For example, take the top 5 women I find most attractive in the world. I sort of feel like I’m actually not extremely attracted to any of them because the human body just seems somewhat gross to me. Have you heard of this?
Maybe it’s just overthinking. I think about things Doctors deal with basically. For example a colonoscopy. Does that gross you out at all? It’s like, the person you find attractive can have that procedure lol.
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Uh i actually find almost all porn pretty gross tbh so yeah….it’s just ….so not normal sex lol
I think lots of people think the body is gross… but there’s a cognitive dissonance that happens when sexual attraction is involved…
Anyways, you may want to look into asexuality. I’m asexual, but not sex adverse, and once I understood more about myself it was a lot easier to function in the world.
Maybe you’re asexual
I get this. I dont think its odd, might be worth talking to a professional though. In my experience, the grossness becomes more tolerable once you get in an actual relationship and become closer.
Sounds like a type of asexuality.
Have you read about asexuality? See if the explanations of it align with how you feel. There’s also something called “Demisexual” which means you have to have a personal/emotional/intellectual connection with someone in order to be attracted to them, which could also explain why you don’t feel attracted to the women you’ve mentioned that you don’t know personally. I think the most important thing to remember is that if you’re experiencing it, it exists and you’re not alone. There are others like you!
There is a saying for it I think it’s along the lines of like splanchbphobia where someone is disgusted by the human body and its functions is probably the closest thing I could find to be relatable or maybe a mix of being asexual but idk if people who are asexual find the human body gross more than them not having a high sex drive
You could be ace. I have no desire for sexual engagement with others and i find genital kinda gross lol.
Yeah looks like people beat me to it but I’m gonna guess you could be asexual (you could check out r/asexuality )
But don’t you get grossed out that you could have that type of procedure? What about your own body?
Any chance you find your own body gross? Any major medical issues in your past? You don’t have to answer, but it could be related to that. Based on my own experience.
i wouldn’t ascribe to weird labels. you probably just prefer personality over looks and your not letting your lust do the work moreso your brain. just find a girl you find cool and you’ll be extremely attracted to her body
he human body just seems somewhat gross to me. “
it is. fact.
Sounds like you may be somewhere on the asexuality spectrum
At a glance it sounds like you may be asexual, but (as an ace myself) it could be more complicated than that. When you say ‘attracted,’ do you mean you’re not sexually attracted? Physically attracted? Aesthetically attracted? And with your top five women example, how are you attracted to them?
Assuming you’re straight, what are your thoughts of men? When you look at men, do you feel the same grossness as you do when looking at women, or are you more neutral? If you feel the same regardless of if you’re looking at men or women, that’s a stronger indicator of asexuality, imo.
Of course the big question would be your sexual and romantic activity. Is sex (the act, the concept, etc.) gross to you? Do you enjoy kisses, hugs, and other forms of physical affection? Is there a difference between physical contact with men versus with women?
Like others say, asexuality may be something to look into, but if it doesn’t seem to fit, then you may just have a very grounded and non-idealistic view of the body, which there’s nothing wrong with. We’re animals, we’re gross, and our beauty culture does everything it can to make us forget it. As long as it’s not impacting your life in any negative way, I’d say it’s a bit odd, but not in a bad way.
Low-key reminded me of this lewky song.
Is this distressing to you? It sounds like asexuality and it could also be something more serious if it impacts your daily routine like showering, hugging family, etc.
I am not surprised at all. Are you demisexual or asexual? OOTH, I find it VERY easy to find women attractive(to name a famous person: the lead singer of Paramore is gorgeous and shows a lot of skin).
Humans are weak flesh suits we need to experience what it’s like to be a human for a few decades.
We make teratomas which disgusting
If you had hopes/plans of being with someone or feel frustrated by being alone because of these thoughts, I think you should give yourself the gift of some therapy sessions with a counselor who specializes in body image and/or sexuality to explore these thoughts. That way, you can understand if this is an unhealthy reaction/disruptive thoughts that came about because of something that is going on within your mind/body or something that happened within your life… or if this is just a healthy realization/understanding of who you are and what you want (or don’t want). Average? No. Odd? Not necessarily. It depends what the cause/source is.
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The human body IS gross.
I have a buddy who will see an over weight woman and get physically ill because for some fucked up reason he envisions having sex with her and is disgusted by the thought.
He is a fucking moron.
You definitely don’t have to be attracted to people. But I would consider trying to examine and work through the idea that bodies are gross. Is gross bad? Immoral? What does gross imply to you? Embrace life’s grossness, we are all gross and it is magnificent
I think it’s probably normal, but maybe becoming emotionally attracted, bonded, (in love basically) makes the other person’s “human-ness” less gross?
