i met my Boyfriend here on Riddet i was 20 and he was 28 there is a lot of things between us like both of us like gamming both of us like Computer networking. One day we had a conversation about what makes me comfortable and what doesn’t. i said i don’t Like someone demand me to wear a women’s Underware while i’m having a sex cause i hate it he told me that is okay and he will never ask me for anything that makes me uncomfortable then in that night he said that he had some work in another city which is about 150KM or nearly a 93 miles and i told him that i’ll be waiting for him then he dissapeared he deleted his Riddet account, then he disabled his insta account leaving me with nothing
i don’t know what i did wrong to that guy to do this to me.
i confess that i couldn’t get over him and i really really found myself in him and i confess that i will not be waiting even tho it is hard to pretened that i don’t.
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By time, you can overcome this issue.
Get yourself busy or talk to someone who can listen to you like me:p
sometimes we dont get disclosures and we have to live with that. I know it will sound cliche but everything will be alright sweetheart
let yourself feel. process. mindset is half the battle. we’ve all been there in some way shape or form. you’ll get over this. it’ll take time. there’s not a set timeline for things. it sucks when you’re hurting. just take your time
I know it sucks right now, but time is the best healer in my opinion. Its gonna worse since he just disappeared, but you’ll eventually learn to find yourself and in someone else better. Someone who’s doesn’t just up and dissappear. I’m currently going through a heartbreak myself, and the one thing I always try to remind myself, is that I deserve better. I tell myself how’s there’s no point in having an ex live rent free in my head if they can so easily discard me. It’s difficult to process, but give yourself some time and space. Keep yourself busy. Use this time to find out who you are find a new interest, spend time with family and friends. But remember to take your time. You’ll get there eventually 🙂
I know this is easier said than done, but I would encourage you to prepare yourself for if he decides to try to contact you again. I think you are doing the right thing by moving on because he hurt you and ghosted you. If he tries contacting you again, stand your ground. Don’t let him manipulate you back in with the idea of the good times. Unfortunately I’ve fallen into that trap and it just fell apart a second time. You deserve to find a person who will not abandon you. There are plenty of others who will share your interests and treat you better. Best of luck
ngl if he was your boyfriend, I would consider him to be someone you’ve been with for awhile now. you’re telling me you only had one form of contact, and that was Reddit?
Try not to get emotionally involved with people you haven’t met in person yet. Getting ghosted or stood up hurts, but remind yourself there’s always someone else. There’s at least 8 billion people on the earth, you’ll find one. I feel like you’re pretty young so I’m gonna tell you something I wish I could tell younger me (I’m an elder millennial so there really wasn’t someone older and wiser to tell me this).
Online connections move faster than traditional connections because of the ease of communication. You can have what would equal a years worth of face to face interactions in a month online. It can build emotional investment way harder and faster than is natural or healthy.
A lot of times, this either doesn’t translate well to real life or it never makes it to real life. Back in the MySpace days I thought I had a great connection with a guy who lived 50 miles away. Back then meeting “strangers from the Internet” seemed dangerous so it took a bit to build up the nerve to meet. We couldn’t stand each other and it was VERY mutual. That actually became a bonding point 😂 we kept in touch online for years. High key wanted to fight the son of a bitch. 😂
But also, a lot of times people ghost last minute for whatever reason. A lot of times the reason is they’re planning on cheating with you and got caught. I’m 90% sure that’s what happened with my dick appointment last week. We talked, had excellent rapport, he seemed like he’d be super fun in bed. He booked a hotel halfway and I kept waiting for him to tell me when to leave to meet him there. His replies got further apart and then he cancelled. Id bet money some girlfriend or wife got suspicious and they had a blow up fight and I’ll never hear from him again.
I have online friends I’ve been close with for years and met in person, built great friendships with, but ive also learned online often doesnt translate well or at all to real life. Some people are just fronting and when it comes time to meet they ghost because their entire identity is a lie.
I’m sorry this happened and I hope me sharing helps..
What a fucked up world we live in…
Unfortunately in today’s society it is way easier to “ghost” people. The dealing with the abandoned heart is the hard part. I have a feeling that he wasn’t being completely honest with you. Maybe he has a wife and/or family he was trying to escape using you until he found out what he truly wanted. Not making excuses, just some people are like that. I believe if someone was with you for “x” amount of time and they just up and disappear it’s because either they have a secret to hide and you’re that secret. I just hope you see this as a life lesson and heal from it. The next bf shouldn’t be held accountable for the last guys actions.
Firstly cowards dont have a reason for cowardice other then fear.
Im going to tell you that you are worth an explanation.
What he did is disgusting and heartless, i am sorry that this happened to you.
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