so i’m 16, living with my mom. i’ve been doing house chores since i was 10 (not it’s a bad thing). i used do do the dishes when i couldn’t properly reach the sink and ect ect. my mom always yells at me if the house isn’t clean till noon. she literally freaks out. it’s so tiring and it’s been happening as long as i remember. so yesterday i was on my period and had cramps, so i kinda hesitated cleaning the house. IT WAS 12 PM. my mom starts yelling and i yelled back ,, oh i’m sorry that i have cramps”. she yelled that i couldn’t have that bad of craps that i couldn’t make a bed. and that annoyed me so much and i kinda spat not even, like i meant fck this. coz of this my mom thought i spat on her(which i didn’t) and now she is giving me silent treatment and is telling me that she might never forgive me this. i tried to explain but didn’t work. don’t get me wrong i love my mom but i couldn’t take it anymore. what shoud i do, someone help me.
I think i kinda fcked up
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Try to explain your mom again and again. Try do things as much you can. If you get pain tell her, and if she doesn’t listen you can’t do nothing i guess. Tell your father about it, maybe he could help with that. Any other family member you trust, ask them. Things can work and your relationship with mother would definitely improve. Hoping to a speedy recovery to you.
If this helps a little also, happy to contribute to your life đ
If i was in this situation, i would allow the silent treatment and just wait for it to die down (depending on how much ur mom holds grudges im not too sure) and after that I would try to talk to her and if she chooses to not listen, thats fine. Its not the end of the world but it might be easy for me to say because i dont know the entirety of u and ur momâs relationship. But after explaining that u didnt spit on her, u should explain how youâre not getting younger, youre becoming a young adult and need time for yourself some times. Id say 16-18 years old is somewhat a stressful milestone of adolescence. As of now, i know youâre learning and becoming a young adult but i want your mother to know that you cant always ways spotless and perfect everyday. All this may sound bs, i think it is idk tho. ive gotten silent treatment before but never really fully grasped a way to manage it. I would always isolate myself and js feel guilty when deep down, i wasnât. I just wanted freedom to myself without being seen as a âslack offâ You may feel heavy chested, but its not the end of the world. Im not saying this as a way to put âyoure dramaticâ no not at all, im saying that you probably wont even remember this in 10 years or wont put it to heart. Theres no way of fcking up when youâre only 16, you have many things coming uour way
You gotta start breaking free little by little. Try talking it out once,if she doesnât want to let it go its her fault.
Most momâs have developed a superiority complex,You just have to rebel against them little by little
Iam not advising you guys to talk back or yell at them if youâre at the wrong Iâm just asking you to stay at your ground when itâs thier fault.
definitely talk to her whilst youâre both calm and explain the situation from your point of view. there should deffo be better division of labour if cleaning the house is dependent on you alone, especially when youâre suffering from a natural phenomenon – cramps. if talking to her gets you nowhere try and talk to other family members but not in a way where youâre trying to escalate and blow the matter up. hope this helps!!
Your mom overreacted, and the silent treatment isn’t fair. Let her cool off for a bit
Move out
Leave her alone. Come back when you feel better.
put your side of things in writing