Please don’t take this post to heart if you are plus size. I am a plus size women and have been for all my life. I have seen MANY posts, videos, books, and even songs about certain men liking plus size women. From my experience and other women that are know who are plus size, the one thing they want from us is sex. I do believe plus size women deserve love, but it will never happen. Not the real love, which is very sad.
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Not true. I’m a bigger woman and I’m happily married! To a man that’s over 6ft, thin, and worships me like I’m a goddess.
Plenty of men are truly attracted to plus size women, and want to fall in love with them. I understand the feeling though of not being able to perceive that and having certain life experiences. You’ll find the one for you, and so will I one day 🙂
My ex wife was very plus sized (250 @ 5 4) and I loved her dearly.
I was plus size when I met my husband and we’ve both gained weight as we’ve gotten older. He is the absolute best person I know. He never makes me feel like anything less than the most beautiful woman in the world. He buys me dresses (the right size and everything) and has been here for me with absolutely everything.
When I’ve lost my mind and had episodes due to being bipolar (which also made me gain weight) he still loves me. He’s my best friend.
We met on Facebook from having mutual friends. He sent me a friend request and I accepted because I thought he was cute and he messaged me and asked if I wanted to have a meme war lol. So like it started out really silly and fun and light.
We had our first date like a week later and have been together ever since.
I had an ex who was always upset with my weight. One time he even weighed me at Publix and when I was heavier than I had told him pulled me back to the car by my hair and really really laid into me when we got home.
When I was 16 I bought my online friend a ticket to warped tour and when I was fatter than he anticipated he ditched me and never paid me back lol and literally said it was because I was too fat.
I get it. A lot of men are absolute jackasses when it comes to our weight.
But there are still wonderful men who can see us as who we are and still find us beautiful even if we have fat. As my husband always says, I have fat, I’m not fat. I’m myself and his beautiful wife.
I hope you find someone like that because it’s so out there! Never settle for someone who makes you feel bad about yourself.
I am getting married soon to female who I shall call plus size even though in my youthful ages I wouldn’t think I’d ever could be into such body type.
But when being as objective as possible there is one or two things which can be complicated.
Intimicy wise… some things are just harder or not possible bcs of it.
And than there is the second part, if she is unhappy about it, it is such a endless stressing out and convincing that she is not that bad etc. trying to lower the weight from her side fails mainly bcs of stress eating etc and being supportive any time new episode of let’s get them weight down fails.
I love her as she is, I wouldn’t mind or maybe even care if she gets some kg down, but her struggling, makes it struggle for her mental well being from time to time which I hate.
Yet I love her support her and she knows that.
They definitely do lol
There is a difference between “plus sized” and morbidly obese. If someone exercises and is in good physical shape being “overweight” isn’t too big of a deal, but if someone has gained so much weight that it shifts the partner into a caretaker role people are naturally going to stay as far away as possible unless they have a fetish or are a gold digger.
Married to a man who loves plus sized. Complements all the time, his porn is even plus sized. So some men definitely do. Do all men no. But some men yes and they make you feel great about your body no matter the size.
My plus size queen is hot AF.
I hear the pain in your words, and it’s completely valid to feel hurt by experiences like that. But please know that real love isn’t limited by size, there are people out there who will value you for your heart, your personality, and everything that makes you you. The world can be shallow, but genuine connection exists, and you absolutely deserve it.
My man loves every inch of me.
My partner is crazy for me. He’s 6’5” and fit and he’s always been crazy about my plus size curves since we met online and in person 🥰
I have known many men in my lifetime who are openly atractied to plus size women, some of are really really attracted to them and some of them who are only attracted to plus size women.
It goes the other way as well there ar ewlomen who like very heavy guys as well.
Vareity is the spice of life and there isn’t one type that everyone likes or dislikes to the level of exclusion or 100% inclusion.
My wife is plus sized, sexy, funny, kind, awesome, the best mom in the world and the love of my life for nearly twenty years. I’m sorry for your experience but we are out here. But, I’m also a chubby, so maybe shoot for guys who look similar? Hope the best for you ✌🏻
The patriarchy tells men not to be attracted to larger women even if they are. They’re more concerned about being accepted by men than they are pursuing their true attraction. It’s fucked. One of the leading porn searches is for obese women. Many obese women have plenty of sex as well, but some men don’t want to be seen publicly with them.
