My fiance and I had his best friend over for dinner and drinks this past Saturday. We have all been friends since senior year of college (we all attended the same school. My fiance and his best friend lived together for 2 years).
We all hang out regularly usually at our house or sometimes at his apartment. I know him and my fiance talk regularly about normal guy stuff. My fiance and I are getting married this summer and have been dating for 6 years. He’s a great guy, he’s loyal, makes a decent living, and we get along well. We have our problems, like any couple.
Saturday night his friend came over and we were all having our normal fun drinking and playing games. We were all fairly drunk and making our usual jokes which tend to get a little sexual. When he got up to use the bathroom my fiance asked me if I’d be interested in having a threesome that night with him involved. He said it was something they had discussed before (and it is also something my fiance and I have talked about prior as well, just not with his best friend).
I agreed, and we mentioned it to him when he got back. He agreed and later that night the three of us had sex.
I cannot express enough that I love my fiance. But since that night I cannot get his friend out of my head. Without going into detail, he was better at sex, bigger, made me finish which is something I can struggle to do, and the two of them together were by far the greatest sexual experience of my life.
Now – I have not stopped thinking about him, and the two of them together. My fiance and I haven’t had time to talk about it because of Easter and then work. But I am worried that I won’t enjoy being with my fiance sexually because of this experience. Thank you for listening. I wanted to get it out of my head before my therapist hears about it Thursday…
(And yes this is a throwaway account and some details have been changed to remain anonymous)
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One of the rules of a threesome is make sure it is someone you don’t know.
This is exactly why they say never to include someone you know in the relationship. It has way too much chance to backfire it would be one thing if it was random guy but it’s your fiancé’s friend which is going to make everything so much more complicated.
Ah the old slippery slope
What games were you playing? Just curious.
Focus on the actual relationship. You said it yourself you love him and it’s a good relationship. Do not ever do this again!
Oh girl, I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this. I don’t have any firsthand experience with this whatsoever, but I’d like to pose a question:
Do you love and trust your partner?
If so, talk to him. I would absolutely advise against telling him a word about comparing him to his friend, but I think it would be good to express your discomfort about the situation. If you both had fun, maybe set some boundaries (including nobody you guys are personally close to) if you’d like to do it again.
I could imagine it was something new, different, and exciting. It sounds like you had fun and that’s not a crime. It’s someone you both trust, which is cool.
You’ve been together for 6 years and are stable enough to go into this experience together. Maybe you could use this to improve your sex life! I know therapy is a few days away, but try not to dwell on it too much. Your feelings are new and valid. If this is the only issue you have, try some new things to spice up your life together. You’re in a good spot.
Again, definitely DO NOT go into this conversation comparing him to his best friend if you would like to stay together.
Reminds me of an another story very similar to this one. BF, GF, and BF bestfriend had a threesome. Best friend ended being far better as sex than BF and he noticed it because she was making sounds he’s never heard her make. It got so bad BF just stepped away and let them finish.
I don’t want to be an asshole but the truth is if that’s how you feel after the threesome then your relationship died with the first kiss. If you talk to him about it at all, he will know that you thought it was better. If he’s been with you that long he’ll know that you came from dude fucking you and there’s no way he doesn’t know dude is bigger. You will hold it against him that you aren’t able to get what you want anymore. So my advice is either walk away from him and let him find someone that loves him for all of him or you lie to yourself the rest of your life.
You know a lot of times the person you marry isn’t your best sexual experience. My wife wasnt mine but I didn’t marry her for the sex. I married her for the whole package she brought to our relationship.
You have a lot of options here. But what do you really want to do? Dump your bf for a guy that got you off? Have you ever considered upping your bedroom experience with your bf by being honest and talk about how your intimate times could be even better?
I guess i don’t understand how you think your relationship is ruined? Are you just that shallow?
And once again another relationship is scuttled due to opening up to sex with others…. When will people learn….
I have a funny feeling your fiancé has not stopped thinking about either. If you enjoyed it that much, he, more than likely, noticed. There’s no way he didn’t take into account your facial expressions, sounds, and/or body movements. Unless, you’ve been faking with him the whole time and pretending his actions resulted in the same results his best friend gave you.