I don’t have a partner but I have a cat as a pet and to me, she has the best scent in the world b/c I love her.
I felt this way about everyone until I fell in love. I thought even the hottest actors in Hollywood were not sexually attractive, and had no interest in sex. When I met my soulmate, I couldn’t keep my hands off him!! I am highly sexually attracted to him and nothing he does can gross me out. I think for some people, sexual attraction has to come after love (and respect, connection, etc)
Don’t feel discouraged! ❤️
This is something a good psychologist could probably help you with. I think you appreciate it’s not ideal.
Probably steer clear of henti then
I used to think the same. When I fell in love with my first bf, suddenly I didn’t care about the ugly parts of the human body anymore 🙂 I still don’t like certain things and I never will but the general disgust has completely disappeared. So maybe you’re not asexual. Maybe you’re just a massive overthinker or struggle with intrusive thoughts?
I rarely find people attractive. It’s just not what I look at.
I am female.
I find women especially beautiful and can appreciate how they look, but it’s usually the whole package, face, clothes, body, mannerisms etc.
I very very occasionally find a man good looking, but never really equate looks with desire for sex.
I am not asexual though. I enjoy and crave sex. But I am far more attracted to personality than body. I dont mean that as some holier than thou thing, just the reality for me. I dont care that much about physical appearance. Dont know why. I seem to be the odd one out on this
I dont think any of it is ‘gross’ it’s natural. I’m a good fit for caretaker bc I can clean you up if you poop yourself and it won’t bother me lol.
I feel like I’m not attractive to people because I’m gross.
You are not asexual, please don’t listen to Reddit. You sound like you might be on the spectrum, as I am and I’m grossed out by the human body. I can’t lay with my head on my fiancee’s chest because hearing her heartbeat grosses me out.
I’m not sure what the term is or anything, but you sound like you’re grossed out by the biology of the human body/bodily fluids/etc. A common version is how most people can’t watch surgical procedures or faint when they see blood.
You are conflating this with sexual attraction, which has nothing to do with it, but you’re having a hard time separating the 2. It is abnormal to think about people getting a colonoscopy when you think about them sexually. This has nothing to do with asexuality.
Honestly i think judging by the “hottest” women is a mistake. Im very much only attracted to women but models look gross to me. I am really against body modification which seems to be a requirement for those lists. Not too fond of makeup either but im not gonna stop my partners from feeling pretty. I draw the line at unnecessary cosmetic surgery tho.
Im not lambasting these choices either. Just giving my perspective on why you may find the “hottest” people repulsive.
Yes, humans ARE kind of gross, this is a valid point. Which is why we need a lil’ bit of hormonal help to get the urge and in the mood. If you have serious issues with this I would bet it might be some kind of hormonal imbalance
Thank you thank you thank you! I actually have tears in my eyes typing this. I’m not alone! I’m actually not alone!
I mean, yeah dude, humans are fucking gross. Biology is fucking gross. You’re gross. I’m gross. Sometimes it’s nice to be gross with someone else though instead of just being gross and lonely.
Not odd. I’m the same way.
It sounds like you might be an asexual that is sex-repulsed. There is nothing wrong with that, but if it bothers you, you may want to work through that with a therapist.
I’m similar. The idea of having sex is infinitely more attractive than actually having it. I don’t want other people’s fluids on or in me, the thought of it sounds so disgusting.
Are you young? Like 15-19? This is a phase a lot of people go through, it’s not necessarily forever…
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Interesting, I know it to be technically true and I agree with you, however, it doesn’t really bother me and I don’t think about it in my day to day.
Also, you are gross too, and you could have a colonoscopy… I’m pretty gross. I had two human beings wriggle themselves out of my body. Not to mention all the poop. Don’t you poop?
I’m similar to this
What’s normal for you is what matters. You may need a strong romantic connection to feel attracted to someone, or you may never feel anyone but friendship. We’re all totally different and there is always someone out there for you. Or not. As long as you are living the life that makes YOU happy, it’s all good baby.
And yea, bodies are gross. Genitals are gross. Smells are gross. But if you feel like your thoughts are intruding on your ability to make romantic or sexual connections and you want those connections, then maybe it’s time to talk to someone. Our thoughts should never get in the way of our quality of life.
Reminds me of the Honoré de Balzac quote: “No man should marry until he has studied anatomy and dissected at least one woman”.
I don’t know how old you are but in my teens and in my early to mid twenties I found the idea of sex to be crude, graceless, and a little gross. You sound like me. And yes, I’m Asexual. I’ve moved to a different spot in the spectrum now. I was Aromantic but now I’m Demisexual. It took me years to realize that there was a name for how I felt. If I were you, I would look into it.
