as the title states, i think my S/O might be a gay male? does anyone have any signs u can look out for other than that strange feeling i have?
(NSFW for this being a more sensitive topic)
please be kind in the comments!
i think he’s secretly gay?
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Ask THEM. Sexual orientation is certainly a discussion that partners should have together. Find out whst you’re into and whst they are into. Discuss limits, dealbreakers, pleasures and possibilities.
There are no sure-fire “signs” that every LGBTQ person displays. So – ask.
He might be lol heard lots of stories of gay men masking being straight there whole lives just because they are scared of being there true selfs
Can he get it up for you? Maybe he is bi.
What does he do that makes you think he’s gay? Because he likes your nipples?
Communicate to him. Maybe he’s bi. He married or started to date you for a reason. Also if you two are intimate and he enjoys it, he could also be bi. Had a friend way back who said she only liked the intimacy with the same sex but couldn’t see themselves in a relationship with the same sex. That’s possible too
No one’s really answering your question… but I will with my own experience.
I dated a guy a while back who was secretly gay. When I look back on our relationship there were things I now think were bc he was gay… 1: he never touched my vagina during sex. In the almost 2 years together. No eating me out, never fingered me. 2: he only really wanted doggy style. 3: he was a serial cheater. I was young and dumb and thought I’d be different. He cheated on every gf he had. With other women but I feel now looking back he wasn’t just being a shitbag he was trying to prove to himself he liked women.
My only signs I had were sexual. After he cheated on me the girl he cheated with.. he ended up cheating on her with a man. As far as I know he’s only been with men since.
What evidence do you have that he’s secretly gay?
Honestly if they are, and they’re not saying anything, they’re not ready to come out. My dad was seeing a guy for 5 years before he came out, and the only thing we, my family, could come up with as a “sign” was one time a gay dating page was in the browser history of our family computer (this was like 2003). I found it and attributed it to my gay friend who was house sitting earlier.
Is he bisexual? Just ask.
My advice would be ‘ask’ but I know being so direct can be unsettling so you can bring it up more subtly, talk about it in a conversational way.
I’ve thought about… don’t you think sexuality can be fluid? I’ve always wondered… how do you feel about it…?
I’m not so great with direct, but sometimes just opening the door for dialogue can allow someone to share or be open about something because they feel seen or safe. That’s my advice. Hope this helps!
As a generally straight dude who occasionally gets interested, I’d say just asking about preferences or maybe play a game of no judgment and exchange your funny kinks. I don’t exactly understand this NSFW tag but I feel like just looking for honesty without coming down on him sounds like a great move
I too am A-sexual lmao
Could be asexual… could be gay… could be anything.
> “Be kind”? You first. You’re the one scanning for signs, ready to make an accusation if you find the right clue.
If you think something’s off, have a conversation. But don’t treat someone’s identity like a puzzle to be solved behind their back.
Lol, id say maybe asking him. also if your insecure / feel unhappy in your relationship , COMUNICATE to your partner, there might be a deeper issue (idk sorry if this isnt helpfull)
You could just ask.
Stop looking for signs and communicate with your partner. It’s hard to be openly gay or bi as a man. Growing up, we’re the butt of every joke and we read the disgust on our fathers’ faces about gay men. If you’re even a tiny bit homophobic then you could be contributing to it.
OP is extremely mentally ill look at post history
Is he republican? Conservative? Hangs out alot with work buddies? watches UFC? blue collar? def gay if any of these apply.
So sad