long ridiculous post, but bare with me:
so when my hubby was 12 his mother passed. at age 14 his father remarried. she also had a daughter his age. they all lived in one house. apparently my husband and his step sister used to sneak around their parents and engage in umm…. adult activities. this went on for YEARS. me and my husband married at 23. i always thought my husband and his step sister were close, but i just assumed it was from growing up together.
a few years ago i found out my husband was having an affair with his step sister…. i didn’t even know what to say. i had NO IDEA this relationship even existed. i can’t even wrap my mind around it. obviously me and my husband entered counseling where i found out all the details from his childhood and just how close they really were. somehow i was able to overcome for the sake of our children.
however for the past few months my husband has been acting WEIRD. coming home late, being protective of his phone, not wanting to have sex (he always does), and i SWEAR i can even smell his sisters perfume on him. we barely got through this the first time and ill be devastated if i find out its happening again.
my husband claims that she was his “first love” but i’m his forever and after love, the one he cant live without.
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I could forgive the two of them for messing around a bit. Hormones and all that.
Continuing it is ridiculous.
I wish I didn’t have eyes
Just go back to counselling
“i’m his forever and after love, the one he cant live without.”
lol. okay, keep thinking that.
Nope.
If they’re not truly related, didn’t even meet until 14, etc, why didn’t they just get together when old enough? Especially if they’re carrying on decade(s) later? The taboo? Is this a known thing in your family or a big secret for all these years?
There is no forever in this. It should be over the first time.
Ew 🤮
Everyone needs to stop staying with nasty ass partners for the sake of the children. Doing this is worse for the children. Kids are gonna find out when they’re a few years older and know that their mom stayed with their dad who was fking their aunt?? That’ll definitely lead to some super healthy relationships for those kids in their teens and adulthood. Yikesaroonydoony
Please leave this guy. That’s just gross even if not related. Not acceptable
Girl, leave him. Kids or not, why would you NOT want to leave him? You’re his backup plan because he can’t marry his step sister…
EXECUSE ME! Ma’am please leave Alabama and find yourself a man that won’t cheat on you with his sister! They were still raised in the same household since youth together so this is incesttttt.
Oh hunny he is banging his sister and never really stopped he just was hiding it a bit better. You were the vessel for his kids she is his love
Think about it… you are his “forever love” that he can’t live without, but he is willing to risk your entire marriage and everything you have built together, just to bang his sister? If he really couldn’t live without you, he would never do anything to put your marriage at risk.
This is going to go on for the rest of your lives, he will not stop cheating with her. When couples decide to stay together after cheating, it only ever works if the cheating partner cuts contact with the person they were cheating with. Otherwise feelings keep creeping up. He can’t cut off contact with his sister, he also can’t be in a relationship with her so they will cheat on their partners together for the rest of their lives. Don’t put yourself in that position when you can have so much better.
Does she have a habit of getting stuck in places? Like a dryer, half under a couch, etc?
He’s literally sleeping with his sister and you’re sitting here like “I’m his forever love” like?? Are you good?
If that turns out to be true, then divorce. Divorce ASAP.
I know you said you’re doing it all for your children and yada yada, but tbh, continuing in this marriage will fck your children up more than having divorced parents, unless you can actually pretend everything is fine and that you’re happy with your husband till your kids reach 18.
Being in a single parent household is usually better than being in a dysfunctional family where the kids can clearly see that their parents don’t love or even hate each other.
Not to mention the influence your husband’s nasty actions could have on the kids.
No amount of counselling or him saying your his forever person is going to fix this. Run.
You should go get checked
You overcame “for your children”?
Let’s get out of that mentality first. Because you didn’t do anything for your children except tell them it’s okay to treat people like shit, accept being treated like shit, and that respect is not a concept held to any value in your household.
Would you want your children to cheat on their partners? Would you want your children to accept being cheated on? This is the lesson you’re teaching them.
Move on. Teach your kids that their minds and bodies are worth so much more than blatant disrespect and disregard.
