I think that’s a part of livin too,
I’ll tell with so damn lame analogy, Think it of a recipe for your dish. How much proportion of all the ingredients is what makes the dish good or bad. we got little control over that proportion and feeling like just existing ( worrying ) is a common ingredient.
It’s about how much you want it. May be you will figure if given the time..
We all change, I guess.
I have struggled with being a participant in my own life, and what’s helped is actively choosing what I want. It’s hard to do at first, especially when you don’t know what you actually want, so I’d recommend some mediation and just trying shit and see what sticks. Ultimately don’t stress it too much tho, you’re never gunna figure it out, and that’s cool.
For years I felt like a background character in my own life. Maybe it was because I put everyone else’s needs first as soon as I became pregnant with my first child. I put my children’s needs first, my husband’s, my family’s – every now and then, I’d do something for myself, but not really. I started to feel guilty for showering every day thinking that I was wasting resources.
I was really depressed for a few years without even realizing it. It took me hitting rock bottom to realize that chronically ignoring my wants, needs, and desires was really detrimental to my physical and emotional well-being.
I started being “selfish” and doing things that only I enjoyed. I starting singing in my choir, going out with my friends for fancy dinners, and booking that spa day that I had always wanted to do. I bought myself watercolors, brushes, and notebooks. I booked the concert tickets.
We only have one life. You can live it as a background character, or you can step into the light. Over time, you may find you’re stepping back too often. Don’t be afraid to choose yourself.
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That’s how I feel too
I feel like this, and i know how to change it for myself. What does “living” look like over “existing “?”
God has a beautiful plan for u, even in quite times, trust his timing and guidance
sometimes less is more
I think that’s a part of livin too,
I’ll tell with so damn lame analogy, Think it of a recipe for your dish. How much proportion of all the ingredients is what makes the dish good or bad. we got little control over that proportion and feeling like just existing ( worrying ) is a common ingredient.
It’s about how much you want it. May be you will figure if given the time..
We all change, I guess.
I have struggled with being a participant in my own life, and what’s helped is actively choosing what I want. It’s hard to do at first, especially when you don’t know what you actually want, so I’d recommend some mediation and just trying shit and see what sticks. Ultimately don’t stress it too much tho, you’re never gunna figure it out, and that’s cool.
For years I felt like a background character in my own life. Maybe it was because I put everyone else’s needs first as soon as I became pregnant with my first child. I put my children’s needs first, my husband’s, my family’s – every now and then, I’d do something for myself, but not really. I started to feel guilty for showering every day thinking that I was wasting resources.
I was really depressed for a few years without even realizing it. It took me hitting rock bottom to realize that chronically ignoring my wants, needs, and desires was really detrimental to my physical and emotional well-being.
I started being “selfish” and doing things that only I enjoyed. I starting singing in my choir, going out with my friends for fancy dinners, and booking that spa day that I had always wanted to do. I bought myself watercolors, brushes, and notebooks. I booked the concert tickets.
We only have one life. You can live it as a background character, or you can step into the light. Over time, you may find you’re stepping back too often. Don’t be afraid to choose yourself.
Existing is breathing. Living is feeling. Start small, start now.