For the past decade, I’ve been running workshops and classes that help people navigate everything from anatomy basics to building better communication in their relationships. Basically, I get asked all the weird, funny, and surprisingly deep questions that most people are too shy to bring up anywhere else.
Some fun tidbits from my work:
I’ve had to explain “the basics” to both teenagers’ parents and retirees.
Someone once asked me if a hot tub could cause pregnancy (spoiler: no).
People always want to talk about “toys,” but communication ends up being the real star.
I’ve seen grown adults mix up body parts in ways that make me wonder how they survived high school biology.
So… want to ask me something awkward? Go for it. Want to ask me something thoughtful? Even better.
(SFW only please. No explicit requests or NSFW pics, but cheeky questions are welcome 😅)
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How to last longer?
Have you ever had to coach a long-term / married couple where one partner was completely clueless and/or “terrible” at sex? How did that go?
I (32M) have been with my partner (28F) for 8 years. Intimacy has always been our biggest challenge. One of the things that I really struggle with is this: the more we dissect the process of and communicate in plain language about sex, the less appealing it is to me.
I had quite a bit of experience with other partners before we got together (not a flex, just a fact) while she had basically none. I find that having to talk it out, plan it, etc. takes away from the passion/excitement of the experience for me. I find myself craving that feeling of undeniable attraction that I felt in my past.
What should I do?
what is your educational background, what title to you hold to educate others?
I enjoy watching my bride with other men. Occasionally multiple men – how do we share our experiences to friends without it being awkward? She occasionally wears jewelry that’s an identifier for some of the alternative lifestyles we live but none of our close friends have picked up on the clues, need help.
Any way to get done faster. If I can get done in 20 minutes of piv we call that a quicky. Most times it’s 45 to an hr.
Is jerking off cheating?
Have you read Mating in Captivity and if so what are your thoughts on it?
I would like to learn how to lick pussy never done before , how would someone start?
When I found myself single after my divorce, I found that women I knew and women I met seemed much more open to discussing sex, desires, kinks etc once a certain comfort level with me was achieved. Where as most guys i knew wouldn’t dare admit to any type of kink, even when drunk.
Do you find that women open up more vs men? For reference, I’m a 47yo man.
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I love my partner very much and I don’t plan on ever leaving the relationship but I’m not attracted to him anymore. We got together when we were a lot younger and his appearance has changed quite a lot, as has my “type”. How do I move forward with this? Is there a way to make myself attracted to him again? We have kids and I want to grow old with him but I also want to have a good sex life while I’m still young(ish)
Is there such a thing as a comfortable dildo harness for a smaller body type? Buckles and straps are so uncomfortable to wear and hurt the partner as well.
Wow people will pay for anything haha
How do you see your job going with the presence of AI nowadays?
How to deal with frustration in a long-term relationship, where you are the one who always initiates sex? I’ve discussed this with her, but it has never really gone anywhere. Sex is good once we get it going (and 99% of the time we both climax), but it makes me feel that I am always demanding sex instead of it being an ”equal exchange”. It also eats at my confidence a bit (not being wanted etc).
That’s sounds like a super nice jobs and also rewarding. How did you get into this, like how did you learn about that? And do you have book recommendations?:)
I know one. Couple was wondering why they could not conceive. Tried counselling, went to the doctor, nothing was working.
Turns out the guy was penetrating the belly button. Their argument ? “Kids come from the stomach.”
Actual scenario described by my cousin doctor lolol.
How common is rim job?
What advice would you give to someone who wants to be intimate with someone but is terrified of being emotionally vulnerable and rejection?
i appreciate you teaching! i actually help out in my local community too in regards to intimacy. and i Totally get all sorts of weird questions but one that I have always struggled with is, what to do with that revelation about your partner in regards to let’s say fantasies. and how could someone stop identifying their partners from their fantasies( that can be something the other person may not accept) and to recognise them as humans with thier stories to tell?
My husband physically cringes when I try to kiss him, tell him I love him, get dressed up in lingerie etc. I know he loves me and he shows it in a multitude of ways. We have great sex. But it’s weird that you can see in selfies where I give him a kiss on the cheek and he’s got a face of disgust lol. Have you encountered something like this before?
