I’m 30 years old, and I’ve never been intimate with another person or been in a relationship. Unfortunately, I was born with 2 inches of shame in my nether regions (and no, it doesn’t get any bigger). As a result of being brutally bullied in school when I was younger (I hate locker rooms so much) I developed a pretty strong phobia of sex and relatioships and generally do not trust or enjoy being around women.
For the most part I’m at peace with this. I tried therapy for awhile but never found it useful, mainly because of how therapists downplayed my struggles and tried to convince me it was all in my head. It’s a bit irritating when people make small dick jokes and then try to gaslight you into thinking it’s your imagination, but ultimately there are other things to focus on in life. For me, the risk of being brutally rejected and shamed has always outweighed the potential reward of a girlfriend, especially since any woman I’m with would just be settling for me and see me as a second-choice consolation prize. Being confined to monogamous relationships and disqualified from participating in casual sex and any kinks not involving humiliation or cucking (both of which I despise) ultimately cemented my conclusion that sex and dating are not for me.
Last week I was asked out on a date by an absolutely beautiful woman I work with. She had shown strong interest in me and I could tell she was hoping I’d say yes. I said no, of course, as I always do. For the most part it went well – I explained (lied) that I’d never date a coworker and was not looking for a relationship right now. The people I work with know I’ve turned down another woman before for the same reason, so I think she knew it wasn’t anything against her personally.
I know I made the right choice, as any emotional attachment built between us would come crashing down the moment she saw my shame. But I still do feel a lingering…regret? Is that the right word? More of a sadness that I lost the genetic lottery and am therefore obligated to reject women to protect myself.
I suppose there will be comments on this post downplaying the importance of penetration, denying my lived experience, pointing to lesbians, etc. I’ve seen it before on reddit when men lament being born so small only to have their sadness and fear be dismissed and disbelieved by obnoxious gaslighters. That’s fine, though. It’s not like anything anyone says will ever change the strict “risk outweighs reward” calculus that governs my celibacy.
Maybe life would be different if I was average-sized. But I’m not. So I practice celibacy out of self-preservation and politely turn down the small handful of women who have shown interest in me. It’s better to be a virgin forever than to risk the wrath and cruelty of others if they were to ever discover my size.
Life goes on.
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Have you considered looking for an asexual partner?
Also, have you talked to a urologist to see if there is anything that can be done?
There are a lot of options here if you find the right partner. But I understand how the mental component can really just kill your spirit to even try.
Sex and intimacy ain’t all about dick sizes my guy
Dawg if you look up videos on how to eat pussy well, I feel like most women would be cool with 2 inch’s. Just saying, there are options
While i understand the mental problems that come with this and i am in no way downplaying it, thats very rough. But you are doing yourself short my friend, there are lots of ways to pleasure a woman. You deserve love.
A true woman will love you for all aspects of you. Not just your size down there. Please don’t rob yourself of one of life’s most precious treasures, genuine love.
You’ve spent your whole life trying to stay safe — but safety is not the same as living. Step out of your comfort zone. Risk to feel, risk connection. That’s where life begins.
Out and out confession. Not looking for advice. Fair enough. Doesn’t even seem like you want to try here bud.
This is the type of thing I mean when I say patriarchy hurts men.
There are people who wouldn’t mind being intimate with someone who has a small D, but it is fair that you don’t want to trust just anyone with that.
I used to have a friend named bottle cap (use ur imagination on why he got that nick name) he was always dripping in women bc he could eat it like it was his last meal no woman left unsatisfied and never seen a women not come back for seconds there’s more to sex than penetration (not down playing ur struggle as woman I can only imagine) just a fyi
My daughter is asexual. She’d love a partner not interested in sex.
You could phrase the rejection differently and still potentially find companionship. You definitely limit your choices, but there are definitely women out there that do not want an average penis.