Man honestly I came to this post to say “no that’s definitely not true” but you’re right. Men want to fuck me. They have no interest in dating me.
Sometimes they do. But only in private.
I’ve been obese and I’ve been a size xxs. I get a lot more male interest and attention when I’m fat.
Maybe it’s your personality people aren’t vibing with, not your body shape.
Can’t speak for everyone but I be shooting my shot at plus size women regularly. If she chill to be around she can get wifed up too
Depends on if “plus size” means obese or not to you. The vast majority of people aren’t into obesity
Well, I don’t know how you all found your true love, but at 34 and being a plus size, I still don’t know how it feels like to be loved truly and deeply. Still waiting for that one person to accept my body. Hoping, praying and manifesting. 🖤
To be fair we want sex from skinny women as well.
It also asks the question. What is plus size?
Plus size might mean larger size clothing. It could mean more weight. It could mean a fat ass.
What is plus size?
I know it’s not true, but I feel you so much bc often times coming across men who say they like plus size women often sexualize them and it makes me feel uncomfortable.
I’ve seen no less than 4 posts this month alone in this sub about men liking plus sized women
I am sorry you think like that. But that’s not true dear. I am a man in my 30s and I like women it doesn’t matter the size, colour, or anything else. She needs to have a good heart that’s important. And that’s what everyone look for in their partner. Please don’t think that your size will hinder you to find your special someone
I am 5′ tall. My husband met me when I was a very fit and lean 145. I got sick and gained a lot of weight. I hit 297 and was even more sick. But he stuck by me, always told me I was beautiful, always grabbed a handful of butt if he thought he could escape before I caught him. I’m down to around 155 now and have sagging skin for miles (but am much healthier). He still grabs a handful of butt.
Real men…good men…are out there. This is true regardless of size. I do believe it’s harder now with social media muddying the waters and having us thinking that everyone else has what you want.
You may not have a guy now, but you have something that someone else desperately wants. Maybe a beautiful smile, or a green thumb, or the ability to cook without causing food poisoning, or a wonderful singing voice, or a job you love, or no anxiety, maybe good sleep, or a best friend, beautiful children, or financial security, or good health.
Focus on the things you do have, and I believe that karma sees the good in us and will bring us what we need when we’re ready for it.
Hasn’t been my experience and I’ve been plus size all my life. Been married too. Proposed to numerous times.
Have had some really great loves in my life. Find a therapist so you can get rid of this limited belief you have.
Plenty of men will love and worship you.
As someone who is on the chubbier side and has been in a committed relationship for the last 2+ years, I can definitely say that there is people out there that love our bodies for what they are. My partner loves and practically worships my body! It’s very rare to find, honestly, but it does exist. I hope every plus size person finds someone who loves them for who they are. ❤️
Currently plus size. There are definitely men who like curvy girls.
This isn’t just women, fat men have a harder time dating as well. Overweight is generally found to be undesirable by most people. That being said there are chubby chasers out there that like big women but yeah that’s the minority. I used to be a fat too so I get it, lose the weight and you’ll notice a huge difference.
I’m plus size and it isn’t an issue for my husband. Ultimately he wants me to be healthy regardless of the size.
What you are saying is objectively untrue. Appearance is a consideration. The closer you are to societal “ideals”, the wider your pool… thin, attractive facial features, intelligent, successful, clean, reasonably groomed, and being interesting are all things that stereotypically going to get you the most interest from the most people.
Sure, less people will be interested in you the less of those traits you have, but that means there are still millions of people who are reasonable candidates.
I suggest looking into the type of people you attract and understanding why you are attracted to them and what their red flags are. Plenty of people just want sex, but you don’t need to give it to them.
In my limited dating experience, white men have been the only ones to be negative about weight or other aspects of my appearance (like not wearing makeup).
