatantly honest about his preference.
Curious about the context. Can’t really say much else without that.
Personally id disregard that. You are the only one whose opinion matters when it comes to anything about you.
It’d really depend on how long I’d been seeing him and my other interactions with him. I wouldn’t necessarily take it as a backhanded comment, but I wouldn’t like it.
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In my case, I’m into “that stuff” so this would probably be a positive comment for me. But the context does matter. If I weren’t this way it would probably alarm me or upset me.
People have all kinda of different ideas of what a healthy ideal is. And health correlates with beauty.
With no other context, it is probably just a straight-up compliment.
Maybe he’s being honest and just wanted to compliment you. I don’t see any problems here. If I was in this situation,I just said thank you and moved on to other topic.
That’s called negging.
Other examples are “well, I usually don’t like (your hair color), but you look great for having (your hair color)!” or “I don’t usually date (your ethnicity), but you’re so pretty for being (ethnicity)!”
It’s meant to sound like a compliment but the actual purpose is to make you feel insecure about yourself.
It’s also a kind of test to see if he can make you feel so insecure that you’ll try to change for him.
Don’t fall for it.
I think he meant that you look more womanly now (edit: according to his taste). Regardless, it would puzzle me too and would keep it as an orange flag.
I’m neutral about weight but I know that other people are sensitive about theirs. If you have shown or told that you’re sensitive about weight and that’s his comment, then I think you need to tell him that his comment bothers you. But if it’s only been several weeks, then at least observe how his behavior around people’s weight are in general before making up your mind.
Probably genuine, I like it more girls that aren’t skinny lol
I’d be turned off. Best case scenario it’s a sloppy compliment and worst case, he’s trying to get in your head and break you down. Either way I don’t have the patience to wait and find out.
Idk how to explain it. As someone who likes thin women there are some women in my life that i physically prefer heavier set.
Some people genuinely look better a tab bit on the heavier side
My fiancé has said that also, in a nice way. He has openly said he prefers his women a bit thicker, but he fell in love with me when I was pretty fit. I think it depends on the person as to whether it’s an issue or not.
I would take it at face value.
I don’t have enough context. Either way to me, I personally don’t like people saying that. I feel that it’s unnecessary. Just say I looked pretty then and still do now
I’d take it with a sandwich and some fries.
As a compliment?
How long have you been dating? Yeah, I’d be wary. If you gain any weight, this might become an issue for him. That’s his hang up and shouldn’t ever be yours.
That would disturb me if that’s what he said verbatim. If he simply said he likes how you look now, and thinks you look better, fine. But if he mentions weight, that’s not ok.
I hate when men say those things!!! I know it’s a compliment but the body is such a battle ground for women. My ex was the same and I’m someone whose weight goes up and down a bit. So I always felt unsexy when I was on my smaller side, and like our love life was just slightly less fulfilling for him. I wouldn’t have felt that way if he hadn’t stated a preference. IMO men should just get what they are given, if they wanna compliment, don’t compare, even to other versions of me!!
Some guys like girls that have a couple extra pounds. 🤷♀️
How would you take this? Ehm, just exactly what he said. It’s a compliment, I’d say thank you very much and don’t overthink it.