This is super embarrassing and I kinda want to die but here we go. I 20F have been with my bf 21M for about 5 months now. (For context we are both in college and he doesn’t have a roommate) Today I didn’t have work but my bf did. Even though my bf had work he still asked if we could hang out tonight since I have work the rest of the week and I agreed. We both decided I would just chill in his apartment till he got off work and I would spend the night.
It was about 7pm and i had just finished a movie and randomly got really horny and i started to… well do that in his bed. I was moaning (I moaned his name a few times too) and breathing really loud because he normally doesn’t get home until about 9 or 10pm so I figured I was in the clear. When i was getting it on i thought I heard the front door open but it REALLY quiet and I was too focused to hear anything so since im a really paranoid person I thought I had just made it up.
WELL, (it was about 7:30 atp) when I was finished I cleaned my self up, put my clothes back on and decided to get something to eat. I walked out of my bfs room and turned the conner to see MY BF IN THE KITCHEN LOADING THE DISHWASHER. I asked him why he was home so early and he said he had traded shifts with a coworker for tmrw morning so he could have more time with me tonight. He was doing that thing where he was trying not to act weird but something was still off. He didn’t mention anything but I KNOW he heard me.
So as embarrassing as it is i really need advice. Do I even brings it up? And if I do HOW? He’s in the shower as im typing this and the entire night has been so awkward. Pls send help.
(Not sure if this is important but we’ve only made it to third base once as he want to take it show)
TLDR: my boyfriend heard me masterbating when me came home from work early, how do I bring it up?
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Well time to be a grown up. You know he masterbates when you’re not around right?
just be straightforward, i know it’s easier said than done but it’s best to be honest. it will probably only be more awkward if you both ignore it.
when he gets out of the shower and dressed, ask to speak with him. just ask if he heard you and be honest about it. ask if maybe he was uncomfortable with it. this might be a good opportunity to have an open conversation about sex in your relationship. you’ve already established that you’re taking it slow, so this is a good opportunity to build trust and communication.
I know the topic of sex can be awkward but try to be open, honest, and nonjudgmental as possible. wishing you luck!
Well if u know he heard u, then he probably doesn’t mind.
If u CANT bring urself to bring it up, then u don’t have to. But if u WANT to, then maybe just straight up ask him.
As in a way like “hey did u hear me?…. While I was masturbating?….”
Or in a way thats not so blunt “did u happen to hear me… yknow…. When u came back home?… Like did u hear anything ì was doing?…”
I’m not great at relationship advice or anything LOL…. But I’m giving my best suggestion that comes to mind😭
I mean, masterbation is a pretty normal thing, and I’m sure he does too. I think what IS the issue is that it’s being turned into an awkward situation because no one wants to say anything. I’ve never had that happen myself, but if I were in your place, and my SO was acting weird and I’m picking up on that, I’d break the ice and say something. You could maybe say something like “hey, did you hear anything from the bedroom when you got home, because it’s ok if you did”. Not the best advice, since I’ve never experienced this, but thought I’d help out.