Black and Latino men have always preferred my curves. Talked to me like I was the goddess of beauty herself lol
I don’t
I completely understand where you’re coming from, but I promise that it isn’t true. I’ve got me a 6’3”, pretty jacked fiancé. I didn’t think that would happen and it just… did? We’re open and honest about our love for one another. One minute he talks about my intellect and my work ethic, while the very next minute he’s focused on my hips. I think what opened me up to finding and accepting that love is believing him at face value.
I asked him about this post and here’s what he said:
“I’m sorry you’ve had maybe some bad experiences, but something I know is that there’s no hard and fast rule about attraction and what people like. There’s nuance and layers to people’s preferences, whether it’s body-types or hair color. I wouldn’t be marrying my girl if I wasn’t attracted to her, but also didn’t love her. Sex comes and goes, but I love her all the same. A guy won’t spend his time and energy on one woman if they just want to have sex – there are men who will love you for you are and just as you are. Don’t waste time on men who don’t want to put in effort. Take sex off the table and see what happens.”
Are you saying in general due to society men have just secualized and fetishized plus size women, but are too much of a coward to fall in love due to societal ideas about who they should be with? I’m with a plus size woman, and I love her to death, but I think I get what you are getting at with other people
Be your own beautiful self, flirt with men, I think the viral “Home Depot hunting” is actually a great idea. Remember confidence is the most attractive thing you could ever be!
Side note: Why aren’t chubby men called “Plus Size????” There’s plenty of big men too!
I was large and thin with my ex and he liked me either way. He didn’t even notice me gain 65+lbs. The right person won’t care. I think, there just isn’t too many good ones out there.
Me personally I enjoy all women but I do tend to favor bigger women and I word it like this for a reason because I don’t fetishize big women or seek after them. I’ve dated all sizes. The only issue I think I do have thought with bigger women is working through their insecurities about their weight. It’s like I can never just enjoy THEM. The confident piece definitely be missing but that’s not enough for me to stop loving them overall. I hope this helps sorta to at least know we do exist men who love plus size women.
I hear where you are coming from as a plus size girl myself. Something that has helped me is understanding that you’re not everyone’s type in the same way that not everyone is MY type and that’s OK. The value of my beautiful non skinny body is determined by ME not by others. Even on the days when it’s hard to see my reflection or a photo of myself.
ALSO, and most importantly to me, not everyone can handle allllllll of ‘dis runs hands down body while shaking my wide hips
I’ll be as real as I can be, it’s a matter of taste, and probably always will be.
Personally *I* don’t, but that’s because I’ve witnessed plus sized family members suffer a bit more than those who weren’t as they aged. Second hand trauma, maybe.
Historically it was possibly a preservation mechanism to date someone plus size because it meant, you could probably get what they’re having, Times have changed and food isn’t as scarce, so now…
It’s a matter of taste.
Maybe.
I don’t know, I’m not that smart.
What I do know is that there are PLENTY of guys into chubby girls, you might just have to look towards where it’s more culturally accepted.
I also know it also depends on the type of “Plus Size”. Typically you’re probably better being what labeled as “thick” over like… “ROUND”, y’know?
…
I don’t know.
Don’t give up, we all need love.
Lost 80 lbs… you’re not wrong..
I’ve been happily married for going on thirteen years and I know many other plus size women who are happily married. It may depend on where you live and who you hang out with.
You know, this explains my entire love life 🧎♀️
Stop getting physical. Actually date. Make their actions match their words. Be friends first. I know lots of bigger women who did it that way and ended up in good marriages.
I fumbled a plus size baddie because I was afraid of the stigma and she’s engaged now and I’ll regret it all as long as I live
Definitely media contributes to this. No plus size girls are main love interesting because of their dreamy and romantic personality. I hate this trope so much – if you’re plus size, you must be funny to be liked for personality.
I have two lovely partners who definitely like me for me AND they like my body. I’ve felt the way you feel before. I’m largefat also not the skinnyfat that’s portrayed in a lot of pro-plus size media.
I fully believe there is love out there for you. Just keep swimming in the dating pools. Don’t give up and don’t ever date people who hide your existence.
