I used to think every couple goes through this. You stop texting sweet things, stop touching each other when you walk past, and the silence between you grows louder than the arguments.
At first I told myself it was normal. Work stress, bills, being busy. But one night I looked at him while he was watching TV and realized I didn’t recognize him anymore. And I don’t think he recognized me either. That moment scared the hell out of me.
I didn’t scream. I didn’t beg. I just sat down the next morning, opened my laptop and started reading. Not blogs or those “10 ways to fix your marriage” articles. Real stuff. Deep stories. Hard truths.
One book made me cry on the train. And made me realize how I had stopped showing up.
It wasn’t instant. It wasn’t easy. But day by day it felt like we started meeting each other again. Like he could see me again. And I could finally reach him without yelling.
I’m not here to act like I have all the answers. But if someone else is where I was, just know it’s not always too late.
If it helps, I can share the two things I read that shifted everything for me. One was something on alexandersolace dot xyz . The other was a more classic perspective from Timothy Keller. Both helped in their own way.
Even if it’s not your thing, just don’t wait till it’s beyond repair. How could I have done better ?
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