Can anything be done about your size?
hey, i just came here to say this, im 34f, the best most earth shattering orgasm i have ever had, was when i slept with a friend who has a micropenis. he simply learned how to do things differently. unfortunately it was just before he left for overseas. i did know beforehandthat he had a small penis, and it did not stop me from persuing him. penis size really isnt everything.
is maybe a worthwhile thing knowing that lesbians figure it out. it means there is a height of pleasure out there which doesnt involve a penis at all, i would guess he learned from that perspective.
there is somewhat limited sensation inside a vagina and sooooo many men bore me by just fucking and expecting me to like it. dont have any clue about female anatomy, and dont bother to learn, learned too much from porn. id pick someone like you over someone like them, any day! they think theyre great at it too. . so its really hard to teach them.
humans can be horrible, they really can be, but you underrestimate our capacity also to love, and there are humans out there who you havent even given a chance to find out about! we arent all the same.
perhaps you need a teammate with the equal opposite problem! you know theres women out there with tiny difficult to penitrate vaginas. i bet they feel a bit hard to love too.
So you found an amazing woman that likes you, and that you like, and you decided for her that your penis is the dealbreaker? Yeah man, you do not deserve her .
I am terribly sorry that your size has haunted you all your life into avoiding women altogether. That must be a heavy load to carry alone.
It doesn’t sound like you’re looking for advice, and from your post and responses it seems your mind is completely made up about all women ‘hypothetically’ caring about size. As you grow older (because 30 is still young) you will learn that not all women are the same. Many will probably call it a dealbreaker but there are some that seek love, validation, a soul mate, partnership etc. from a relationship and are willing to look past size, and help teach you how to please them. I am one of them, so I know they exist. Like many have said in this post, perfect something else and you will be great.
Your fear of humiliation is holding you back from happiness, but I get why. Good luck, I really hope you’re able to “try yourself out” one day✨
“obnoxious gaslighter” I’m literally a woman who doesn’t like penetration and prefers small dicks. I don’t doubt that you are traumatised by the abuse you lived, but don’t call me a liar for stating my preferences and don’t pretend they don’t exist. I understand your choice to avoid sex, I understand you not wanting to take the risk, but it doesn’t mean it’s impossible to have a fulfilling sex life with a small dick.
I wonder where you’re getting your information about “most” women rejecting you. I’ve been with two people who were small and I never suffered because of their size! Perhaps it motivated them to be more attentive and skilled but I was perfectly happy without D.
Regardless, you’re free to choose your own lifestyle with its risks, benefits, fears, and strengths. I get it. I have some self protective behaviors and I feel happier when I feel safer. I only wish happiness and peace for you.
As a nurse, I’ve taken care of lots of folks
Some dudes who were less than most down south, and some were the inverse also, like baby arm size
At first I was surprised to see these dudes with wives and a gaggle of kids
I stopped being surprised
This can be hard, but maybe stop trying to make decisions for other people. If someone likes/loves you, who are you to tell them no? That they can’t like/love you?
By making that choice for them, you could be robbing them and yourself of happiness
Be kind to yourself, I’m not sure how those other dudes navigated that situation, but seeing them with their families tells me it’s possible.
Pardon the pun, but don’t sell yourself short, you’re more than your penis size.
I hope you’re able to find happiness man, truly
Edit: some grammar and sentence structure
I have a friend who has dated men who are not well endowed (2 inches erect) and it was not an issue for her. I wonder how its like with other men who have a similar issue as yours. Regardless, Im sure other peoples’ experiences are different from your own experiences so if you are comfortable with your decision, its your life and your choice.
I read your post, and I find it really sad to see someone reduce themselves entirely to one physical trait, as if they were just a “walking micropenis,” and nothing more. You clearly have a deep self-hatred because of it, and I don’t think anything will really change that unless you start seeing and accepting yourself differently.
Like someone else said, your life ends up being ruled by fear, the fear of being exposed, of disappointing someone. But that’s no way to live. You’re not just a body part. You’re a whole person. From what you wrote, it sounds like you have a personality people appreciate. And clearly, if multiple women at work are into you, you must have some physical appeal too.