If the friend was better at sex, sit back and think about what did he do specifically. I’m not going into the whole he’s bigger thing because I’ve learned when a man knows what he’s doing, that really doesn’t matter. So, figure out what the friend did and help lead/guide him in the direction that left you feeling the same way his best friend did. Was the friend more passionate? Was he a little bit more rough? Did he angle himself a certain way inside of you? Did he play with any other part of your body parts while thrusting? Obviously, best friend didn’t need any instructions on how to “play you” to hit the right notes, and that’s great. However, boyfriend may be a whole different matter, and DOES need instructions. That’s completely fine. So, tell him and/or show him.
But PLEASE don’t go and do something stupid like disrespecting him, yourself, or the relationship and cheat with the best friend. Not saying you would definitely cheat–it’s just that we’ve come across plenty of stories on here that resulted in that exactly happening.
Your relationship is fucked lmao
These are my favorite posts.
How about a scenario/night with one of your bff’s to ‘even’ things out?
Your fiancé fucked around, next comes the finding out 🤦♂️
Posts like these amaze me with how little people actually know about themselves, before diving into potentially relationship destroying acts
Threesomes and opening a strictly monogamous relationship often leads to issues and can destroy relationships. Because it’s all great as a fantasy, but that seriously changes when it becomes a reality. Especially when you haven’t set clear rules and boundaries. It also can become a truly bigger problem when you invite a friend into it. This is someone you will have to see and interact with going forward. There is no avoiding them. It cannot only ruin the relationship, but the friendships as well.
Seems you need to discuss some things with your fiancé. I don’t mean to discuss that he did it better or was bigger. Bring up his size and you for sure won’t have a fiancé, that’s a hard one to come back from for most men. Maybe direct him to do things his friend did that you enjoyed. Tell him that you enjoy your sex life, but also that you’d like him to try some new things. If you love your fiancé, and want to plan a future YOU need to deal with your feelings over the encounter.
Your fiancé and his friend talked about it beforehand so it was planned. Getting drunk and waiting until you were drunk was also likely part of the plan as I doubt completely sober you would’ve said, yeah ok, let’s do it. Keep this in mind. In MMF threesome where the guys are straight, it’s all about the woman. You were the centre of attention and that is a powerful experience. You can discuss everything with your fiancé and establish some rules and boundaries going forward; but let me tell you, feelings don’t follow rules and boundaries. Buckle up for a roller coaster ride of them.
Fuck around (literally) and find out.
Good luck, I don’t see your relationship surviving this based on what you wrote here. May even ruin their friendship itself if your fiance ever hears this. I don’t feel bad for him though considering he didn’t just agree, he proposed it.
What made him better? Specifically?
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The “bigger” part will fuck with him more than anything else.
You guys broke the most important rule of a threesome… never do it with someone you know.
Updateme
End the relationship. This going forward isn’t the same relationship. The terms & expectations have changed.
That will do it. It’s on the top 5 list.
Your relationship is likely cooked.
Have you and your fiance had sex since? I think that’s a really important part of the after care.
How did you leave things with the friend? Did he stay over?
You guys fucked up big time
Another marriage ruined by a threesome imagine that
Yeah you ain’t gonna be getting married in six months with you now fetishising the BF.
FAFO. Learn from this to do better in your next relationship.
Why in the world would you do it with his best friend?? Like, dang, common sense?? Never have a threesome with someone you know and will constantly see. That’s asking for issues and now you have them.
Sticking my dick where another dude just exited (or cream-pied). I can’t imagine asking my SO to EVER be part of that.
Before you haters interject…and know you’ll downvote me to hell. IDGAF. I am confident, happily married and on the above average size.
That’s one of the possibilities when engaging in something like this. And one of the problems when the third person is a close friend.
Look, trying to rationalize this. Not saying the guy was not good and well endowed. But the friend was the “new” thing, so obviously everything involving him has this added component that makes it “better” , more “exciting”… I would try and focus on the overall experience, meaning it was great because both of them were there.
Idk if telling your fiance, “I can’t get your friend out of my head because he was so good” is something that’s going to be well received. Idk, I am not a guy but reverse the roles and you tell me.
Maybe put some distance between you and best friend for a while?
You definitely ruined your relationship.