I noticed people in general treat you nicer if you are not overweight. I was most of my life a “stocky” “big boned”
girl. I had bariatric surgery and lost a lot of weight. 232 heaviest. 115 lightest. 155ish now. Im 5’2″. When I was guant skinny. 115. That was the best Ive been treated in public by anyone and everyone. It was a notable difference. Still is. Im at what I call “real women weight”. Im the one that doesn’t get greeted at the door in TSC or Ace Hdrw. I get overlooked everywhere I go. And Im used to it. It’s ironic ah.
I can only speak for myself, but personally, the only woman I ever dated who wasn’t plus sized was my first girlfriend, when I was a teenager and therefore still susceptible to social pressure on who and what I should find attractive. Now, that’s not to say that I only find plus sized women attractive, just that I stopped caring what other people think, and coincidentally the women I ended up dating after that were mostly on the cuddly side.
i’m happy and in love and fat.
That may be true for white men and maybe most East Asian guys. But that’s definitely not true overall in the Black and Latino communities. Where I’m from, thicker women are celebrated.
Lots of guys are too worried about what other people think to date who they want. My gf is a big girl and we’ve been together for 7 years now. Whatever people think, that’s their business, not mine.
So, we are out there, it just sucks that you have to sift through so many guys to find us. Definitely don’t waste your time on anyone who isn’t proud to show you off and introduce you to the people in their life.
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I love plus sized women!…..as long as the weights in the right spots. If you built like a the rock ah nah.
Idk about other men but I have many plus size female friends whom I would LOVE to date if they are available to it. So it might be the preference of individual
This one also works in reverse. One thing I’ve noticed though is that male and female homosexuals tend to be more attracted to bigger bodies of their own kind
I see SO MANY dudes showing love for them in the comments which is funny because I am absolutely invisible in real life. The amount of internet dudes that gush and tell me I’m gorgeous etc vs how men react in day to day tells me they want me to stay as their moped.
Nope sorry would rather be single.
You’re loved. It’s guys that hate big women that we hate. Men truly care so much about what people think. Because we’re taught that what we think doesn’t matter. It’s only about what we do. Yall are innocent casualties in toxic male culture. Sorry for that
I think they exist, but many men know that other men will judge them and how hierarchy works
I’m a plus-size woman. I have been with my fiancé for almost eight years. Shallow men don’t want to date us.
Somewhat I understand totally what you mean OP.
I could sit here and take thungs off my chestbhere as my experience also relates to this that led my ex leaving me and his two kids behind. But I will skip that lengthy part.
So my ex used to say to me he loved me for who I am and he loved me a lot, or so that I thought he did!
I have PCOs that were diagnosed very kate in my life, and due to that, i always struggled with my weight with POCs you have to work twice as hard to lose weight then a person that don’t have this condition. I was 189.2 lbs before marriage, and in four months after being diagnosed, I shredded weight and down to 132.5. I felt good for myself and for my ex-husband.
After having our first child (unexpected because I was told I have 1% of chance getting pregnant without any IVF treatment) i put weight due to my busy working life and pist natal depression. My ex would say he doesn’t mind, and if I want to lose weight, then I should be doing it for myself, not because of him or someone else.
However, once I reached my max at 205 lbs, he started to hint at me, even come home, and talked about this woman at work, how he is attractive to her and her life style. He envy that she has this lifestyle. My heart used to skip beats because after hearing from a man who claimed that he truly loves me for who I am, he is talling about another woman in front of me. I gave him a choice: if you are not happy, we can split even than he used to say no. I love you.
Anyhow, I thought I should try hard. So I went to the gym every single day during my lunch break at work for 45 mins to an hour. After a few months, I dropped back to 134.7 lbs. I wore sexiest clothes that I would never wear. People do consider me being beautifully and attractive as I had a few men who used to ask me out? I used to say there is only one man in my life that I truly love, and that is my husband. Maybe next time.
So after losing a lot of weight and wearing the next clithes, a few times he took me out for dinner, and I ordered salad with some protein while he would eat burgers and chips. He used to say,’If you are coming out with me at order proper food, why starve yourself?’ i replied i loke thus now, and I am not starving’, so once we went out and I ordered burger and chips, I couldn’t finish it off because it was too greasy. He finished my leftover, and as we were walking on the road, he said to ‘i thought you said you are going to gym but your legs are still little chppier’ the tears ran down my cheeks.