Personality matters when you’re attracted to someone, and for some its essential. I mean, I couldn’t sleep with someone who looks like a god if they were dumb as a rock. Attraction isn’t just physical, it’s more complex than that. And yes, there are people who care only about physic, but there are also plenty who care about emotional connection, personality, humor, intelligence, the whole package.
Ask yourself: are you happy with your choice to never take the risk of being with someone? Or are you just terrified of being hurt, of seeing someone disappointed? It’s okay to be scared but it also means you’re giving up on a huge part of life by not acting on it. And I truly believe there are people out there who would love you exactly as you are.
Maybe if dating someone at work feels too risky, you could try meeting someone outside that environment, maybe through an app. And if you’re brutally honest from the start, it might actually be liberating. Sure, some people might not be okay with it, just like some people might not be okay with parts of your personality. But others will be. You just have to give them a chance to know the whole you.
And like many have already said: there are plenty of women who aren’t focused on penetration at all, and who find much more pleasure in other forms of intimacy, foreplay, emotional connection, etc. So yes, no matter your size, you can absolutely give and receive pleasure. You can be loved. This physical trait does not define you neither your ability or worth to be a good partner.
Where’s that woman who has the fetish for people of this guys issue
Funny especially woman tend to care less about physical characteristics like penis length and much more about your personality. I know 2 inches is hard to find even for her. In my opinion if you managed to open up to her after after some time you might as well find out that she doesn’t really care too much you know ? Because I actually know some decent woman which actually don’t really give too much or a fuck about this. There are ways to work around that and the key ingredients of a good functional relationship are way different things
You should be brutally honest and even joking with your penis length. Wear it like an armor. Nothing is sexier than confidence.
I’d rather a guy with 2 inches who knew how to use his hands and mouth than 6+ inches that didn’t. .
If your previous therapists downplayed your concerns, then they aren’t the right ones
Average sized guy here.
First, I think you were right to turn down the coworker. I’m sure there are a set of women who are accepting, but to hope a coworker was would be too much against the odds. Good choice.
I do not have your lived experience, but I will suggest you suffer from “terminal uniqueness.” It’s like no one you talk to can convince you to even reconsider your stance. That’s a difficult place to be. Been there, different circumstances. Was challenging to realize many people are insecure like me.
Best of luck.
Are there not ladies who would pursue this as a preference due to their own issues in the genitalia region? Shallow vaginas or something similar? I wouldn’t call it a shame as you were born how you were born, it’s not your fault. But I think it’s not that big an issue with the right person, you just need to know its “OK” before you engage with anyone and that’s the issue as you need 100% trust it will be OK before it goes anywhere. It’s a bit of a stalemate really.
I wish there was a dating site people who have issues like yours could go and meet each other, a place where everyone is aware of each others issues and there’s no risk of judgement before or during.
You gave two choices. Live your life lonely, unfulfilled and empty. Existing but not experiencing.
Or take some risks, face your fear of rejection and live an actual life.
I think you’re in the Shawshank position here.
Get busy living, or get busy dying.
Your choice my friend. And I’m not sure, when broken down, it’s really a choice.
I wouldn’t wish your condition on my worst enemy.
It’s the truth, fuck everybody that says otherwise, and tried to downplay this. Your confession here sounds like a nightmare to me..
But… Here’s what I would do in your stead.
Go on the date, with any girl you find interesting. And if there’s a personal connection there, if you both feel something, you end the date having…. “The talk”.
Cuz this is not something you can just spring on someone, you gotta tell her. Micropenis, the whole shebang, and then you say, “ok, now you know, give me a call tomorrow if you want to continue this.”
And give her a few days to think about it.
Remember, all you need is one girl to go, you know what, that’s not a dealbreaker, I’m gonna pursue this.