Others think you may be asexual, perhaps you’re simply not surrounded by people you’re attracted to and haven’t quite reconciled it. I’ll get hate for this but I don’t care, I don’t find white people attractive, at all (I myself am white).
When I was going through my teenage years, everyone in my area seemed to be white (small town New Zealand, bum fuck nowhere), my friends were all obsessed with blonde, blue eyes, big boobs etc. I honestly thought I might have been gay because they didn’t interest me. But I wasn’t attracted the other way either.
Then we finally had a few exchange students from India, China and Japan. That changed everything for me. The journey that has taken me on is completely tangential to what some of my friends have taken over their lives, some completely sheltered.
Don’t be afraid to broaden your horizons before you resign yourself to accepting being asexual.
I’m asexual (sex repulsed) and have severe contamination OCD so I find sex doubly gross.
If you find the human body super gross might want to get checked with a psychologist or psychiatrist in case you also have contamination OCD.
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Not odd at all! It’s actually pretty common to feel that way. The human body can be a bit weird and messy when you really think about it. It’s like, we all have our quirks and things that might gross us out, even about people we find attractive. I get what you mean about overthinking, too. Once you start picturing all the stuff that goes on behind the scenes, it can definitely take the shine off things. And yeah, thinking about medical procedures like colonoscopies can be a real mood killer! It’s all part of being human, though, and it’s okay to have those mixed feelings. Just remember, attraction can be about more than just the physical—there’s personality and connection too!
do you think you might be asexual?
What about them do you find attractive then?
Maybe you just hate what people do with their bodies with others. Some have the habits of engaging with multiple sex partners and some are reserved. Does that gross you out? Grosses me out. Idk how people manage to do this.
Hmmm, can’t even imagine that.
If you have no experience…
Do you like your body?
Stop eating soy. Lol
i think its either a type of asexuality or you just need to be in love with someone to find them attractive, you might need romance and intimacy to find a said persons body attractive.
Kinda fancy for someone who’s asshole is literally only inches from their mouth, you eat with that mouth!
Attraction is not necessarily solely based on physical attraction. It can be also something you develop with intimacy through conversation, similar tastes, humor, intelligence, abilities.
All the human excrements are just a part of everybody else’s bodies as your own body.
Do you look at yourself and this is the first thing you notice and are you grossed out by your own body?
Or are you able to move past it to see how many awesome features you have?
Are you able to see the perfection of how the human body works in order to do all the things you do?
Is it possible that you are just looking from the most negative perspective?
Honestly, it might be helpful to look into therapy, or maybe just trying ( forcing your mind) to see 3-5 positive point about something after you have a negative thought like that?
Check testosterone
I don’t think it’s odd. I’ve met a few people like this, in fact, I was kind of like this for a while, and still kind of am. It tends to go away when sexual attraction takes over, though.
I feel the same way. Like I find the female body attractive in the way porn presents it to me. But in the real world where women fart, poop, grow hair in weird places, and menstruate, the human body becomes a lot less attractive to me. I know it makes me kind of an ass, but I would never belittle a woman or man for these things.
The human body is gross!
For many of us, the attraction is to the person-their personality, accomplishments, compatibility plus whatever sexual orientation you have.
yeah, its pretty odd.
I’m with you on this. I’m married, we have sex on my terms and I do enjoy it.
He is clean, and he listens to my preferences because he worships me.
We don’t kiss with tongue cause it’s gross to me, chapstick is encouraged, spray air freshener after using the bathroom, brush teeth multiple times a day, basically just following basic personal hygiene is good enough for me.
I don’t think the human body is gross, just mine is.
Your perfectly normal and yea its, I pass lol. Yet I also have 6 children. Personally, I’d agree your I your head too much about it. Still, when that “one” comes along, for awhile it kinda takes care of itself then as i aged I just said nope. I’ve not had sex since 2000 and wife and I both are the same on this so it works. But there’s nothing wrong and its absolutely normal.
imma tell you like my Goodest Judy tells me “even Beyoncé takes a shit”
This is common with people who are not ace as well, despite what comments may make you believe.
Being horny literally reduces your capacity for disgust. Some people have a high base level of disgust, but can still be attracted to people and enjoy sex when the chips are down and the hormones take over.
Some people are also asexual! But anyone can feel like thisis the point
I feel like that, except I love my partners body
If you’re attracted to someone like that, you wouldn’t think of anything they do or could have done to them as gross
Sounds like you are intentionally trying to gross yourself out to avoid the fact that you are attracted but fear you are not worthy of having a sexual experience with another person.
