My husband and I have been married for 4 years. No real problems. He treats me well and our relationship has always been relatively easy.
6 years ago after we were dating for 2 years, I founded a startup and now make about $800,000 per year. My husband always had a mid-level management job at a local grocery store and made $60,000 per year the whole time we’ve been together. I never cared.
We’ve always split bills, but as my income went up, I took on more, but as time would go on he would “forget” to make his portion of his payment on the mortgage portal.
And I’ll be honest. Selfishly, I love being able to live a good life and I want a husband who is able to do those things with me. My husband stated he wanted to start a business months ago and said that would help him be able to earn an income and travel…. Dream come true!
My husband quit his job 4 months ago (which I supported) so he could start a business. I was all about it but now I’m feeling resentment.
He’s home all day but still “forgets” to do basic tasks (clean out the litter box, laundry, get the mail) and I find that I take the weight of the labor. In my opinion, the house should never be a mess and I shouldn’t have to carry this emotional burden if he isn’t providing financially.
He says he’s going to do better with remembering basic things but never does. We’ve had this conversation before where I’ve felt angry over feeling like I take the entire financial load and mental load of household labor.
He is starting his business and has gotten a few clients but I sense no real sense of urgency and it is so unattractive. I don’t like feeling like I’m providing for him
Would love advice specifically from a man’s point of view. What do you think? Do I just give him more time for this business? Is he taking advantage of me?