Ok so… Now what? Well, you gotta deliver in other ways, your fingers, your tongue, that takes training, and a patient partner. There are also wearable extensions, strapons… Etc…
And nobody would blame you for getting really into pegging, let’s be honest.
But yeah, that would be my move. Might as well own it, at least with people you’re dating.
You sound like an extremely negative and self deprecating person that thinks women only care about one thing. Trust me if they reject you it’s not because of your dick size.
If they truly care for you and love you they will work with it , will it happen overnight… No buuuut you definitely have zero chance if you turn everyone down .
All I’m saying is a date(First date usually)won’t lead to sex and being naked , a simple date and getting out there will do wonders for you . If anything I would try getting out there more (I’m not well endowed either) and working on my social skills , self , and maybe just maybe learning to give good oral , toys , hell there are woman (and men) out there that are Asexual and dont practice sex at all maybe you could look for that kind of person so the relationship from the start shows sex is bottom of the list in terms of fun things to do with a partnerShrug
Wish you all the best !
I remember seeing a Reddit post about a woman who was dating a man and taking it slow, when eventually he told her BEFORE they had sex that he had a micropenis. I remember thinking that must have taken a lot of courage.
It might have been r/sex; she was asking for advice on how to make it work because she was falling for this guy and didn’t want to lose him. People were super supportive – it seemed to take a little creativity and exploration – pleasure can be had in so many ways.
And personally, I would never shame a man publicly OR privately about his body one way or another. And there’s a kind of love that exists where you cherish every inch of them, “flaws” and all.
I don’t want to come across like I’m minimizing your pain. Your mind seems to be made up, and I completely understand. It just makes me sad to see you lose all hope, while I have hope that there’s hope for you 🙂
Maybe consider looking for someone who has a kink for a small penis?
As a female ,
Bring toys 🍆
Use fingers 👉
Mouth 👄
Tongue 👅
Words 🎶
Music 🎼
Videos 📺
Food 🧁
Be honest!
Yes, women can be asshats! But it’s not all about the penis. Yes, it can be great, but it’s not all we want. If my husband was unable to perform any more , I’m not going to leave him. I’m not going to judge. He has fingers and a tongue, and he knows how to use them, and when there’s moments when he can’t due to injury I’m not complaining.
I’ve been with someone around the same size as you’re describing. Unfortunately, it was HIS personality that made me not want to see him again after a while. Not his size.
I hope you’ll find the courage and strength 💪 to put yourself out there and find someone who will want you for you.
I’m sorry your going through this. You might feel these things now but regret it when you’re older. What else do you have to lose. Save money and get the phalloplasty surgery and you can gain another 2 inches. maybe than this will help you feel more comfortable. Also it is very true that most women men do not get off from just penetration anyway. Again think about your end goals in life now. There are women who don’t prefer sex but prefer oral more.I know there is a way around this. Anyway I hope you know you matter in this world more than your size down there. You really do.
My brother in christ I once had an ED patch and I slept with this girl with just a full on floppy, using hands and mouth too, and she still finished and came back for more. Confidence is everything
Gay dude here who’s sucked plenty of dick. There are enough of us out there that I can comfortably say that there are many folks who enjoy tiny and micro dicks. There are enough sluts out there, men and women (and more), that I’m confident you’d find someone who’d love riding your dick into the proverbial sunset.
This reminds me of a post here on reddit in which the woman, at a party with friends, made a remark on the small size of the pen*s of her husband (the OP). Everyone heard it. She was very regretful, but I wonder if the relationship recovered. Being shamed by peers can be horrible.
That being said, there are lots of people for whom sex is not important, or who are sexual disfunctional in other ways. Who are disabled and impotent AND who have well functioning relationships. It’s all in the social media postings. So, although I understand your problem very well, I just wonder: how do THEY nourish their relationships? Touching, caressing, can be fullfilling also, if other human needs are met.
I just wonder: what if you found the niche you could work with / in?