You got this and you got the guys that want the goth girls to spit/shit in their mouth
Do you find your human body kind of gross? I feel we see things in others that we think / feel about ourselves subconsciously
Maybe you’re aro/ace?
That is odd
Everybody poops
I kind of feel this. I wouldn’t say I’m not attracted to people but I’d say I prefer people clothed cos nudity feels kinda uncanny to me idk if thats the right word but I understand what you’re saying.
I dont find human body gross regardless of sex. Honestly it sounds insecure to me. I feel like loving your own body and as anconsequence dont feel theres anything gross in general with bodies is pretty straightforward
Asexual
I had this issue in my first and only serious relationship. I was into the guy but once I saw his flaccid dick I was turned off and I felt so bad about it. I never told him but I ended it a while ago. I’m not gay either. But possibly asexual.
The human body is gross.
Not odd unless you find a dead human body not gross.
Are you into farm animals?
You could be ace but OCD can also cause extreme body revulsion like this as well.
I’m attracted to a person, not their colonoscopy. However I do find it attractive when people take care of their health and get their preventative health screenings!
I’m with you OP, I even have a daughter and that feeling freaks me the fuck out, like how I created another person. Yeah, most people are disgusting though. But, the human body is also pretty amazing and mysterious.
I have had a colonoscopy and I confirm it did not gross me out 😎
Edit to say: Not saying I loved it but it’s actually not very gross
You have just not been in love yet
LITERALLY. i don’t know if this is gruesome or not but i always think of nasty things that can happen to someone’s body or when they’re dead or sleeping it’s like ew .😟
We don’t call it bumping uglies without reason.
Wait till you fall in love with someone for real.
I think there are studies that show people are more willing to do nasty shit when aroused. The point is that if you’re horny, at that moment you might be willing to overlook or not even think about the things you don’t like about the human body. This is why some people even talk about “post-nut clarity” lol
I would say asexual, but the fact that you think it’s weird that women are biological creatures just like men and have to excrete waste makes me think you are just 11.
I find the human body and all of its imperfections beautiful. I only had this epiphany after I tripped on psychedelic mushrooms… I realized we are all just a weird looking mushroom that wants to be loved.
Well it is gross when you think about it but you should be attracted to it to some extent, right?
Same. All my life I felt confusd.
In school I’d hear friends say “oh they are so hot” and I just. No. No they aren’t. Then magic Mike came out and my friends made fun of me for thinking it’s gross.
Now I’m just full blown confused lol.
how old are you?
not odd at all. i don’t like to kiss people with tongue…but i have no problem with a peck on my dog’s nose!
not crazy about about genital/oral contac
That is very weird. Yes.
People are pretty disgusting. I try not to think about it when it comes to romance.
Idk I personally only feel attraction when Im actually in love and feel safe and supported. It’s so odd, women are hot to me but I don’t want to do anything with them, guys are attractive but I only want to fuck if Im in a safe, stable commited relationship for a long period of time. I think about women a lot but have no desire to date one. They are just a nice fantasy or concept, not something I actually want to do. (Tried and wouldn’t do it again)
I don’t know what label someone would put on me but I just see myself as straight with a bit of a weakness for hot women. I’m in a happy relationship so non of it matters, Id just never fuck a man that I don’t know for at least a year and am dating.
Honestly, I don’t think it’s odd at all. What you’re describing actually makes a lot of sense if you take a step back from how we usually think about attraction.
When you start thinking about things like colonoscopies or bodily functions, it can feel a little strange to still be attracted in that idealized way. However, that does not mean there is something wrong with you.
Many people grow out of that discomfort simply through experience. Having children, taking care of a sick partner, working in healthcare, or even owning pets can shift your perspective. Over time, you come to realize that being human is inherently messy, and that messiness does not cancel out connection or attraction. It simply becomes part of the overall picture. People are not ignoring the unpleasant aspects; rather, they have learned to live with them.
So, it might not be that you are incapable of attraction. It might just be that you are young, have not had much direct experience with the more difficult or unglamorous aspects of life, or grew up sheltered or shielded from them. When that exposure does come, it can feel jarring or uncomfortable at first.
That said, it is also possible that you fall somewhere on the asexual or gray-asexual spectrum. You might admire a person’s looks or personality without feeling much physical desire, and that is perfectly valid as well.
How do you fell about Reptilian humanoids, or anthropomorphic reptiles, also called reptiloids?
Not horny enough. Hopefully – yet.
You sound fun.
Yeah it’s odd.
You need therapy.
Not odd but rare. As long as you don’t hate yourself because you have a body, purposely injure yourself or others, or focus only on this subject. it’s not a problem.
If you think about it a lot, more than other things, it’s a problem a therapist could help with.
Sounds like asexuality
Op you could be ace