I think I’ve fallen out of love with my partner, and I’m struggling to understand why (23M)

23M – I think I’ve fallen out of love with my partner, and I’m struggling to understand why

I know posts like this are common, but I’m genuinely trying to make sense of what I’m feeling, and I’m hoping to hear from anyone who’s been in a similar situation.

My partner treats me really well—he’s kind, patient, and supportive. I care about him deeply and I don’t want to hurt him. But over time, something has changed. I’ve gradually lost the desire to be sexually intimate with him. It wasn’t a sudden thing, but one day I just realized I didn’t want to have sex—and it’s been months since that feeling started.

I originally thought it was just a phase, maybe due to stress or something else temporary. But it’s persisted, and I’ve talked to him about it. He’s been understanding, but I still feel this heavy guilt—like I’m not giving him what he deserves. I know sex isn’t everything, but it still plays a role in our connection, and the absence of it is starting to feel like a bigger issue.

I’m doing my best to work on things, and I want to feel that connection again. I believe love takes effort and isn’t always perfect, but I also don’t know if I’m just forcing something that isn’t there anymore. I feel stuck between wanting to make this work and not knowing if my feelings will come back.

For some context, my parents recently divorced. I found out my mom had been cheating on my dad when I was 18, and I kept it to myself for years. I came clean recently, and while my dad reassured me it wasn’t my fault, I can’t shake the guilt. I’ve been wondering if that situation—plus seeing my parents’ relationship collapse—has affected how I now view love and commitment.

I know this might sound all over the place, but I’m just confused and trying to be honest. I really don’t want to hurt someone who’s been so good to me. If anyone has gone through something similar, or has advice, I’d really appreciate hearing your thoughts.

Thanks for reading.

tldr; I (23M) feel like I’ve fallen out of love with my partner, even though he treats me really well and I still care about him. I’ve lost interest in sex and feel guilty about it. I’ve been honest with him and I’m trying to work on it, but nothing’s changed in months. My parents’ recent divorce (due to infidelity) might be affecting how I view relationships. I’m confused, don’t want to hurt him, and unsure what to do next.