So I have been friends with him for 13 years now. Today he came to pick me up from my work even though he had fever in the morning because I asked him yesterday why he never came to pick me up. Today he told me that he had physical attraction 13 years back and was a kid that’s why he proposed me then. I turned him down then because I wanted to focus on my career, I was trying to get into good college.
In past 6 years I have asked him to be my boyfriend for about 6 times, once a year I guess and have been rejected all the time. I know I should’ve given up the first time but he does these things that make me delusional about his love towards me. He listens to me. I told me he should open doors for me, from then on every time we met he did that. I told him what I like and his perspective of life changes the next time we meet to match my likes and behaviour.
I am an overthinker so maybe it’s all in my head but can a man please tell me that if you don’t like someone and reject that person every time she asks you out, would you still be there for her doing stuff which will make her fall for you all over again. He says he considers me his good friend. I don’t want to be his friend. I’d rather not have any friend.
P.s. I cried horribly after every time he rejected me. I am an idiot.
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OP he said he liked you THIRTEEN years ago, you have asked him since SIX times and he turned you down. STOP doing this to yourself.
Some people keep a friend who is attracted to them out of sheer ego.
You’re not an idiot at all, because your feelings are genuine, but if he’s giving you mixed signals then he’s a jerk.