ello so my boyfriend didn’t come home last night and it is currently almost 4 PM and I have not heard anything from him since around 11 PM last night. I have been blowing up his phone all night and morning and I haven’t gotten an answer until about an hour ago and his friend answered telling me “he left me with his phone and he’s currently in a different city” (it should be noted that he told me the name of the city and it’s about an hour away from where we live) he continued to say “he left me with his phone he’s with his brother up there etc” I think that’s total bullshit cause first of all it’s 2025 who the fuck leaves their phone with their friend and go over an hour away to a different city?? On the 4th of July I caught a condom in his pocket & I lost my shit on him and he had the nerve to tell me “it’s my friends condom” like I already knew that was total BS. But I’m nervous and worried. I’ve been cheated on before and sometimes he does go out but this time is different. Any ideas
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Break up with him. This is weird behavior, and not even being willing to communicate with you what he’s doing is sketchy. Regardless of whether he is or is not cheating on you, it’s weird.
Cheating or not (probably is cheating) all of this feels like unstable behavior in general. Get out while you’re still young. I know moving out feels daunting but it’s not that bad and you’ll be so much happier in just a short period of time. It literally doesn’t have to be like this
Yes, he’s obviously cheating
Holy shit, your post history. What an insanely dark 2025 you’ve been having. I would seriously consider just trying to be single and completely focused on myself through New Years.
Do you know where friend lives? Make a surprise visit. If you need more proof that he’s cheating.
Why does he need to hold condom for a friend? Unless he’s having sex with that friend. That’s not a thing people do.
If he knew he was going out of town, why didn’t he text/call you before leaving and going no contact? He’s acting like a liar. You don’t need proof he’s cheating, you need to know that he behaves in a way that’s inconsiderate and untrustworthy.
Just trust your gut and move on with your life in peace 🙏
It’s either cheating, drugs or both.
He left his phone so he could be located. This is shady af and I would not put up with this. I would not reach out to him anymore, just move on.