>he was better at sex, bigger, made me finish
Every man’s worst nightmare.
If you don’t tell your fiancé, you’re lying by omission and it will severely damage your relationship. If you do tell him, you have to be prepared for the consequences.
Unfortunately I think you’re damned if you do damned if you don’t here. The vast majority of dudes would be super insecure and jealous after something like this especially since the dude has eyes and probably noticed you enjoyed yourself more and that his friend was bigger. Idk your bf but I’m willing to bet he’s a regular dude and this is going to affect him as such. Hope yall can figure it out
Dump the fiancé and get with the friend. It’s usually how this ends, might as well just speedrun it.
Thrupple?
I’ve never heard a story where a threesome turns out good for the couple
“Don’t shit where you eat” should apply here lmao. Involving your fiancé’s best friend is a wild choice
What did you fucking expect? 😂🤣
Idk how people keep falling for these posts. This is CHATGPT, the amount of “fiance” gave it away and the ending was predictable. Whoever posts these stories for shits and giggles needs to find god 😭
Another post affirming that bigger is better and size definitely matters. Don’t listen to the lies gentlemen
Keep in mind- new sexual experiences CAN be more arousing ESPECIALLY if you feel sexually safe with the partner and or partners. You have known both men for years and felt comfortable enough to have a threesome off the bat (yes, you and your bf talked about it BUT without him and your BF talked about it with him, but never the three of you before this night).
Given that there is a good chance you were experiencing arousal out of the normal with just you and your BF- it would feel more fantastic and be easier to get off. Don’t let the chemicals fool you into thinking the intimacy and longevity with your BF is necessarily less satisfying. The experience of a threesome alone- if it is something you thought about, fantasized about and were ready for- is enough to arouse you moreso than usual. Chemicals and hormones play a huge role in this as well. Be careful the rose colored glasses aren’t on surrounding this experience.
If you went one on one for 6 years with your fiancés best friend, is there a chance the sex would still be amazing? It was a one time thing so far. And is losing your fiancé worth it over finding out?
This relationship is over. I hope it was worth it. He made you climax faster because it’s was new. If your boyfriend reads this he will be destroyed. He pushed it so he is to blame as well. He FAFO! Go be with the other guy and when it gets boring with the new guy, maybe can offer a threesome and you’ll move on.
man cucked himself, impressive.
Pandora’s Box is undefeated.
This is why I don’t do threesomes lmao I’m self aware enough to know I’m nuts
I am actually surprised your fella went BBG on this, usually it’s the other way around. Are these two Bi? You may not have ruined anything if that’s the case.
You are still flying on the high of it. These are the best 3 ways for everyone, dudes are just usually too insecure to realize that and have the 2 girls thing like its a king of the mountain deal. I have had many bizarre sexual encounters in my life, I swear they are drawn to me. If there is a dude who wants to watch another dude fuck his wife, they will find me somewhere.
If theyare Bi, there may something bigger here to keep an eye on. These two might be snuggling up and the boyfriends friend might be making a play on your man. Weddings and shit kind of have a way of making people run hail Marys when they are going to lose their Reggie. This might not be as much of your bf idea as much as the bff convincing your bf. This is the way they go about putting wrenches in things.
I wouldn’t sweat it unless your man is sweating it. I have been the biggest dick in the bed, and the biggest dick in the head numerous times. All that size queen shit doesn’t mean anything, if the person moves in the right direction and rhythm that someone else does, magic happens regardless. If your dude is straight, he’s a keeper that motherfuckers got some cajones. I don’t know many dudes that would come out the gates swinging like that with their missus and homie.
Ah the story old as time. It never ends well.
Why not another threesome with your best friend to even things out
Dear Reddit. I used to smoke pot but my friend sprinkled some white powder on it. Now I’m a heroin addict. I love pot though! What should I do?
You fucked the best friend who might be his BEST MAN at y’all’s wedding??? Come on gang
Man, Chasing Amy was such a good film and I haven’t watched it in a while.
Got the ole 2 for one special.
But no seriously. If you’re willing to go about this like a respectful human maybe mull over polyamory or some sort of open relationship/swinger lifestyle.
