I caught him cheating two months and we decided to fix our relationship and work on our issues. But none of it ever felt fair, I found myself mad, irritable, snappy and overall awful to him. I was not satisfied with any of his reasoning of not getting enough attention because I was hurting too and I know that if I was in that scenario I would never have cheated.
Yesterday we got into a fight and he started yelling awful things, he used offensive language and listed out everything he has done for me and how he paid for most of it and a made a big deal out of his mistake. – Then I slapped him. Again. And again
He broke down saying he deserved it. He didn’t seem mad or upset.
I still don’t feel sorry at all. I can feel the anger leaving my body at that instant when I did it, it didn’t do full justice but it feels right. Now for once we are able to sit and talk about our marriage without me being blind with rage
I know hitting is not right. I would never stand by domestic violence ever before this. But I also thought I would never stay after infidelity but here he are
If the roles were reversed, will it be the same? Yes.
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If the roles were reversed he’d be in jail and everyone would be flocking to your side calling him a monster. You can’t say you don’t stand by domestic violence and then hit your partner MULTIPLE times. You took your anger out like a child. Also, he wasn’t upset but broke down? Yes he cheated but you decided to stay and work on things. How do you expect things to work out when you’re treating him awfully. I never thought I’d find myself siding with a cheater but you sound awful.
You needed to get your anger out, and you did that in the worst way possible. You need therapy
Dude, just leave him. You hate him (which is honestly fair) but you’re also staying to abuse him/get back at him (which is not fair)
If you had made your husband angry and he had done the same to you (even if his anger was justifiable) would you still think the same?
I really think what’s going on with you is that you let your infidelity rage out in the worst possible way…. It makes me think that maybe he cheated on you because he is unhappy with you and that is because you constantly lash out at him (even though this is the first time you have done it physically), obviously that is no justification for infidelity but I don’t think you are the poor victim here.
A “mean” husband does not say “I deserve it” over and over again while crying, this is the profile of a person who is already afraid of you.
I hope he presses charges.
If the roles were reversed and you cheated would he stay with you?
the fact that you aren’t sorry is very worrying… you don’t feel even the slightest remorse?
You’re a terrible partner. Why are you resorting to violence so quickly? And with no remorse?
Leave him.
Time for you to leave sis. This relationship is not fixable.
Is slapping really worse than infidelity?
Both you and him should be far away from each other
Just break up already.
If the roles were reversed, will it be the same?
Absolutely no. He will be tagged as an abuser.
After the slap, do you think you have forgiven him totally and further abuse won’t come up again?
Will he ever forget the continuous slapping he got from him wife?
Just call it already.
He’s a cheater, and you are an abuser.
How can she slap
>If the roles were reversed, will it be the same? Yes.
If the roles were reversed you’d be in jail, and if you happend to lie about the incident he might even end up arrested after you hit him so that’s simply wrong.
You’re a horrible person for hitting him and you’re worse because you’re not even regretful about it; if he cheated and you can’t get over it then dump him and ask for divorse, hitting is NEVER right.
Sorry, but there’s no way to salvage this and it would be better if you two just divorced. Even if he won’t cheat anymore, the fact that he did already cheat will always stay, lingering in the back of your mind. Let’s be honest; even when you’d verbally say you’ve forgiven him at some point, in actuality, you haven’t and may never forgive him, and that’s understandable. So leave and divorce. Resorting to DV is not right no matter the gender.
You were wrong. When it gets to this point, you need to split up. His cheating and your anger/violence has turned your relationship toxic and that’s it. You will never make each other happy again.
You already know if you are at the point you don’t feel remorse for hitting that you are well beyond wanting to save your relationship. I assume that you are staying for reasons outside of truly wanting to reconcile and so you both would be better off if you found a way to be apart. His cheating is absolutely wrong but striking someone especially repeatedly is also wrong. I don’t believe you want to be the type of person who hits others (based on you morally having issues with cheating and knowing it’s wrong) the longer you stay in a bad marriage and distrust the more you will feel yourself going crazy. Either get real counselling and invest in reconciliation and reconnection or leave the marriage.
Besides hitting the mistakes you made were thinking this could be fixed when it sounds like he was making excuses and gaslighting you for why he cheated. It can’t be fixed. In your frustration you hit him. It’s over.
Yes! More domestic violence! /s
lol no of course you don’t feel sorry because you are a perfect example of an abuser. You are just exploiting the fact that he can’t/would not report it because police either won’t believe him or would’t give a fck. If the roles were reversed he’d be in jail already.
Just leave this marriage. What you are doing is wrong and very unhealthy
He was in the wrong originally for cheating. But now you are in the wrong for staying and letting yourself get so angry you are trying to condone domestic violence. Your husband would have had the right, and still could, call the police for physical abuse.
Once a cheater always a cheater. And now you’ve opened the can of worms with hitting him to let go of your rage, that will not be the last time. Next time your anger builds up you will hit him again. He’s the one who cheated, but you’re the one going to end up in prison.
You couldn’t waterboard this info out of me
Idk why this is a little funny “I slapped him over and over but now we can sit and talk” like a good boy lol
I don’t blame you but at the same time you need to leave him. You will never trust him again.