Hey dude,
I am not going to dismiss your pain. You got humiliated when you were a teen and it deeply impacted you. This is a trauma that you are trying to deal with. It is not easy and it requires a lot of courage to overcome it. Let me just tell you few things. When you read this, keep in mind that I get that you have your calculus risk/reward.
Kids, are assholes. They lack empathy. And that’s normal. Brains are not fully formed and they hurt each other. It changed you and I get it. Nevertheless, you should know that it should not shape your entire life as some girls out there do NOT give a shit about the size of your stick.
You also wrote that you do not like reading about the downplaying of penetration. Well, I am sorry to say this to you but studies are categorical. The high majority of women do not get aroused from penetration. What matters is the foreplay and how good you are with your tongue. I recommend you to read the following book: “She comes first”, from Ian Kerner. Not only it will help you to realize that, but also it could give you some help when the first day comes and you will get intimate for the first time. Cause yeah, that will come. You cannot stay in your shell and comfort zone all your life. Easy to say I know but I feel like you need a little kick in your ass. Let me be this random redditor who gives you a virtual kick!
Pain is part of life. The minute you allow yourself to love, you will get pain at some point. It is part of it. Those who do not take the risk, stay alone and miserable all their life. The right woman for you won’t mind at all. Take it as a way to filter out the wrong ones. If that s an issue, fine. Move on to the next one.
People gossip about everything. People are mean. We live in a mean world my guy. It s gonna be the size of your dick or it s gonna be because you are too poor to afford fancy shoes to go work. Life is pain. Do not let the pain block you from living your life. Love is part of life. Just go and get it!!!!
Take the risk and embrace rejection. You have nothing to lose.
Size is irrelevant – you can learn how to keep her happy in other ways. More guys than you’d think have this problem.
Hey man.
Dont take this personally, but I think youre an idiot if you put that much stock in the size of your dick.
Lighten up.
I’m a man who does not have a penis and I get around. You’re gonna be fine.
OP at this point is seems like you’re trolling. If you respond to any reassurance with “stop gaslighting me” then why did you post?
If you’re just looking for some solidarity and agreement, you won’t find that among reasonable folks because lamenting together with you about how all women actually just crave a big dick would simply be a lie.
Perhaps what you fear most is realizing that it’s not your penis size holding you back, but rather something else? My humble advice would be to identify that, and work on it. In this day and age there genuinely is someone for everyone, unless it’s your choice to be alone (which is also fine).
If a licensed therapist can’t help you, Reddit certainly can’t. You are the only person standing in your way. Weaponizing therapy buzzwords like “gaslighting” to try to prove your point only solidify that idea.
Bisexual women exist, friend. There’s a lot of them. Plenty of potential partners are okay with a penis size of non-existent. I’ve slept with a previous partner who had a micropenis, and it was absolutely not a deal breaker. Do you know what was? His exhausting, obsessive insecurity about it. His refusal to participate in sex and enjoy himself. It was boring and not a lot of fun. If he’d figured out a way to feel differently about the whole situation? We could have had a lot of fun. Also I tell people I had a previous partner (sexual partner, not life partner, I ended it way before it got that serious) who had a micropenis but I’ve never told anyone who it was, or revealed it to anyone who knew him.
So you have literally no excuse. Get a therapist if you want to explore this aspect of life, or don’t if you don’t want to. But accept that it’s a choice you’re making, not one being forced on you by others.
Why risk winning when you can choose to perpetually lose, right? I hate to sound harsh, and I am being harsh, but you throwing yourself a pity party doesn’t help your situation, it just ensures that you will never escape it.
You are at a disadvantage, that’s true. However, you could navigate around it. There are plenty of women who that wouldn’t be a big deal for. But I get the impression that you don’t want to hear that. I get the feeling that you aren’t interested in solutions or encouragement. You just want to wallow in self-defeat. Okay then, man. Wallow away.🤷♂️
P.S. It is wild that a bunch of boys bullied you in the locker room and as a result you don’t enjoy being around women. You could just be… friends with them, bruv. Being friends with women doesn’t have anything to do with your penis. You have an unbelievable amount of shit that you need to work through, man.