Later I found that he had this fucking imaginary woman in his head that he tried to fit me into her image. So, no matter how hard I tried, it would have never been able to fit in that imaginary woman’s image. He was a hypocrite and a narcissist.
During sex he used to be very different, “used to say i live your body,” but as soon as the sex is over , i become obese for him.
While we were taking time to ponder and give eachother a space, he bought a woman home and slept on the same fucking bed and used my brand new jacuzzi. When I found out he said it was only one yime and I well know that it wasn’t. So I, for the first time, i hate you more than I loved you. I could handle everything in life but cheating when I gave an open choice to end the marriage. If you are not happy, why cheat and still claim that you love me? So he is gone now but left me with two kids, I devoted my.lufe for my kids now. Showing them how to respect yourself and the person you will love in further.
Man, even at age 53, still ask me out. One man has been asking me for years, but I have lost my trust and interest in men. By saying this, it doesn’t mean that every man is the same.
So, OP, i do agree with you to some extent. Hopefully, you find your mister right, but make sure whatever you do, do it for yourself. Be happy in what you do.
I hate skinny women, I love you and all plus size.
Honey, listen: I’m a (relatively) skinny woman with wide hips and huge boobs. I’ve been fetishized all my life. I know what that feels like. And, like you, I feel like men only ever date me to get in my pants. I think it’s a pretty universal experience because there’s a lot of really crappy men out there. But there are a few good ones. Please don’t blame your body for not having found one, it’s just that we’re rooting around for the proverbial needle in the haystack. I’ve stopped looking for now and am just loving on me, my friends and my nieces ❤️🩹🫂 and I’m scared to get back out there! We can do it, hey?
My experience is the opposite. I found a man who loves me but doesn’t want to touch me because I’m too fat.
Men are not a monolith. Some like plus size women, some don’t. Some like plus size men, some don’t. Some are interested in dating, some aren’t. Some are interested in sex, some aren’t.
I know this sounds flippant, but it really isn’t.
People “generally” seek out partners that match the aesthetic of whatever social group they belong to. If you aren’t in alignment with whatever that is you’re going to have a bad time.
It’s not all doom and gloom but either you change or the group you aspire to belong to does. You absolutely deserve love, it just may not come from those in closest proximity to you right now.
Also, please any woman reading this men will have sex with nearly anything. Sexual attention is hard for most men to get, please stop confusing desire for mattress mambo with intention for matrimony. Please don’t let other women’s anecdotes or in some cases outright lies detract from my point. If there’s something about you that’s within your control that you know is a problem it is in your best interest to address.
I don’t know, I feel like I’ve heard similar stories from women of any size, even very conventionally attractive ones. That many men are only attracted to their bodies, and not interested in them as a person. It’s sad, but it seems to be a common experience.
As for my own experience, I used to be normal weight, but only found love after becoming plus size. Not saying there’s a correlation (it’s more about my confidence and mental health I believe), but at least I can confidently say that the weight gain didn’t make me unlovable.
Well to be fair, most women don’t like plus size men. Being plus size is just unattractive in general, so lose weight.
I really don’t understand the issue here lol
I feel this. My bf and I got together when I was super skinny. Well, years and years passed and we are both bigger now, but I am fat. Much fatter than him. We both can diet and he will lose weight and I won’t. I feel like I’m such an embarrassment and downgrade. Like I used to look decent, now I’m a fat cow he’s stuck with. The kind of mismatched couple people see and ask, “why tf is he with her?” He hasn’t said anything mean or rude or anything, but I know I’m fat. I know how gross I look. I hate that I can diet and eat right and not lose anything. Might as well eat what I want if it doesn’t matter (within reason, obviously). I’ve been to doctors over and over trying to figure out wtf is wrong with me and they don’t know.
Some do, probably most dont, everyone had their tastes, there are far fewer women who like plus sized men than fit men.
Im conventiqlly unactractive, but there have been peoplr who thougjt i was very handsome. Everyonr is different.
This is a tough one. Some men are attracted to plus size, but there is some math you need to understand. This math leads to a reduced chance of finding what you really want. It’s just a reality based hypothesis but I think it will make sense if I don’t botch the explanation.
