i dated my ex on/off for about 5 months i think. i was his 8 or 9th gf, he was my second bf. he’s about a year older than me. i didn’t want to send at first, but i really liked the attention. he guilted me into it most days for the entire relationship. towards the middle/end, it was less of his regular “don’t you want to make me happy” guilting, and more of “send or i’ll show my friends” and “send or i’ll save everything you’ve ever sent to my camera roll” (they were saved in chat on snap). they never had more than a few inches of face, but most had none. i’d beg him not to, and he’d say shit like “you won’t remember i saved them” or if i said i wasn’t sending anymore he’d say “im saving them all then, since you hate me ig”. and every time i screenshotted the chats and told him id tell someone, he’d freak out and say he deleted them all. but then the next day he’d text me and say “i still have them lol”. he wasn’t like this at the beginning of the relationship. and after a few weeks he completely stopped complimenting me (he knew i loved compliments). he admitted to love bombing me, and he would say i never complimented him but i did. he NEVER sent me pictures of him tho. but i always said i loved him, he was so sweet, and how pretty he was. i think he still has the nudes and idk what to do. i know it was stupid, and i haven’t spent in a while now. it makes me feel so gross😕 idk how to deal with it knowing that he’s seen EVERY part of me and he only sent me nudes once (i didn’t even want them). i feel so guilty 24/7
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His behavior is just plain old gross, and actually borders on illegal. Next time he messages you and asks for nudes, say no. Get him to send in chat that he will release his other ones if you don’t. Screenshot that, and keep careful tabs on it. You can take that to the police and file a charge for harassment, and it possibly even extortion. I’m so sorry you’re in the middle of this. I have three girls, and I wouldn’t wish this on any of them.
Do you still have screenshots where he made threats? Like you said above he said “send or I’ll show my friends”?
Are you an adult? Were you an adult at the time when these photos were taken?
Using the messages which threatened you like the “send or I’ll do x” you should talk to a lawyer. Police might not do much, but a lawyer can send some threatening letters and demand evidence of deletion
if you were legally a child at the time you will have more rights.
Also don’t feel guilty, it sounds like he was pretty manipulative.
How old are you? If you’re a minor, he could get in trouble for sharing child porn.
I don’t know if you two are still in contact or if you feel safe doing it, but you could tell him you’ll go to the police if he doesn’t delete all your nudes
i don’t know why you keep saying that you’d get in trouble. you wouldn’t. you were repeatedly coerced into sending them, and the police won’t care at all that you sent them, they’ll care about what he’s doing. it doesn’t matter that your distribution of child pornography to him is illegal, it matters that he pressured you into sending it and is threatening to distribute it to others.