I think I overreacted?
I (F25) was talking to this guy (M22) I matched on hinge for a week and he was very keen to see me.
So keen that I moved things around to have Saturday off to meet.
He had planned a picnic date which I found so sweet. FYI we texted every day all the time.
Anyway, I wanted to double check if our date on Friday evening for Saturday was still on and he postpone it to Sunday because he forgot about his friends birthday.
I said, that’s fine with me but if he’s just not interested to just tell me as I respect his time and mine and then he told me a day later that he has too much going on in London with graduation and everything and that we could keep texting until August when he comes back home from London.
I said sure
I wished him a happy graduation week 2/3 days later with in which he responded: Hey. Thank you. Very sweet of you. It was yesterday. Went well :)”
And he said l looked cute on my stories.
Anyway… I told my coworker about this and she said “ no matter how busy someone is if they have time to pop on instagram to watch your story then they have time to drop a text. Plus, if he planned to see you in August it’s only fair he keeps up the effort to talk to you until the date” she told me to remove him both as a follower and following and move on and I did.
I’m kinda regretting it because what if he was genuinely busy and I was just being dramatic?
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You didn’t unfriend him
Sometimes we have time to see story while walking and may be he was genuinely busy
It sounds like you haven’t even met and he blew you off after making imaginary plans. In future, don’t invest emotionally in someone who you have not met, especially if they have been unreliable. Sure, he could just be busy. But it’s not good for you mentally to hang out and give so mu ch of your energy to an idea of a person who hasn’t shown up in any real way.
As a much older person, a lot of men live to text and never meet for various shady reasons. He can reach out if he wants to. Move on.
Wait he postponed your date twice?
No you didnt overreact! Sure we can see a story and not have time to respond… however…. he had time, he had time to be online dating, I bet he still has time to be on hinge… he just lost motivation in dating YOU. Sometimes I think maybe it was the thrill of the chase.
If his intentions were genuine then the burden of staying in contact till August is on him. The guy should take the initiative. Not that women can’t but it’s typically expected the guy would. He postponed yes but also gave you reasons that you have no reason to doubt. But him postponing dates way into the future and not being in contact to make up for the lack of in person connection is not a good sign
You really did a number on yourself there. I mean, one minute you’re all excited for a date, next thing you know, he’s MIA and you’ve unmatched him. But hey, we’ve all been where you are, knee-deep in self-doubt. Thing is, even if he comes crawling back, ask yourself: do you really want someone who can’t even keep up a simple conversation? Remember, actions speak louder than words. So, what’s stopping you from giving him another chance?