There is a small percentage of men that are attracted to bigger women. Let’s be generous and say 10% of available men, I think this number may be closer to 5% and likely less. Blame society, but most men are not attracted to larger women. It’s just reality.
For the sake of this example, of the 10% that are in this demographic assume just half are in a relationship already.
That leaves you around a 5% number, but again, I think this number is likely actually 2% or less.
These men have more options than the average single male. They are attracted to a subset of the population that many men aren’t attracted to. So they have more “fish in the sea” or options than most single men looking to mingle because they have options.
You said all they want is sex. Well, if you have a multitude of options and don’t need commitment, as a man, why would you settle down. None of the drama or dependency of a relationship but you still have the benefits.
It’s horrible to say out loud, but if a small subset of any species desires and is desired by a larger subset of a species the smaller group has the power to thrive in accordance with the standards set forth.
The simplest way of overcoming this obstacle is providing something that your competitors don’t offer. I’m a dude, so I don’t have much of anything to offer outside of make yourself unique and that’s how you attract a more desirable mate. Be someone that they cannot just go out and replace with ease.
I’m sorry you feel this way, but take a step back and look at it from a more rational and less emotional perspective.
I guess the moral of this story is you are uniquely you. Don’t mold or transition yourself to be what they want you to be. Be the person that makes you a great person and focus on those traits. Highlight and exploit those unique characteristics and you’ll find the guy that wants those things. Being “every other girl” isn’t how you find guys. Being you is how to do it. Be unapologetically you. It will work.
As a pretty skinny woman, I have to agree. Growing up, I was constantly told by boys and then men that plus size women are only for a fun time, not a long time.
True attraction to a very plus size is one thing, curvy is another , and yes that is not the rule but rather the exception.
Some or even most men will hardly ever pass up a chance for sex, and that sometimes includes sex with each other even if they don’t identify as gay.They would deny until their last breathe same as many would not admit to liking bigger women. Sometimes they may even change and start to prefer them with experience.
I do not believe though that fat or big girls are never loved. Most wives out there are of a plus size and I think most men would say they both love and cherish their wives. They may have married a fit or slender women sure, but I think men still love their wives.
At a certain point being obese would concern a husband as to his wife’s long term health and become a problem both for every day life as well as intimacy.
Women often make poor choices with men not recognizing they need to work out their own issues with self love or lack thereof. If you offer up sex, most men will accept. If you expect more from just the act of sex you are fooling yourself. It’s not weight it’s respecting yourself and showing yourself to be an amiable kind person that brings others close to you. You have to give someone time to get to know you and show them who you are. If that is a great person, the right man will love you at any size. If he’s shallow,immature or a user do you really want to give yourself to that type? Women have to respect themselves first at any size.
I feel like that’s true but there’s some exceptions. My brother is skinny and is married to a plus size woman and so is my godfather to my godmother.
And both couples love each other like crazy.
I lost almost 20kg in the last couple years and the difference in attention from men is night and day. Besides those who have a fetish I think that any guy would pick the thinner version if given the choice.
“Plus size” womens don’t like “plus size” mens, even for sex(and they call them “obeses”)
Definitely not unique to plus size women. It’s men. They just want sex, period. I went through a string of men who didn’t want “anything serious.” But they were totally cool with having sex. It was a crushing realization.
Nope. Plus size. Been in relationships that were truly loving and had a wonderful time. Still friends with them and all of us are happily married.
As in all relationships it’s about being happy and honest with yourself and your partner. Self esteem and self awareness and self respect play a big part in all of this. Don’t accept less when you want and deserve more.
Woah who would have thought
Even non white men? Bl
It’s even worse in some countries/cities, where no one would even want to hook up with a plus sized woman, let alone date them.
In my experience that’s not true, but I’m sorry that for yours it is :/
Exactly! Whenever I comment how fat stomach makes one unattractive (including me), I get downvoted into oblivion.. As if they really find such women attractive! But in reality that’s not the case at all!
Take it from me, if you keep looking and trying you will find someone. I didn’t find my husband until I was 34.
Plus, I know four men who have married plus sized women. 🙂
I will admit, finding someone when you don’t fit into societal beauty standards is hard, but it it can happen. It just might not happen when you want it to.
