Tl;dr Right so long story short. I went to get tested at the GP two weeks ago as I suspected I had thrush. GP confirmed I have thrush and chlamydia. I lasted tested myself July 12 and the test was negative, my boyfriend tested himself 28 June and it was negative.
I know for a FACT I have not slept with anyone since then and he claims to not have slept with anyone else either nor had any oral sex. I really want to believe him but I cannot ignore the facts?
We both went to the clinic today got retested and also recieved medication for this, im so stuck on what to do now.
Initially my last thought was that he would’ve cheated but idk if I should be so naive… we’ve known eachother for 4 years and been together 4 months
I did just post this on another forum but not sure why it’s been taken down :/
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You CAN get chlamydia in a few ways that aren’t sexual contact, but they’re incredibly rare. I’m sorry, but signs point to him cheating.
You might want to ask him if he knows anyone/lives with anyone that could have chlamydia, though. One nonsexual way to get it is sharing things like towels/razors with someone whose got it. But, once again, that’s pretty rare.
He either cheated or didn’t take the first round of antibiotics correctly and regave you the infection
I’d go through his phone tbh. But honestly it’s nearly impossible that he contracted it non sexually
Well, one of you two is lying. You be the judge of that.
This is a really tough spot to be in, and your feelings are completely valid. It’s important to have an honest conversation with your boyfriend about the test results and your concerns.
He cheated.
Stop torturing yourself.
Sorry.
Youve only been together 4 months? It is very possible he had it for 4 months and didnt know.
It can lay dormant in your system. He probably got it before and was asymptomatic thus giving it to you. My boyfriend gave me gonorrhea. As a gay man, I never thought I would get a STI. I quizzed him and grilled him. He said he would never cheat, and I did not at first believe him until we went to the doctor’s.
He comes from a place where doctors will bribe or blackmail you if you are gay. Where he comes from you can be put in jail and daresay murdered. Then he told me, he had a bladder infection years before when he was dating his boyfriend at the time. He said there was discharge. He told his boyfriend, and his boyfriend said it was a bladder infection.
About five years later we met. He gave it to me three years into our relationship. The doctor said that he is willing to bet that’s what happened. I knew my boyfriend was telling the truth when he said he would take a lie detector test. I jokingly said let’s go. I drove back to our house and hugged him. I told him that any man who would want to take a test to prove he wasn’t cheating is an amazing human being.
He definitely gave it to you and as a man if a woman were to give me anything I would leave bottom line. Same thing applies to you. And as a man even if I were to cheat I would NEVER hit my side piece raw. This man is unhinged and nasty. But if you can handle this type of disrespect and want to continue the choice is yours.
Why would you both get tested in June/July if you’ve been together for a long time? Did you break up, or suddenly decide not to use condoms?
And if you did the finger-prick test, they are not always accurate.
Girl. you know what you need to do.
Have you come in contact with a koala bear, sheep, goat, or feral cats? They all carry chlamydia…
When did you get tested before that? Its possible that the tests that you’ve been using to swab yourself aren’t accurate and you could’ve had it this entire time
Hes lying my dude.
If he was bonking some woman on the 26th then tested 28th he might not show positive , but that means he was still cheating . Invest in a lie detector test, that will show some proof of lies are involved
You only mentioned symptoms 2 weeks ago….but you both tested before that.
Most monogamous couples don’t test unless they have symptoms, so why did you both test?
If you both definitely tested when you say you did (and have you seen his results?), then the mostly likely conclusion is that he cheated on you between July and a few weeks ago.
It’s possible he had a false negative on his previous test and he’s had it this whole time.
To be honest self testing is a very inaccurate way of testing, for example I self tested for Covid 6 times in two days and negative , and then got professional testing on second day and was positive , so don’t trust self testing .
Have you considered it was a false positive?
I had it for two years and didn’t know so I don’t think you should blame him
Either of you been hanging out with koala bears?
If you told him you had Chlamyidia and he didn’t get super angry at you for cheating then he 1000000% cheated. Leave the POS.
Definitely cheated leave him sorry girl if you dont next stop is an std !
He is lying to your face over and over again. Don’t buy his bullshit
Before going nuclear, I suggest learning a bit more about it. On low says, it becomes nearly untraceable. On top of that, certain methods are generally not as reliable.
Highest probability is cheating.
I had to google it and apparantly false negatives are quite possible for self tests, you can google the percentages as there are some different reported numbers but I was quite suprised by some of the numbers.
Just leave him bru like you alrdy got something from him. Next time it will be worse. Just leave and also don’t sleep with anyone without protection.
Don’t come to Reddit asking for advice. People on here fucking love drama and to make people think the worst case scenario. Trust your gut and get all the facts you can.
Test like these should always be done with a doctor that sends it out to a lab. Also a full panel should be done before you start a sexual relationship with someone and even if you’re with someone long term yearly panels should be done. One of you had to have gotten it somehow. It was either him or you. If it ain’t you then it’s him. And you need to dump him if that’s the case.