That’s it. I am not working, and I barely go by in college, I cannot imagine myself finishing degree and working 9-5 for 40 years or so. I told that to my father, and he pretty much just told me that “this is how it works, everyone has to worki”.
So I told him that I am going to be a NEET for as long as I can, and he can kill me while I sleep if he wants, that would be ideal for me since I don’t want to live anyway.
Tried suiciee once with shit ton of benzos and alcohol, didn’t work out, and I simply do not have guts to jump under the train or anything like that.
You can call me an asshole, but I did not choose being born, having mental ilnessess etc.
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NEET?
Yeah you’re not going to be doing much of anything with severe depression. Even going to work on that is going to be difficult.
But getting that treated is the only way forward.
Please understand that you’re not alone for thinking this way. I don’t understand how we got tricked to live as ants to the wealthy. We lose so much valuable time from work when we have the technology to work less. We can the resources to end hunger and homelessness but we let the rich dictate who gets what. We are not born to work as cattle. We deserve more free time as a whole. Working long hours is not contributing to humanity unless you’re doing the real humanity work like scientists or engineers and artists. Your father is okay being a drone and he is unwilling to understand our struggles. My mother can’t comprehend why I don’t follow religion like her but I understand a part of it is because she lost a lot of her life working since a teenager and I got a higher education than her. I hope you treat yourself well because you are worthy, don’t let anyone tell you otherwise even yourself.
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I haven’t heard the term neet in like a decade. Get some therapy my dude. You sound like you have no joys in your life and you’re just grinding away anyway. Money can’t buy you happiness but money does buy you resources and time where you can experience novel things that can make your head jello jiggle with excitement or at the very least rip open a bag of neural pop rocks
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So, SSRIs don’t “cure” depression, they just turn down the volume of the doom, gloom and prickly annoyances that make life unbearable, so you can go about changing how you think toward something more productive.
Life is what it is. We can either be miserable or we can find ways to make it tolerable, or even fun.
Sit down and think about what makes you happy. Maybe nothing does now because of the depression, that’s ok. Go back in time and try to remember something that did make you happy. Or think about things that you wish you enjoyed. Start doing those things, or working toward being able to do those things.
Hey man, first off i hear you and im sorry for the pain you carry. I can understand ways you may have justified your feelings. Ive been at similar points in my own life, specifically following my own dads suicide. I basically saw that i could live, struggle, and hate life for 40 years before making the same choice he did, or i could kill myself now.
I chose a third option and let go of a lot of my identity and found value in things that were closer to my heart, that made me happy, curious, full of love, excited to be here. It wasnt something i did on my own, i had support from loved ones and therapists. On that topic, im pretty confident you can get access to some mental health care for free through your school. Please, look in to your options.
Beyond that, i dont know what kind of person your dad is, but youve made a pretty clear cry for help to him. Im sure he wants you here and wants you to be happy to be here. I hope you both can find space to feel loved and safe in each others presence and that he can figure out how to reach you. I am certain he wants to, but he may feel immobolized in this.
In reference to the 9-5 40 hour week, there are other options or perspectives that can make it manageable. Finding a job in an environment you actually enjoy being in can be a huge benefit, or finding a job that helps you feel socially valuable or fulfills your curiousity. Outside of that, its important to remember that there is more to life than work. Personally, atm i dont like my job. I did for a while bevause it helped me feel socially valuable (did therapy for autistic children) but right now im feeling taken advantage of and disregarded by management in my facility, which makes me unhappy to be there. I am frustrated by this situation, but i have a lovely cat at home that i love to spend time cuddling with, i have a partner that encourages me and loves me similarly, i have friends who i value and value me, i have interests and hobbies that inspire me and connect me to a wider and more accepting world. These arent things that i just have, but things that i have developed and earned over time by focusing on life outside of the 9-5, and these are the things i live for. Working just helps enable them
Work>money>traveling
You have some kind of mental issue but also the problem is not the world it is you… Bunch of people live their whole lives trying to fill in with mental issues… Everyday for them it looks like it might be the last but they still find the joy in small things
I just wanna say, why would you put that on your father??? A murder charge? Are you for real?
Get therapy. Lots of it. Get your meds adjusted.
Be proactive in your life. You don’t like it? Change it.