But if you keep trying, you’ll eventually find someone. 🙂
I mean, if my husband only wanted me for sex, he wouldnt have impregnated me twice or married me. He also wouldnt show his love every day the way he does.
Just need to find the right person for you.
You most likely are rejecting the men that actually want love.
I think there is something that you might be self conscious about, and you’re attributing your strife to that, when in reality it’s difficult for ANYONE to cultivate real love. It doesn’t happen the way it does in fairy tales and movies. It’s multifaceted work, it’s transactional, and what you give has to be acceptable TO the other person. Meaning you can show love in the way that YOU show love, but if it’s not how they RECEIVE love, it’s not going to count.
You can pick any physical attributes and place your success or shortcomings on that one thing, but it’s not going to help you find love.
That’s not true. I was plus sized when I started dating my husband. He never had any issue about that. I had to loose weight for my fatty liver though. Still he treats me same.
There are men who really into woman’s smile, personality, aura, her mind. So body size doesn’t bother them.
This is why I steer clear of anything romance related. IMO don’t put stuff in my head that’ll never come to be a reality. I have no desire to be thin and I don’t fit the mold of a fat girl that is considered “attractive” (ie flat stomach, large ass and t*ts, and curves). I don’t want to fit the mold and I have no desire to try. Anytime men talk about liking fat girls it absolutely always comes down to what we can DO for them and the sex they want/have. Hard no. And tbh I doubt women are better but I dunno (I’m not straight)
Men only wants sex regardless of what body type, physical appearance, and/or the amount of money or domestic labor women could have. Sad reality but true. This is why women choose the bear over men.
They don’t. It’s a fetish for some but not for the long run.
I can’t make other men change their shitty minds but I will say this as someone who has been happily married for 15 years to a woman who is plus-sized and was plus-sized when I met her – its a much better life with way better sex to be in love with your best friend and not a fucktoy. Shallow fuckers don’t deserve you and you don’t need them. They’ll be 40 one day and realize they have never been truly happy.
I’ve been BMI 56 and I’ve been BMI 22.
I have to agree with OP, men are much more willing to be romantic and generous with women they find attractive and that seems to have a lot to do with size.
For some reason people have a very hard time accepting this fact and will bend over backwards to say otherwise.
Hey! I’m a big guy 6ft3 350lbs, I have to pull my shoulders in for most normal doors. I LOVE plus size women, my wife is 250+ and with the exception of a grade school gf I have NEVER dated a woman below 200. There are men who will love you for who you are.
My mom has been obese for my entire life, as has my dad. My parents have been happily married and in love the entire 30 years. Love exists!
That sounds like a you issue. I am plus size and know many plus size women who can get a date and are dating.
No we don’t. Go to the gym.
I know a plus sized woman who has a boyfriend and supposedly been each other’s first everything. She talked about him pretty fondly so I’m sure she feels loved.
I’m sorry you feel that way right now.
I think going out and experiencing life and putting yourself in situations to help you develop and grow might be beneficial to your self esteem. How old are you? If you can, go travel. Go live in a different country. Take some in person classes (art, improve, photography, dance, whatever). Learn something new. I have found that being an interesting person with self esteem goes a long way in attracting people. Go on a personal adventure, however it may look to you.
“You’re wrong.” – Man who dates/would marry the right woman, plus-sized or not.
Modern society would likely consider the woman who I loved the most to be plus size. To me, she was just my goddess. I was so attracted to her heart, mind, body, and soul. But…. She left me as I was approaching the best shape I had been in for many years. Maybe she thought I’d eventually leave her, but I told her how beautiful she was to me every day. Sometimes it seems like people want love until it’s right in front of them. Then, they run from it.
OP, I wish for you to find a man who sees you and loves you like I saw and loved my lady. Just don’t run from him when you do find him.
men do. my man does lmao. he always telling me to eat more & get bigger lol he thinks i look adorable. & hes lean lol
My man likes plus sized women and we’ve been in a committed relationship for over a year. Dw, they’re out there 🙂
Are you including plus sized men? Not trying to be a jerk, honestly curious.
That ain’t true, black guys love a BBW!