Y’all are engaged and there is a Lot Of potential for weirdness, discomfort, and high emotions. But if you’re willing to communicate and listen when communicated with and are willing to both set and respect others set boundaries then idk man maybe u just scored the jackpot. It won’t be easy At All but u already took the first step. And it seems like he’s into sharing too. Could be worth exploring
sigh. a tale as old as time. jesus fucking christ find a mate and STICK TO THEM
Stay with your fiancé. NO issues at all. Yes you’re lusting over the other guy which is normal after he served up that big good sausage special, but there’s most def a lot of things that wont most likely wont allow you to align with him long term like how you do your fiancé.
Sounds like your husband gets turned on by you getting F’d by other men. Keep your husband just let him know how you feel.
Why tf did you guys think that was a good idea lol
Lol, did your fiancé use his friend to get rid of you?
My ex wife and I had a threesome with my best friend when we were still dating and in our late teens. Little did I know, she started thinking exactly how you are thinking now. We got married. We had kids. Never had another threesome again. Years went by. After the kids she drew away from me sexually. I cheated. She left me for my best friend. They lasted all of six months.
I believe we all regret that night, all three of us. It was, without a doubt, the beginning of the end for all of us. We all hate each other now.
take a shot every time “my fiance” appears written in this post
Tsk tsk
Bad news all around, check on those deposits. It will never work with either of them ever again.
I truly hope this is fake which I highly suspect it is but if it is not know that You did ruin it and i hope when you break up that your fiancés best friend is actually a true best friend and will not enter into any type of relationship with you.
Are you sure he specifically made you finish? Or was the environment just more exciting than usual leading to the finish?
Reddit LOVES to advise that a relationship is done for. They might be right, but there’s no reason to assume that yet. Imo, your BF will absolutely know how much you enjoyed yourself and it’s obviously something you’re all into and have talked about before, so there’s an inherent openness that you can work with. Just be chill and honest with him about how you felt, that you loved his friend’s moves etc and actively try to bring some of that into your relationship moving forward. You might be surprised how easeful it can be… A lot of the distress that leads to separations in these kind of situatons is caused by attaching to the idea of what should or shouldn’t be, or assuming new feelings are unacceptable, rather than just letting go and accepting what is. The dynamic changed when you had your threesome and your only real option is to mindfully adapt together.
Hahahah idiots. And women say we’re crazy for thinking that they are always comparing men. Exhibit A:
It’s over in the long run.
His best friend definitely wanted to smash and used the threesome as an excuse
I can’t believe me banging a other guy has made me question my commitment to my fiance.
How many times have we heard this.
When are yall going to realize that threesomes never work out
Where did they finish? lol we all wanna know
No matter what, that fiancee is going to be CRUSHED.
There is ZERO chance you guys make it to marriage
You know what we don’t see posted on these subreddit very often?
“Me and my SO had a threesome and now we’re closer than ever”
Stop. Having. Threesomes. with your long-term/serious relationship. 🤦🏻♀️
May this love never finds me 😂😂
Yeah you have ruined it, but you had help doing it. I will never understand couples that risk their relationships for threesomes or open relationships, especially if you start out as monogamous
The novelty of the act paired with it being so taboo plays in to the experience. You and your finance need to talk about this together. Not all hope is lost
I think you should wait to talk to him until you’ve talk to your therapist. It has only been a couple days and you are riding the high of an exciting new experience and just sleeping with someone else for the first time in years. I doubt it was the friend in particular that got you off so well. More likely the excitement of being the center of attention between two guys and the taboo aspect of it.
This will complicate things as you’re going to have to see the friend again. You need to find a way to separate the experience from the friend or I’m afraid you’re going to be tempted at the slightest opportunity and may try to cheat on your fiance.
What I find most concerning is that you now think you won’t be able to get off with just your partner anymore. That could be the death knell of the relationship and it’s so unfair to him. Did you think your fiance was good in bed before this? Really think about what specifically you enjoyed. If it isn’t something he can do on his own, consider incorporating toys.
If you are able to work through this, you now know that a threesome isn’t something that will do your relationship any good.
Updateme
Never believe them when they tell you size doesn’t matter
It was a foursome.. Cos your relationship also got f*ck3d
i don’t think ive ever seen one story about a threesome be positive. pls really think long and hard before doing something like that or opening your relationship
Another marriage ruined by a 3 some, who would’ve thought (literally anyone who uses their brain.)
