This is my first time ever using reddit and all of my knowledge of the app comes from youtube reddit stories so please bear with me. Anyway so I 16F live with both of my parents and three of my four siblings (my oldest sister is away at college) and I think my mom wants me dead. So for context im muslim and I love my religion very much and disobeying your parents is a major sin so i feel like im going to go to hell for even typing this out basically my mom is just so incredibly mean to me and just ten minutes ago she slapped me across my face, grabbed my hair, twisted my arm and said she was going to break it, dragged me onto the floor, pressed her elbow against my neck and when I told her couldnt breathe she said she didnt care and told me to die in arabic all because I accidentally locked the door. Like I said it all happened about ten minutes ago where my mom and younger siblings went outside (I still dont know why they did it because it was very late) and at the time I didnt know they were outside so when i came downstairs at like 12:30pm only to see the door unlocked I did what any other sane person would do and locked it without paying much attention. I guess when they finally came back they realized the door was locked so they knocked on the door but by this time I was already upstairs but came right back downstairs when I heard the doorbell and when I opened the door thats when my mom started yelling at me and hitting me. I guess I just really needed to vent because this isnt even the first time my mom has hurt me and said she would kill me (A few months ago she beat me with a cable until I was bleeding and crying then my dad had to physically stand between us to stop her but thats a story for another time lolll) and I really need to get it off of my chest. I do really well in school and I always cook and clean after my siblings more then she even does so I dont really understand why she hates me. I get that sometime I argue with my siblings and then get moody like any other teenager but I dont really think thats a valid reason for trying to kill me. Anyway I dont know what to do anymore, I guess im just waiting for school to start again so I dont have to be around her as often. Sorry if im just rambling but I just needed to get this off of my chest. If anybody has advise on what to do from a muslim stand point please help me. (FYI I just posted this on a teen rant sub to just vent)
I think my mom might kill me
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You should consider talking to a trusted adult or counselor about this situation.
dude, p.o.l.i.c.e
my aunt was in a similar situation when she lived with her family in iraq. i know that there isn’t much you can do, but please try to stay as safe as you can. my aunt ran away when she was 21 which i know you probably won’t want to do, but i would recommend trying
to distance yourself when you can. stay safe though
The treatment you are receiving by western standards is abuse. It sounds to me like you might be the family scapegoat. You are the bad person. According to them or according to your abuser, your mother.
Let me say It’s not you it’s your family especially your mother. You should look into family dynamics and especially dysfunctional family dynamics. Knowledge is power.
This is a horrible situation. Your mother may kill you. Have you spoken to your Dad about this? If he actually intervened before, will he act to protect you? Will your two siblings who live at home risk getting in her way to stop her beating you? If she realizes the whole family won’t let her abuse you physically any longer (including, crucially, your father), she may stop.
In different cultural contexts, I’d say if you can’t report her physical abuse, you have to do the unthinkable and fight back. That will either shock her into a verbally-abusive retreat, or it will escalate her into killing you.
Short of leaving home to live with a cousin or aunt’s family, you don’t have a way to get out until you’re 18 (college). I’m so sorry. Your father and siblings are your only recourse, it seems.
Your mother is abusive. You need to get help. But you need to be careful. She can’t find out. Good luck 🙏🏻🙏🏻
I’m really sorry to hear how you’re being treated.
I don’t know if it’s any help, but as a way of getting by for now, maybe you can try to talk to your mom about what she expects of you and make sure you both have the same understanding of what her expectations are.
If you do this and avoid ambiguity, you may be able to show her that you are taking her seriously and only trying to understand what she wants from you.
In a whole different track, I would recommend carefully working out a long term plan for leaving the family. Don’t write anything down or leave anything else around that your family can find and use against you.
I’ve seen the responses of how you feel about seeking help for this
But please at the very least tell a good friend because this isn’t okay