Nobody likes to work. It’s just a fact of life. You want the good parts of life? You have to work toward it yourself. Go to school, do well, to get a job that you don’t hate. You don’t like your friends or don’t have any? Join a club, get out and meet people.
I’ll say what others are thinking but not saying. Laziness is not an attribute that attracts people. Laziness doesn’t make your life worth living. Laziness will not fix depression. Ending your life will only put your pain on others.
So get up, take a shower, and call therapists.
Dont listen to any of these negative people I dont know why they are even saying these things j crazy to me seems alot of people forgot where their heart is
Btw your dad is wrong no offense, there are examples of people who have chosen a different path. So if you dont want to work the conventional you dont HAVE to but not going the conventional route is a harder path due to alot of resistance which some you’ve experienced.
What I shall also say is dont give up either take some tyme to go and research what you might be into and have a passion for that could set you up with the lifestyle you want and do that!
There is plenty thats fulfilling my guy
You might like animals you could be a zoo keeper enjoying animals and their ways of life, taking care of them and populating different species making the world a better place by saving and protecting different species and hanging out with a team dedicated to the same goals you are.
That’s one example and I think you would find fulfillment in something like that or otherwise do take the tyme and look into what suits you best and brings joy to your heart and enough money to your pockets
Dont give up and say well that’s it because you haven’t explored much at all yet.
Maybe you want to travel the world and work here and there in different countries bars restaraunts etc you wouldn’t even feel like your working because bants and your be so busy having fun with friends and serving trust me
Get out there
Also one last thing – I said to someone that some of the things they said to you on this thread they said some things because they are speaking without knowledge or consideration for certain things they cannot see…..well your doing the same thing speaking to your dad like that
He loves you has watched you grow spent tyme with you and put the work in
What you said in that post HURTS HIM so you need to be considerate and concentrate on self improvement and growth some more mature in yourself and have abit more consideration for others especially your family
Probably go back and apologise promise yourself you’ll do better and find what works for you and start doing some research to get started
You dont have to go the conventional route so if that’s not what you want find out what you need and start walking your own path not for anyone else but for you!
Yeah I feel you. Just remember not all jobs and careers are the same. Be a job hopper and become a jack-of-all-trades. There are some fun things you can do if care more about experience and enjoyment. Or find a craft or hobby you can sell and find peace in that.
Also, it’s really fucking hard to do that if there is no hope for the future. Why work that much if you can’t even afford to live?
I struggle with this too. It’s so hard to exist and live when everything feels ridged and unfulfilling. We haven’t always push ourselves this hard and it’s okay to not be ambitious. You can be without any obligation or guilt or stress or exhaustion.
As someone that’s had depression forever I had very similar feelings when I was going through. college. Luckily I made it through with a decent degree. It was a lot of tears and not feeling good enough. What helped me was becoming friends with my classmates and creating study groups or speaking to the TAs and professors.
I’m not gonna lie the first four years of working a normal job after college were hard and I was hit with another depression spike of “do I really have to do this forever?” Now though I’m in therapy, I’ve finally found a balance of meds that works for me and makes me so much happier, and I’ve built a very good support system. Horrible things have happened in my life since then but it’s because of this support I’m still here. I did eventually find a job that I’m skilled at and I enjoy but it took years to find the right fit for me.
Life is pain yes and I get the feeling of not choosing to be born. Maybe find comfort that we are all in that position. Try different meds out if the ones you are on aren’t doing the trick. Maybe join some clubs or sports and meet people? It’s good to have friends to rely on and do fun things. It’s daunting to look through life in the lens of work and school. Life is more than that – it’s having meaningful relationships in your life and making memories with them.
Coward
Was your dad horrible to you or something? Why would you tell him that? Just because you have mental illness doesn’t mean you can be an asshole unwarranted, and based on the post you have enough sense to know what you did was shitty. No one chooses being born, but you can choose how you want to live.
May you get the help you need.
Move to different country and start a new life, maybe this type of lifestyle isn’t for you. Be a fisherman/fisherwoman. You gotta keep your brain distracted by having hobbies
Life is a mystery and we are all trying to figure it out. I can say from a father’s standpoint that I am not happy with working tirelessly each day. And for what? For a house? Or a car? And then for it to be taken it away….
All I can say is… do what makes you happy. Life is shit and short.
As someone who has struggled with depression, one thing that helps me is to help someone less fortunate. Volunteer at a soup kitchen or an animal shelter.