I started a bad habit at 15 and now im 23 and cant seem to stop. For some context, at 15 i was an 8th grader about to be a 9th (middle school to high school). I had a group of girlfriends that i did everything with, we were all inseparable. One friend in particular had a mom who liked to be the “cool mom.” My first sleepover at her house, i showed up last.. about 8pm. When i walked in, the girls were gathered in the kitchen around a large smirnoff bottle, shot glasses around, half filled.
My friend turned towards me and handed me a full shot glass. This being the first time i drank, i asked her “what will your mom think, she can literally see us?” Her mom was located right outside the kitchen in the backyard, she was smoking a cigarette and on the cellphone. In the kitchen there was a large window that faced right outside in the backyard, to where her mom was at. She was staring at the girls taking shots through the window, huffing a smoke of her cigarette every second.
My friend proceeded to tell me “don’t worry, my mom wont care. She bought us this bottle.” Her mom then proceeded to come inside about 15 minutes later to take shots with us and go to bed. As she went to bed, one of my other friends called up on a guy she was talking too, they asked to hang out and so we did. We invited them inside, we drank for a while and then headed outside. One of the guys there brought a dab rig and a bong, another brought a handful of vapes and started handing them out. I took a vape and thats when it started, I became addicted to something I did not have any intention of doing, I guess you could say I did it to try to fit in, and that same night I also tried marijuana for the first time.
I am 23 years old now , I smoke weed every day, I vape every day, im afraid it will lead to a drinking problem since that seems to run in the family. I don’t know how to stop, I’m entering public safety as my career which means I am going to have to stop at some point, I just don’t know how and when. I struggle everyday trying to quit and it’s so hard, i fear it will only get worse as i struggle with stomach issues like gastrointestinal because i smoke so much. I regret my decision and actions i have made when i was 15 years old. I will always remember that night to be quite literally the end of me.
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You’re gonna be fine.
Don’t feel bad. I smoke weed and vape every day and I drink on the weekends. Doesn’t make you a bad person. I see nothing wrong with it.
In this scenario (at least imo) you weren’t at fault. You were absolutely peer pressured into drugs by your friend’s mom (also, did anyone take action towards the mom, later on? I think this slightly illegal to let kids take drugs?) and the fact that you know you need to make a positive change is the first big step! I know it’ll take time and there’s not much advice I could give. But I know you’ll get better!
The most common advice would be to replace a habit with another. I did that when I stopped smoking. I’d either chew gum or play a game or read or whatever else, but I think if it’s more time consuming, like a video game you just really get into, or a hobby like crochet or painting or whatever else, time could just pass while you’re enjoying yourself and soon it’s time to make dinner, then you’re getting ready for bed, that sort of thing, and there’s your day gone, doing different activities that bring you joy. And I know it’s hard to quit smoking… but it takes a while to break an addiction, and you gotta have a strong motive to really cling onto, and it seems like you have. Of course, therapy or “AA” type groups and things like that could also help if you’re really finding it very hard to quit.
I hope you break the addiction and I wish you all the best in succeeding! You CAN do it! So many people have done so many hard things, and with the right help and actionable steps, you will get there too ⭐️
It’s weed you are okay
Join a support group or read some online boards or groups for help if you’re serious about wanting to quit.
Just think, plenty of people have been in your situation before and and now don’t I dulge in either, so there’s definitely a lot of hope for you to cling on to.
Just chill and tell yourself you’re not missing out on anything by stopping, and if you don’t drink now for fear of becoming an alcoholic, then I wouldn’t start. 👍
Quit vaping. Drink on just weekends. Relax and be a normal 23 year old
Do you have a regular Doctor? I started smoking at 13. When I was in my Forties, a doctor thought going onChandix would help. It has side effects. I started, but I had IBS. I stopped. A few months later, I decided to try it again but increased the dosage much slower. I eventually woke up one morning and never thought about smoking. I was amazed. I quit. It is supposed to help with vaping. I have asthma now. My sister smoked years beyond me, and she has COPD. I went to a psychiatrist and a therapist. I also think their support was a big help. I am glad you are young and thinking about this now. The psychiatrist felt I could handle the side effects. There are mental side effects. I knew I couldn’t
I quit on my own. Bad habits affect us physically as we age. Smoking has always caused me stomach pain. Good luck.
You need will power, the only one stopping you is yourself.
I smoke weed everyday but I’m not addicted, I can take breaks when I feel like it n I don’t crave it. I travel to places where it’s illegal n I don’t bring it nor think about it.
I love acid, mdma, shrooms, would do em a lot n now im like meh, when i get the chance i still get em but definitely not addicted.
I used to do acid weekly n mdma for months every weekend. Different times of my life, dropped one picked up the other.
Now that I’ve had my fun, I can go back to em but I don’t crave em bc I’m gucci being sober n I’ve realized I don’t want to be addicted to substances that literally do nothing for me but make me feel awesome from time to time.
Idk, I’ve got shit to do lol maybe I don’t have an addictive personality but yeah
So many people saying this is fine and not to worry about it? Not a problem for everyone but it seems like it is a problem for you
One of the best ways to quit an addiction is having a person accountable for your addiction like a mentor. That might not be something you can do but if there is someone who has quit before or will be able to check in on you and your progress try that out. Might be extreme but they can drug test you once a month or something to make sure you are not lying about your usage. Again I know that is a bit much but a good way to hold you accountable if you are struggling a lot with quitting
Lol this is why I never did drugs “to look cool” bc drugs aren’t fucking cool. They literally teach you that in schools lmao