Don’t get married, your relationship has changed and is probably over. Threesomes are a bad idea.
This is fake and OP is probably a virgin
Honestly I have no words for this. Does great sex with your fiancés best friend over power your feelings for the man you want to marry? If not forget about him and discuss how sex could be even better between you and your fiancé.
Your relationship is fucked lol
Ew
Game over
Insert 25c to try again
I feel like I’ve read the same post 100 times.
Haha oooooh boy. This seems like a fishy ass post, but if not; You fucked around. Now you get to find out.
Congratulations on potentially fucking up several different relationships here. Not only yours and your fiancés, but now if it causes issues, your fiancé will most likely lose a tight knit connection with what was supposedly a long term friend.
Well, that was a dangerous door to open. Thing is, your relationship is more than just sex. Play it cool and you may get to have sex with him from time to time and the new will wear off.
I have a hard time believing this is real but if it is your relationship died long before this threesome
If sex with someone else is all it takes for you to second guess your relationship with your fiancé, def don’t get married in 6 months.
Updateme
Couldn’t talk about our pre-marital threesome debacle, because, you know, Easter. That’s some top tier Cafeteria Catholicism.
ALSO….. it might just feel that he was so much better because you were mentally turned on as well because of the situation. Try to just let it go and take it for what it was, just a good time. You also shouldn’t fuck friends. AND it’s a good thing to do lots and lots of talking about boundaries and such before having a threesome.
Honestly threesomes are never the move.
Yeah you’re right…you ruined it. You all did. He’s your fiancé best friend so there’s no avoiding seeing him again. There will be CRAZY sexual tension between you two now. It will eventually happen again with his friend…no doubt about it. You may even end up with his friend. But this triangular friendship is over. If your fiancé really really loved you he wouldn’t dream of sharing you with anyone. Plain and simple. Sorry to hear but there is no way back from this just downhill.
Plot twist – their fiance is thinking the same thing and ready to burn it all for starting the new romantic relationship w their best friend
I didn’t read your post. Absolutely 0 offense intended.
I just wanted to say: the title alone, conceptually, reads like the BINGO ‘Free Space’ for ending a relationship.
Well if you keep the fiance you will always have the best friend. Sounds like you get the best of both worlds.
It can be the new thing that excited you.
Always makes me smile when two stupid people find each other 🥰
It’s almost like if you had subbed to this subreddit you’d have seen the writing on the wall every single week that this shit gets reposted
Never involve a friend, people pretend they don’t know this, they do. They KNOW. but they all seem to love the drama from the fallout
Lol, a bag of rocks has more common sense than OP, OP fiance, and fiance best friend COMBINED.
Nothing like Easter and the risen Lord, getting in the way of your threesome talk. I hate when that happens.
I don’t see why this would break your relationship. You’re infatuated with something new and shiny. Sex only gets you so much. You’re fiancé I’m sure isn’t terrible at sex, since you’ve been with him all these years, even when the friend was in the picture.
In polyamorous relationships, this could be new relationship energy. But since y’all are monogamish, It can be confusing. I say allow yourself to have those thoughts as a fantasy you can call upon when you’re with your fiancé, but don’t actually act on anything that breaks your relationship’s boundaries.
As far as him being better, it could also be the taboo of it being your fiancé’s best friend and having your fiancé watch. Maybe you’re into cuckholding.
Maybe start steering your fantasy into that territory rather than it being about the best friend himself. His luck!
Unfortunately y’all relationship is changed forever.
Welp, I’m sure it sounded like a bullet proof plan, what could go wrong?
A quick reddit search would tell you a break up and your fiance ending up hating his friend. That’s of course after you talk to him because honesty is important in a relationship. You tell him everything, and if the jealousy doesn’t drive him away, the new found insecurity will linger and pick at him for the next 5+ years. But after all the smoke settles, like a week, you can bang the friend who isn’t emotionally available.
Good luck, try to avoid this catastrophe, and pick your next move wisely.
Your post could be real, but I do find it funny it’s always the love of their lifes best friend with the magnum dong in these situations with out no second thoughts of the possible fall out.
