I met this guy and from the beginning it felt I just found my match. We would talk for hours, share personal things, laugh a lot, and it honestly felt like I had known him forever even though we hadn’t known each other that long. He made me feel comfortable, special, and like he was genuinely interested in me.
Eventually, we ended up sleeping together. At the time it felt right, and I thought it was just a step forward in what could become something real between us. But after that, things completely changed. He started pulling away and eventually ghosted me. The same person who made me feel so close and cared for suddenly acted like I didn’t matter at all.
I can’t stop replaying everything in my head and wondering if I misread the whole situation. Did he just want sex from the beginning and play it off like he was really into me? Or did something change after we hooked up?
I’m left feeling used and confused. I don’t know if I should confront him, accept that he showed me who he really was, or just focus on moving on. What should I do?
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I’m really sorry for what happened.
I would just move on. He was just a loser who doesn’t worth your time.
Bruh, he’s married or in another relationship. He told you exactly what you wanted to hear to get into them panties. Please be more patient with sex when meeting someone, it’s like a battle of attrition, 90 days should be your minimum to hold out. It will weed out most men because they will get frustrated (and you will notice) and eventually give up on the chase. Know your worth! I am a man, and I’ve witnessed this with 2 of my male, married friends. It sucks, but those types of guys are out there!
Live and learn. That’s all. Have you heard the word of sprinkle sprinkle?
Moving on is the best way forward. He’s not for you. Someone else could be. I think confrontation is wasted time here for you. There’s better out there. Forget him.
No one is telling you the most likely reason. He thought the sex was bad and is no longer physically attracted to you.
He played the game until he got what he wanted.
Take note, learn the signs, and be prepared the next time a dude tries this.
Females always think like this until he got the cat and dipped
It’s not you it’s him. Forget it and move on there’s a lot of men like this, just be more aware of red flags going forward.
The sexual revolution has not been good for women
I’m in the same situation but I’m the dude.. it hurts but you just need to celebrate the good part of the emotions that were released. It shows you’re capable of loving the right person.
Sorry to hear that but it seems like he was playing the game got what he wanted and left unfortunately a lot of men do that they play nice & get you comfortable then bamm. Focus on yourself, it’s best to just move on from him! Wish you all the best!
I am in similar situation kinda but from the opposite side I spend some time with a girl she really liked me and she was nice, however I haven’t felt anything unintentionally I gave false hopes that I like her too and we well meet again . Now I don’t want to ghost her because it would be rude but don’t really continue.
He played you…he put in the work…got rewarded…off to the next lay. He is working his craft.
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Friend, he got what he wanted. Some men just love the chase and when they get what they want, they move on to the next person. It’s nothing you did, it’s that he’s an immature ass.
How old are you? How old is he?
If someone can talk with you for hours, make you feel safe, laugh with you, and then suddenly treat you like you don’t exist that says more about him than it does about you. People who are serious don’t vanish like that. If you really feel like you’d get closure from confronting him, you can send one honest, no-games message. That way you put the ball in his court. But if he doesn’t respond, you’ll at least know you tried.
Guess you are bad in bed.
Maybe the sexual experience was awful? I dunno? Was it really bad?
Maybe because you’re an OF shill?
Guy did this to me once. I ignored him. He tried to reach out a few months later apologizing. I told him I know what kind of man he is and he can go ahead and forget my number. It’s water under the bridge to me. Never spoke to him again.
How many dates did he pay for prior to sex?
sounds like he got what he wanted and bounced. sucks but some guys are just really good at the whole “perfect connection” act until they get laid. the fact that he could go from hours of deep convos to complete silence says everything about his character, not yours
dont waste energy confronting him – guys like this usually just give you some BS excuse anyway. focus on the fact that you dodged a bullet before getting more attached