Well here goes… I’ve been talking to a younger woman online for a while now. We’ve never met, never seen each other’s faces, but I’ve gotten completely wrapped up in her. I’ve bought her clothes, sent her daily coffees, and now I even hear about her sex life with other men. Honestly, it feels like I’m giving more than I’m getting in return, but I can’t help it. For some reason I’m actually starting to really enjoy it sexually.
I know to the outside world, this would probably look really pathetic but the more she shares with me, the more I crave it. It’s like I’m stuck in this one-sided dynamic, and even though I’m not getting much back, I can’t stop. I never thought I’d be into this, but now I feel like I’m falling deeper without even realizing it.
I don’t know what’s going on or where it’s going, but I just needed to get this off my chest, so here I am confessing.
Any advice?
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What exactly are you asking ?
Bro this is so bad for you stop it!!!!! Like stop it NOW! its an addiction like gambling but at least with gambling you have the chance to actually win
Bro you are turning into a pathetic simp
Plus she is entertaining you and giving up time to do so. She deserves compensation 😎
There’s real women out there who will be all that for you AND love you back. This is not worth it in the long run
It doesn’t sound pathetic at all, it sounds human. You’re craving connection, and sometimes we find it in places we don’t expect. Just remember: you deserve reciprocity too. If it feels like you’re pouring yourself out without being refilled, it might be time to step back and ask if this is feeding you or draining you.
Probably a dude. Not healthy long term but you do you
r/quittingfindom
Get out there, and get offline. There are real women who are interesting and worth talking. Becoming friends with and maybe more.
Go join some after work/school activities that bring you in contact with other people. Get to know some, and see what develops.
Paying money for gifts and to talk, chat or whatever in some strangers life.
Is not a life.
Nothing to be ashamed of here. Power and control are super common things people like to experiment and play with in a sexual / kink setting.
I get off to imagining / hearing about my partner with other people. Why? I have absolutely no idea. But who cares? Its not hurting anyone so I feel about as ashamed of that as I am ashamed of liking cheese and jam on toast. So sure, it’s not for everyone but what is that to me?
That, my friend, is a catfish. Likely either a man or an algorithm.
While it’s not the best place on the planet to meet people by any means, fetlife is generally judgment free and you’ll be able to find a polyamorous woman who’ll cuck you. And I mean no judgement by that either.
This way you can still have a real relationship and be there for each other emotionally while you explore your fetishes either in the bedroom (you watching if you’re into that) or having her describe the sex she’s having.