Devil’s Advocate here…
Your fiancee had more than likely seen his buddy’s junk if they were in sports together. Bigger guys tend to show it off more and sports teams shower after practice. So, it was more than likely that it wasn’t a surprise to your fiancee that you woud notice his buddy was bigger.
And if it was me, I would NEVER want my GF or fiancee to cum on a buddy’s cock if I knew my buddy was bigger. No way Jose…
Penis envy is real…
So I’m thinking your fiancee was open to you having a threesome because he’s not sure about marrying you. And having a threesome was the last bit to make him sure he doesn’t want to marry you. The fact that you’d be helping him call it off because you’re obsessed with his buddy’s junk helps him…
Am I crazy?
Another relationship does a fiery death.
ChatGPT or not, I loooooove these threads. It pretty much always ends badly.
Hii, please post an update! Thank uu
I’ve (M56) been doing threesomes with a couple of my best friends for about 20 years. Haven’t had any problems, but I’m here to say this:
Your guy and his bestie have surely done 3ways before in college. Highly doubt it was their first time together with a girl. In fact, I bet they planned the evening that way. And even if ur guy didn’t admit it before, maybe he was afraid to share thinking u wouldn’t like it if he had before.
He saw u digging the friend, so flirt around the subject carefully. It will come up in your sex for sure. I’ve talked dirty to a couple of girls about DP after 3ways and the girls like the talk, gets them hot and have usually been game for more after first experiences.
I’m doing very good downstairs, but prob wouldn’t bring a bigger act in to help out. But you’ll know from talking to him. If he doesn’t wanna bring it up then he didn’t like it and regrets even.
If he wants to talk about it or brings it up himself, then he’s cool with it, you just need to figure out how he can get you off too.
During sex soon, just say “I can’t believe i was with you both” and see how he reacts. If he’s up for dirty talking about it, then he prob likes the fact you enjoyed his friend.
Man I wanna hear how this turns out!
Good luck!
Your fiance is not ” the one” He asked you for a threesome. So you’re obviously not the one. I’m sorry but, y’all are having fun. You’re not ready and he isn’t either
About 8 years ago, me, my husband and best friend had a threesome. I wanted to do something fun and spontaneous for my husband’s bday. My best friend was hesitant but agreed as a favor to me. My best friend is absolutely gorgeous, great body and face. I would consider myself as someone who is very attractive as well, she does have a better body than me IMO. So my husband did not hesitate at all. They had been around each other lots of times in the years before this and have since been around each other lots of times since the threesome and it is not weird or awkward at all. My friend has even said how she kind of forgets it even happened. I should mention, it’s helpful that my husband is not my friends type at all and same thing with my husband, although she is beautiful, my friend is not my husband’s type either. We have been married for 12 years and everything is fine in the marriage. My friend and I hang out regularly, like once a week and our friendship is fine. No hard/weird feelings about the threesome from any of us.
You should talk to your fiancee about it. Maybe don’t specify the fact he was bigger, because that’s a really easy to fuck up conversation I imagine. But maybe communicate what he could be doing better in the bedroom
“Size doesn’t matter” 💀
Obviously, you gotta plan a threesome with an absolute baddie to level the playing field.
Jokes, I think it’s probably more stressful because there hasn’t been a debrief and it sounds it took this experience to realize how underwhelming your sex was with your guy maybe has been. And valid, and until that’s addressed and it’s satisfying for you both as a pair, I wouldn’t do another. There are so many things to try before bringing another person in that can help improve intimacy in your relationship! Ways with lower stakes that can also improve communication. Etc/ Silly but fun exercises. Raw communication. I used to “up, down, left, more pressure” my man real bad.
Spoiler alert: you won’t enjoy your fiancé again.
That’s why you don’t open your relationship or go on 3sums when you’re already too invested. The chance you find someone better/hotter isn’t small and you’ll be ruining something great you 2 had.
That’s also why you should marry someone who satisfies you sexually, amongst other things…
0 days without a relationship ruined by a threesome
described your fiance as a great guy who makes money that you get along with, yeah its over lol
Yikes. Prayers up to your fiancé. About to lose his future wife and his best friend
Plot twist your fiancé can’t stop thinking about his best friend 😂