He’s using you as a cover so he can be with her. Divorce and out him. Why are you staying with a cheater?! He’s calling you second choice.
Yo I hate to break it to you but he’s lying to you and himself.
Damn it where’s the men in black memory stick GIF when you need it 😭
did he say you were his forever love, or did he say that? keep in mind, he didnt meet this woman until they were both early high school aged.
“My husband claims that she was his "first love" but i’m his forever and after love, the one he cant live without.”
Yeah sure… whatever helps you both sleep at night. Not sure why you’d be shocked he could cheat again?
Honestly can’t believe you stayed after he cheated on you with his sister the first time. “For the kids” is so fucked up. You’re giving them 0 chance to grow up in a normal, faithful home where parents don’t sleep with their siblings, but ok.
OP, divorce your husband. He is a trailer trash idiot who is still having sex with his step-sister. And please get tested for STDs.
But they aren’t biologically related, right?
Cheating is fcked up, but don’t act like this is incest.
Does she frequently get stuck in the dryer?
I hope you leave and battle forward getting control of your life.
What a cruel thing to learn. I couldn’t look someone in the eyes like that again. Icky situation and I hope you push forward with your own life leaving the past behind with your head held high.
Girl what the fuck are you still doing with that man
Babe, don’t believe in any of his bull sh!t. Ask him why he smells of her perfume, where he was. Give him ultimatum or at least set boundaries.
He may be scared of losing his family but it seems to me he is scared of losing her even more.
She’s always going to be his “first love”
I wish I could unread this.
Girl, really? You need to leave because this is way too much Springer on a daily basis.
i hope y’all dont have kids and can make a clean break.
But you knew about it and stayed with him 🥴
“Fool me once…”
I would have told everyone in his friends and family circle to the point that he’s terrified to be seen near her
What’s wrong with you? You husband have an affair twice with his step sis and you tolerate this? He is make a fool of you and you accept this. Your kid deserve so much better than this, because you seems to accept this weird life. You think kid don’t figured what’s going on when they when grow up? You are in this delusional impression that your husband is love you, but you are just a cover for his real woman. You should show to yourself and your kid that you are a strong person and don’t let anyone to humilliated you. This is a troll post or you need urgent therapy because I don’t understand how somebody can be ok with this. You don’t have a family life because this is crazy and pls don’t make excuse like "we have a child together and build a life".
Protective of phone is unfortunately the sign of end times
What in the V.C. Andrews did I just read?
Check the divorce laws in your state. Some places, if you reconcile and they go back to cheating with the same partner, you lose any leverage in filing for cause. In any case, if he’s cheating again (still?) after telling you it’s over, this might be your last legal window to file for cause. Because if you forgive him a second time and he doesn’t quit having sex with his sister then it’s on you for remaining with him despite knowing. Go talk with a lawyer ASAP.
Zero judgment on you at all; I’m asking: do you have any concerns about his decision making skills and views on incest taboos regarding your kids?
Tell everyone now and divorce him
Girl, no. An affair is awful. An affair with his step sister that’s been going on for…forever is even worse. Like was there any point where he wasn’t cheating on you? Grow a backbone and expose their secret. Do better for your kids.
I really hope this is a bs story. If not, pack his things and send him to her. Chances are it went on more than you know. Does she have kids? Seriously protect yourself from being heartbroken and lost time on him. Focus on you and kids. You will miss him but not the rollercoaster.
Damn. Thought my situation was f*cked up.
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Don’t stay with your husband for your kids, that is ridiculous.
Well, I can only blame myself for clicking on this thread.
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~~ will always love you~~~This has to be rage bait. If not, he’s cheated and with his step sister who was his 1st love eww 🤮Do what you should have done years ago file for divorce
Is your married name Lannister or Targaryen by any chance?
File for divorce, choose yourself and your kids!
Give that man back to his sister and get the ultimate court ordered child support, and tell the whole damn family shit I’d tell the president and Beyoncé is this was me
On a real note this is grave.. and he needs a lot of help. He can go no contact with his sister and keep you, or he can keep his sister and you file for divorce and primary custody
How old are they now?