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My partner only wants to have sex (at most) once a week. We generally have sex on the weekend, usually on Sunday nights. She also doesn’t like long sessions, and instead enjoys shorter ones. If it were up to me, we’d have sex more spontaneously and more than once a week. It’s been a serious point of contention between us for many years. It’s not always top of mind, but it does bother me from time to time. I feel like I’m the one making all the concessions in our relationship. Also, because we only have sex once a week if we miss a session it’s very frustrating as I know I’ll need to wait an entire week to try again. Coupled with the short sessions there’s so much pressure to enjoy the small time we do have sex, that I hype it up too much. Why doesn’t she want to have sex more? Is there anything I can do? Sometimes i feel so trapped by it. Thanks in advance for offering any advice or support.
Hi! I’m 39m married for 12 years, 2 kids 5 and 7. My wife (40 f) ends up going to bed early like 8pm most nights, we’re in a proper rut for what feels like a long time prob 2 years. I feel like she’s got zero interest in sex and I don’t know how to get it back. Feels like we’re co-workers living together raising kids. When it happens which is at best every 10 days or so, average every 2wk, biggest gap 2 months, it feels to me like she feels like she’s doing me a favour, more out of obligation. I’ve not changed physically since we met, still have good shape.
Is this an age thing? I try to touch her etc non sexually but she doesn’t really like it, even though when we talk about sex (almost never) she says it’s too much pressure and says I’m always only being affectionate because I want sex. What would you do in my situation? I can’t win, I’m so frustrated Which doesn’t help…
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Do you have any advice for a 26 year old female virgin who is kind of scared of sex? It’s a combination of feeling like sex is inherently demeaning for women (almost all heterosexual sex includes the act of the women being “penetrated”) and lack of openness when talking about sex and sexual topics with women in my life (leading to some feelings of shame/embarrassment about wanting or having sex)
Do you have any experience with students who have alexithymia? If so how does your approach differ? Thanks!
My wife had always believed she couldn’t orgasm. Then a vibrator conquered this limiting belief. That was 2013. Here we are 2025 and it hasn’t progressed as I would have expected. I feel she still doesn’t really know her body.
Now she doesn’t know how to get over the line to orgasm without thinking in terms of how things go with the vibrator. The goal is to orgasm without – something she hasn’t done yet.
She’s a busy mother but I think the “too hard basket” is a convenient way not to put in the work.
She says she gets the build up but her mind goes to frustration mode when it doesn’t tip over to orgasm (without vibrator). Then the sabotage thoughts kill her mood.
The hope is she would be open-minded to navigating when she hits this perceived ceiling. I can’t replicate sensations of a vibrator and I feel she’s wired herself to a particular pathway into orgasm.
On my part I am physically fit and can easily go 30 minutes in bedroom. I do all the work I might add. I try not put an environment of pressure on her feel but I dont think I can do anything else to help her navigate her thoughts. I totally get foreplay starts outside the bedroom and I try remain playful all day.
How have you coached clients tip over into orgasms without the use of vibrators? Help!
My wife and I have been together for 23years. Married for 15. Swingers for almost our entire relationship. We took a break (14 years) having two kids and now have become active again in seeking couples. This is after her exploring herself online for about a year with single guys(I’m ok with it and fully aware of everything) but nothing physically has ever devolved. We have found a like minded couple. We met a few weeks ago in person just to actually meet face to face. We have a group chat between all of us that is fun and flirty and full of innuendo but mostly focused on the two women. However the other women is open and honest about what she wants and expresses it. If I show any interest whether in the chat or to my wife directly she just turns off immediately. However the chat is really focused on my wife particularly as she is an exotic women and extremely sexy but if I show any interest at all opposite it becomes a conflict between us. This wasn’t ever a thing before and 14 years of nothing seems like we are on two different pages now despite all of our communication as to our wants and needs and commitment towards each other. Keep in mind that before she would go and explore by herself (I’ve never done that) also with my knowledge but now if I’m interested in anyway she shuts down. I’m struggling to not feel as if this isn’t about us but just about what she wants.
Oh I have one! I (female) and my husband have a hard time figuring out a comfortable angle with sex. Been married 6 years, have had 2 kids. But sec is never comfortable for me. We use plenty of lube. But it’s literally like it will not go in.