Keeping things intentionally vague because I know they use Reddit. I’m staying with a family member and their husband. We were supposed to have a night of drinking and board games/video games. I drank a lot but was still very clear and aware.
My family member said they were going to sleep. The husband wanted to stay up and keep playing the video game we started. I was having fun and thought I was safe and okay and that we had a family like connection.
However, he began touching himself out of nowhere. I can’t explain my reaction but I was shocked and kept looking forward as he did so even though I saw what was going on. I felt like I had to keep talking to him normally to diffuse the situation and when I got the courage up I said I was going to bed. He said he’d go get me an extra blanket and when he stood up, he was fully hard.
I do not know what to do. I am dissociating and scared. I feel like if I say anything, it will be blamed on my drinking or their drinking. However, I was fully cognizant and knew exactly what was going on and it seemed like he was as well. This would also blow up my close family members’ family completely I know. I’m so lost on how to handle this. I just know I can’t avoid this because I will have to associate with them eventually. I’m at a loss for words truly. I’m even gaslighting myself that it didn’t happen and that I drank too much even though I saw it very clearly.
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OP, you NEED to tell his wife. That behavior is so fucking disgusting and vile. If she lashes out at you, don’t take it personally, and it’ll definitely be hard not to. But you would uproot the trust in their relationship. If she tells you to keep your distance, respect that. If she doesn’t, distance yourself from him, at least if possible.
God, I’m so sorry you had to go through that OP. Men can be so fucking vile, and they shouldn’t be able to get away with it.