And you think somehow the kids aren’t going to notice on some level some day?
You were willing to put the work in overcoming for the sake of your children.
He has not.
He wants to have both of you, in more ways than one.
It is up to you to decide if you wish to have this arrangement for the rest of your life. Because he is not going to change.
Why did they stop the relationship the first time and how old were they?
Your husband wants his sister, but also wants to keep his comfortable life of you taking care of his kids – that’s your forever job. That’s what he loves about you.
If he really was in love with you, he wouldn’t look to sleep with someone else.
Please wake up and move on for yourself and your kids.
Woah! The first time…? Girl just run lmao
You’re not his “forever”. You’re his cover. She’s the one he can never have so he’ll always want her. In his mind, you’ll never compare to her because he can have you.
I think his step sister would have been his wife if it was socially acceptable. I could be wrong.
what the fuck!
My husband just walked in and told me to close my mouth.
You said, again
Gurl, just look through his damn phone.
If he is cheating,just leave.
This shite will continue forever.
This is bizarre. You should free yourself of this marriage. I know of someone who did this and had a KID with the person. Very taboo and just morally wrong IMO. You deserve so much better than this.
Jesus Christ. Just start calling lawyers. He probably never stopped cheating with her and he should’ve just married his damn sister instead of dragging innocent people into their weird shit.
Sweet baby Jesus
Please leave him for the kids sake, do not overcome this any longer!
Least obvious rage bait story on here.
There is a reason why step-sister/brother/mom/dad porn is a category …. I think it happens more often than people will ever admit. Still gross though.
Fake
He never stopped and you really need to blow this whole shit up and tell everybody. Divorce him
it’s my fault for reading the post after seeing the title
Yuck, he’s cheating you forgave and he’s cheating again- don’t stay he will keep doing it
OP, why exactly are you on here? You know what you have to do. Do not use your children as an excuse because you are too much of a coward to do the hard thing.
Cheaters always lie and cheat. Of course the affair didnt stop.
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What a day to know how to read
Tell him then the next time he sleeps with her or communicates with her, that he has lost his forever, forever.
For the sake of the children, I’d leave. If I found out my mom stayed with my dad after he slept with his sister…I’d feel like both of my parents weren’t in their right minds.
Look, sometimes people get stuck in dryers. These things happen, and you have to learn to move past them.
He is disgusting!
Game of thrones season 9 sounds pretty alright
Excuse me.
Why would you have sex with someone who fucked his sister while married to you?
I need to go shower the gross off.
Updateme
For your children’s sake, don’t overcome it this time.
you are being the cover for them so they dont have to deal with family.friend and inner circle judgement.
Jerry Springer
I’m not going to read past the title. This was too much already
Jerry Springer shit.
Oh, no step bro I’m stuck in the washing machine again!
My ex kind of did the same, he had a relationship with his step sister while living all together, parents didn’t seemed to mind. It’s been years now and they have a daughter. It’s fked up.
When I was around 17 yo, a teen brother and stepsister befriended me. I thought it was because of my keen intellect, but in fact, they wanted a 3-some. 😳 I did not oblige but found it baffling. Like… people do that?!
Girl wtf. Leave him
What a terrible day to know how to read
It doesn’t matter who he’s cheating with. Divorce him. You deserve to be with someone who loves you more than anyone else in the world. He’s found the love of his life. You’re not her.
The fact that they are step siblings really doesn’t mean much. They aren’t related by blood. I’m pretty sure they can get married if they want. It’s just the stigma that’s keeps them apart. Look at the reactions here. No one knows them, and they’re grossed out.
Kick him out. Get ahead of the narrative.
Again!!!!!
Ask him to show you his phone.
Tell him what behaviour makes you suspicious and ask why he doesn’t want sex, why he smells like her etc.
You have every right to question.
Ok you need to leave. If she is his 1st love then he can go be with her. You are only his forever because you allow him to mistreat you and cheat on you. You have shown him what your worth is by staying.
