I shouldn’t have looked, I was just curious about his reddit feed.. I just wanted to compare how different our feeds could be. all the messages I see are to girls… they’ve sent him nudes, he hasn’t sent any back. All these girls are offering sex acts for money. I’m so confused.. I thought we were okay. He says he loves me daily and acts like everything is normal… but after seeing these messages is he even happy being with me? We’ve been talking about marriage and getting a house together the last few months… we live together and have a puppy together. How do I even bring it up? I’m so lost and hurt..
I think my boyfriend is cheating on me…
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You didn’t deserve to find out this way. Trust your gut, and you have every right to ask questions and protect your peace 🖤
Take screenshots and send him the receipts while you look him in the face and wait for his response. That moment will tell you all you need to know before he starts talking.
first off, i am so sorry. no one deserves to go through this. the situation does seem like cheating to me. it is so easy to block and delete anything like that. there are men who just happen to have a relationship and be a pretty great partner while still being like this on social media and even watch porn or something. its something i cant even really wrap my head around either but there definitely are some better men who don’t do that.
i suggest just being direct about it and bring it up to him. based on his response/reaction you can determine to see if you want to continue the relationship. granted, things will be different if you do continue to be with him. if he takes the effort to reassure you and your guys’ love then thats great. but ultimately it is what you want and think is best for yourself. i wish the best for you. again, i am so sorry.
I recently wrote a post here on Reddit about this very issue. You may find it helpful.
https://www.reddit.com/r/analyzeme/comments/1m8vuyq/my_partner_looks_at_porn_and_i_dont_know_how_to/
I’m sorry you’re hurting. When you’re ready, talk to him honestly about what you found. You deserve truth and respect
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. You should talk to him about it.
Probably unpopular opinion. Always protect your health first (physical, mental and emotional).