title tells all, I guess. I’m 31, born female. I currently identify as nonbinary with they/them pronouns. I’m married to a woman and I have two kids (13M and 11F). I’m having a sort of gender crisis. I’m finding myself wanting to present more masculine. when I see pictures of men, I’m not attracted to them – I want to BE them. I hate how clothes look on my body because I have a very hourglass figure and it gives me such dysphoria.
I don’t know what to do – my wife is a lesbian. She loves all the things about me that I hate. she says that I’m the reason she realized she wasn’t attracted to men. and now I’m thinking of flipping a 180 and saying “well, actually.”
I’m not looking for advice. I really just needed to type it out. I’ll be ok and I know I’ll figure it out. Thanks for reading.
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You’re not alone ❤️❤️❤️ thank you for sharing your journey with us. I know you said you’re not looking for advice but I might encourage you to reach out to a local LGBTQ organization to talk to a peer or mentor there. It might help you feel less confused and alone.
This a tough one in the end you need to be you but like all actions there will be consequences.
No advice, just support.🫂
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Hugs.
No advice, just a reminder:
Body dysmorphia =/= gender dysphoria, but the symptoms/emotions involved in both can be extremely similar.
the only real advice I have is be honest with her now, let her know you’re questioning
I know it’s scary because the truth is, she may not want to be with a man and thats okay but I know it’s not ideal
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that’s definitely a complicated situation, but sometimes u need to put urself first. I hope that u can go through it, even if u lose some people, or ur wife, u can still have the support needed. I wish u all the best in the world!