I (20F) found out that my boyfriend of 4years (21M) had a one-night stand. I didn’t confront him cause he would have somehow convinced me, he would have lied to keep me. I was already planning to just move on, but what’s really been bothering me isn’t the break-up—it’s what I did in response. It’s so out of character for me.
Last night, I ended up confiding in his best friend-i wanted to know if he had done this before. I didn’t expect full truth but atleast my bf would have known that know, i didn’t want to confront him.
One thing led to another, and he kissed me, i didn’t resist. He admitted he’d always had feelings for me, and the next thing we knew, we hooked up. This wasn’t a mistake ,I wanted it. I think I was just trying to numb the hurt, even if just for a moment. Did i use him? I don’t feel so.
I still don’t feel guilty about any of it..i am kinda happy if I am being honest-he might feel what i felt-if the bestfriend decides to be honest…I’m just really disappointed in myself for not handling things more maturely.
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You don’t have a soul, bro… but that’s okay. Someone’s gotta keep the lights on in hell. And rumor has it, the WiFi down there’s fire. 6G with No lag.
Yikes
You new 20 year olds are something else 😂, every post.
You two deserve each other..
You didn’t cheat. That FOUR YEAR relationship was over and he was the one who ended it the moment he had a one night stand.
What you did was morally grey, but what he did was black and white. You’re good, girl. I do recommend moving on with guys that won’t make you think of him every time you see them though.
Edit: I HIGHLY don’t recommend moving on with his friend. His friend just slept with his buddy’s ex/current gf. That man is not loyal either.
Gosh… so your boyfriend cheats and then you sleep with his best friend? Like, what even is that? I’m not trying to be judgmental or anything (haha sometimes it’s hard not to be though), but hooking up with his pal after he cheated seems like some crazy drama! As a woman myself, I get emotions can run wild during heartbreak. But maybe take time to reflect on how your actions could impact you and the guys involved in this mess? Just something to think about, figuring out what really matters in relationships (like respect and trust) is important
First off, fuck him for cheating on you. It happened and all you can do is move forward and take what you learned in this relationship with you. Even if yall didn’t finalize anything it sounds like the relationship was over as soon as you found out he cheated. Should you have talked to him first? Yes, but you didn’t and you had your reasons and there’s no going back. That said, take this as a learning lesson about communication. Honestly, tho his friend lowkey took advantage of you knowing you were in a fragile state of mind.
>This wasn’t a mistake ,I wanted it. I think I was just trying to numb the hurt, even if just for a moment. Did i use him? I don’t feel so.
Yes, you used the friend. Whether maliciously or negligently, getting over your ex by getting on top of his friend is using the friend.
honestly, i get it. was it the best decision? no. but you were also checked out of that relationship at that point. you’re aware it wasn’t the best choice, ik you don’t feel guilty, but don’t beat urself up about reacting immaturely, it happens sometimes. just forgive yourself and move forward babe
Meh, sex is sex. You got your emotions out. Only you can reflect on what you have done. If you feel bad, then oh well. If you don’t, then oh well.
You are gonna have a hell of a time ahead of you though if you solve every problem this way.