I thought friends were exaggerating about “falling apart” after 35

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As the title says, does anyone else feel like they just started to “fall apart” in their 30s? I (36) have always joked about never reaching my medical deductible, but that ship has almost sailed. In December, I feactured a finger by tucking in a couch cover (it’s still healing 4 months later). And this afternoon, I missed a step while carrying laundry, and landed so hard on my right leg that I heard something crunch. I can barely walk on it now. Seriously, should I just expect to keep tearing ligaments at this age? My doctors keep telling me how healthy I am, but I’m starting to feel like my 62-year-old mother.

Comments

  1. Your_typical_gemini Avatar

    I think it’s mostly that your bad habits start to catch up to you after you hit your late thirties.

    I’m about to be 38 and I still feel just as good as I did at 28, but if I go without getting a good nights sleep, drink a bit too much or push myself a bit too hard, I don’t bounce back the way I did in my twenties.

  2. cardigancounting Avatar

    Just sounds like you had some unfortunate missteps. Unlikely they have anything to do with age.

  3. Yourweirdbestfriend Avatar

    Are you more distracted by chance? More stressed out? Just asking if it could be something like that because no, my friends and I aren’t falling apart yet! And if you seem to be all healthy medically… Huh. 

    Also, if you really think you hurt yourself, go to urgent care or whatever equivalent if that’s accessible to you! Better to find out than wonder. 

  4. sugarface2134 Avatar

    I think it depends on your activity level. I’m 41 and feel great. I workout 3x a week and play tennis 4-5x a week. I feel young and healthy. I hope to stay that way as long as possible so I plan to stay as active as possible.

  5. AlveolarFricatives Avatar

    I feel stronger than ever at 38. I started running ultras a couple of years ago and I’m continually blown away by what my body can do. I have friends in their 50s who are also crushing 100 milers. I think you just had some bad luck!

  6. fisheye32 Avatar

    I mean, I’m hyper mobile so after 20 it just slowly went down hill. I also can’t go out too late and have to watch what I eat or I’ll get bad acid reflux :(.

  7. elsyp Avatar

    At 37, I’m the fittest I’ve ever been but also feel like I’m easily damaged, so it’s a cycle of being fit and feeling good, then nursing a sore back/neck/shoulder/knee, etc. then recovering and feeling good until something else hurts 😅

  8. IAmMellyBitch Avatar

    I’m on perimenopause. I suspect I have been since 35 (36 now turning 37 next month). And that’s when everything started falling apart for me 🤣🤣

    Now I am on a bunch of supplements and hormones replacement .. it’s fun aging as a woman

  9. natterjacket Avatar

    nobody is acknowledging that tucking in couch covers is dangerous. I’ve broken two nails. 

  10. smindymix Avatar

    I’m not quite 35 yet, but I can’t skate through my bad habits the way I used to.

    😨😭not my shitty actions having shitty consequences😨😭

  11. Koleilei Avatar

    I’m 40 and I haven’t found that.

    While my life is not perfect, I’ve been working really hard to make it better.

    I see a physiotherapist and exercise regularly. My entire exercise routine is designed to help strengthen my joints and to increase mobility. Not for anything else. I have hypermobility issues and I wanted to make sure that I was doing as much as I could to protect my joints before I created more problems. So that’s what I’m focusing on.

    I just finished grad school, while working full time (I do not recommend that), and I’m in therapy for dealing with burnout and eating disorders. Finding out the reasons why I am the way I am, and why I make the decisions I do has been really helpful for me. It’s allowing me to make better decisions, and better choices, and address some of the things I need to change in my life.

    The only issue I’ve had is that I broke my ankle a few years ago, got a blood clot, and it turned into a bilateral pulmonary embolism. Not due to aging or anything, just due to a bunch of bad luck.

    I am stronger now than I have been previously, I have better mental health, I’m actually addressing the eating disorders, I might be overweight but I’m active. My blood work is great, and I feel pretty damn good generally speaking.

  12. knitting-w-attitude Avatar

    Yes, and start strength training. 

  13. INTJinx Avatar

    I’ve been fit and healthy all my life but my body decided that after 34 all the things I’ve previously done with no issue are now enough to take me down. I hurt my back deadlifting my warm up weight, I injured my knee running 20min and again hiking a route I’ve done before, and now I think I’ve injured a ligament in my foot by stubbing my toe.

  14. Longjumping_Play9250 Avatar

    Honestly, please find a functional fitness/HIIT class at your gym to do, this will help with strengthening everything to support those everyday movements. I’m late 30s and have never really hurt myself playing contact sport, but you can bet I sprained a joint in my neck turning my head whilst brushing my teeth. This everyday stuff seems cumulative for sure