Stop overcoming for the sake of your children. Whatever that means. I would think it should be that you LEFT HIM for the sake of your children, but what do I know.
This has got to be fake 😭😭
You’re the socially acceptable wife and she’s the love of his life. Are you really going to settle for that?
what a terrible day to be literate
Sniff his junk
Sounds like he’s telling you this s*** just so you’ll believe them
I feel sorry for the kids. He and his sister are foolish. This is why shame is necessary for our species. There’s a lot of shameless promotion of incest going on in social media and it seems it’s reflecting what’s really happening.
Also, I think if his father knew , he is to blame too. Incest can start as a joke. Then turns serious. So no form of immorality should be condoned.
My god!!!!
Why would you even stay after the first time. This is sick. How did you not get the ick?
Sleeping with sister many times is one way to tell your wife it’s over. There are others, but that’s definitely one of them.
Step Sister?
sounds like someones been watching too much of the hub again?
I hope it didn’t involve a washing machine too..
I’m sorry this is happening to you. But this is why you leave cheaters. If you allow someone to cheat on you, of course they’re going to continue to do it.
Fake?
ngl should’ve dropped him the first time you found out..
Wow.
Why even try and get proof? Just leave the creep.
leave him please
What horrible time to be literate
Please leave this dude and get tested
Honestly… Most of the comments covered my sentiments on this (yuuuck) but really I am stuck on the "AGAIN"
Straight in the trash🤸🗑️
(edit: fixed the typo)
Coming from a yours, mine and ours family of siblings I can tell you this is still gross, not healthy and the two of them need counseling (separate) where they can deal with the dysfunctional past.
I hate tho say this but it’s time for a divorce. He’s never going to stop his relationship with his step sister
Alright look. Attach as much or as little meaning as you like to the following.
I’m an adult child of divorce. I was… 20ish when my parents finally split. < pay attention to how I said that.
Their story is pretty similar to your story. With the infidelity I mean, not with the sister-fucking. And much like with your story, they stayed together for a long time for “the kids”. Which is how I wound up with a couple of half siblings that are 8 and 5 years older than the date on the divorce paperwork.
I didn’t know about any of this at the time. I just knew how my parents interacted with one another. They didn’t outright hate one another, but it was a little like when two neighbors can’t quite agree on if the fence is on the property line or not, or what time of the night backyard parties should wind down.
They very obviously weren’t Cinderella and Prince Charming is what I’m saying. Or even like Martha and Jonathan Kent, or like the parents from Boy Meets World (I’m dating myself lol. But you get the point).
When mom finally, nervously, anxiously, apologetically sat me down to break it to me that they were getting a divorce, i said:
“Good. You guys are terrible together.”
And each of my younger siblings had something similar to say.
Which is all a long way of saying that staying together “for the kids” when you and your partner have irreconcilable differences is stupid. It doesn’t work. It makes everyone unhappy. And your kids are going to be more aware of things than you realize.
Why is everyone acting like it’s his sister? They are only related by marriage and weren’t raised together. IMHO, there is not really a taboo there. If they were raised together from a younger age, sure. But they were almost adults.
The thing that is shitty though, is the cheating. If he loves her that much, he should let the wife go and live his true life with the "sister."
I’m sorry, but I think you are the only one that believes you’re his forever; the one he can’t live without.
He can obviously live without you but the hiding part is the sexy part. He knows it’s wrong and it’s part of the fun for him. The sneaking around and keeping a secret relationship for that long is what he likes.
If you happen to find out that he is cheating again, you need to stop believing this narrative you’ve created about you being his forever. If he couldn’t live without you, he would have stopped for you. He wants to stay married because the sneaking around and lying is part of what turns him on. Recalibrate your reality to what’s actually happening. You are not his first love. He cheated on you with who he really loves. He is potentially cheating on you which AGAIN proves he does not live the same love story as you. His love story is with her every time he chooses her and every time he lies to you. That is reality. I know it’s hard to admit but once you admit this, you can choose a better partner who doesn’t have this baggage.
You will not be special enough to save this relationship. If you were special enough, he wouldn’t have cheated or hid this nasty secret FOR YEARS.
Please be honest with yourself and recognize that he’s a liar that lies to preserve his sexual relationship with his sister, his first love.
Girl. No.
>again
Nope.
Your husband is a liar and cheater. Who he sleeps with is beside the point. Once a liar and cheater ALWAYS a liar and cheater. It will never stop. So either except he is fukin around and live with it. Or GTFO.
I thought this said YOUR sister at first. This is worse. And that’s coming from someone who’s Uncle did actually marry his step sister.
Just break up already
At this point OP, you just let your husband and his sister marry each other. But before that, gather as much evidence about their affair and sue both their asses.
Get proof for yourself. If you reveal your suspicious he will just dismiss it and make you doubt yourself and he’ll be more careful not to get caught.
Girl you know damn well he’s sleeping with her again. Trust your gut and divorce your husband. He’s literally in love with his sister. The only reason they aren’t together is because people would think it’s morally wrong.
I hope this is a joke. If not we need to help you find a backbone and a good pair of running shoes. Good luck with life. Sorry you are going through this if it is real.
If he is sleeping with his sister? Hes a bit messed up in the head.if he does it a 3rd Time divorce him because it’s not ok
Cut the chord and file for divorce cause if you’re feeling it then it’s probably happening again … no if and or buts… just yank that rip chord hard and walk away with your self respect for your sake and the children’s sake…
Enough said…
I wouldn’t even wait for proof. Just pack and go. Or go stealth, het an attorney. Pretend it’s all right. Then serve him.
Y’all are too forgiving for me 😭😭 I would have left FOR my kids. How do you explain to them Daddy is leaving mommy for auntie (i know it’s his stepsister). Y’all have got to stop trying to work things out for the children. ESPECIALLY when it comes to buffoonery like this. I would have loved to be a fly on your therapist wall after yall left… because I know hearing that was a lot to handle
DIVORCE HIM. That’s it. There’s your answer. There’s no coming back from this. How can you even live with this man? Have some self respect. Shine up your spine. DIVORCE HIM.
Info – Do their parents know? Is she married too?
Either way, it doesn’t sound like he respects you much. You deserve to be with somebody better, and eventually your children will understand too.
Lol, she stays with the cheater, and she comes here to complain.
What in the Flowers in the Attic did I just read?
nope TF Out of there before someone shows up with powdered donuts….
I for the life of me cannot understand why you stayed with this guy. Like is your self-esteem and self-worth in the toilet?
You lost me at the title “again”
Why are you even with him
He doesn’t love you or respect you, and he doesn’t care about or respect his children. You are not even his forever and after love. He’s worthless to you as a husband. Stand up for yourself and your children and get your dignity and self-respect back, and tell him to get gone. Tell him that you are divorcing him and telling everyone why. Don’t keep their secrets, and don’t keep waiting for him to change. Does she have kids? If she does, I bet that they are your husband’s. It’s unfortunate that you are his sloppy seconds, and it’s unforgivable that he comes home after being with her and kisses your kids knowing where his mouth has been. Pack his crap up and tell him to leave, and you will give him the divorce papers when they are ready, and EVERYONE will know why.
i give tough love and my only question to you is: aside from love, what are you protecting him for? if you think its happening again, what’s stopping you from straight up asking him? and/or the step sister? what’s stopping you from being passive aggressive and asking your in laws “so how did you feel when husband and his step sister were hooking up?” aside from love what’s stopping you from filing for divorce?
people give love that doesn’t require compromising your integrity and self worth, OR tolerating stepping outside of your vows. its easier said than done i know but – if you see this worry being a constant 10, 20, 30yrs from now when he acts distant- then i fear divorce is necessary
It’s posts like this that make the rise in illiteracy a comforting thought.
What is that VC Andrews book?
Do you think its best for the kids to see their father cheating on their mom with their aunt? None of this is good for the kids. Divorce him.
This is my fault, i saw "Sleeping with his sister" and i saw "again" and i still clicked it