Gonna be blunt. Just learn how to give head and make a woman cum without your member. Don’t take your underwear off until after she gets hers. Pretty much every woman wants more fore play than most men give, so if you can make women orgasm before you have to get your penis involved, you basically have all the cards when revealing your size 😂 she’s already attracted enough to be with you / fuck you whether that attraction be physical or whatever. Sexually she wants to orgasm, and feel loved/desired. You can make soooo much of that happen with your tongue, hands, voice, etc. In fact, those things are UNDER valued. I have an average dick, but I used to have this issue where I was like a one pump chump right lmao. So I avoided sex for a long time. Until I decided I didn’t want to I guess but I just started giving food head and attention and making damn sure she came before she even touched my dick, and then it was just funny if I came fast. If you can make a girl cum, she probably won’t give a fuck if your dick is small. Maybe if she’s thinking about a relationship. Moral of the story? Act like it’s big. You can literally fake it until you make. You can literally have made her nut and still be faking it lmao.
I’ll be real, the 2 inches wouldn’t be a deal-breaker but the tone of this post and how much you think it matters would be the turn off for me.
OP, plenty of men have small dicks and still live happy lives in happy relationships, with good sex. You’ve gone your entire life with this manchild obsession about your dick size because of bad experiences you had in high school locker rooms. If lesbians can have some of the best sex women enjoy, then you shouldn’t have any issues. If you actually owned the fact you have a small dick instead of hiding behind your insecurity, projecting it obviously into the world, and placing so much importance on how other people view you for it, you would be a much happier person.
I understand what you mean. Yes, there are other non-penetrative ways to have sex, but you’re mourning the loss of a life where that’s not a concern for you. I have vaginismus, and not being able to have penetrative sex ruined my marriage. It gives me anxiety and low self esteem. I haven’t yet seriously dated anyone but my ex husband, and I’m already dreading the conversations where I have to tell someone about it because SO MANY people want the penetrative sex, the “normal” sex. I’m sorry you’re suffering, OP, but I hope you know there are women out there who would treasure you as you are, and a fulfilling romantic life is not off the table for you. Nor is it for me. We might just have to kiss a few more frogs than most along the way.
Hey, I say this with some genuine compassion, but your post is loaded with all-or-nothing thinking and a lot of assumptions about women that aren’t fair. You say you’ve come to terms with being single and never being intimate, but if that were really true, I don’t think you’d be posting this. It reads less like acceptance and more like hopelessness, like you’re trying to convince yourself that there’s no point in trying, so you won’t get hurt. That’s understandable, but it’s also self-defeating.
You mention turning down women who ask you out because you assume they’ll reject you once they know about your penis size. That’s not them rejecting you, that’s you rejecting yourself before they even get the chance to know who you are. You’re robbing yourself of intimacy and robbing them of the opportunity to decide for themselves what matters to them in a partner.
Also, I need to say this: your post has an undercurrent of misogyny. It implies that women are shallow or cruel by default and that they universally care more about penis size than anything else, which simply isn’t true. Reducing women to that stereotype isn’t fair and might be part of what’s keeping you stuck. It positions women as the problem rather than looking inward at what might be blocking connection on your end.
If you’re hurting, that’s valid. If you’re scared of rejection, that’s human. But blaming women as a group or writing yourself off entirely isn’t the answer. Therapy (which I know you said you tried, but find a different therapist dude) challenging your thought patterns, and maybe even connecting with others who’ve had similar struggles could help you get to a more hopeful place. Because despite what you’ve convinced yourself, this doesn’t have to be the end of your story.
But if you choose to let it be the end, if you’re going to reject any possibility of growth or connection, then stop posting about it. Get off Reddit and move on with your life. Harsh, I know. But I’ve lived through the same thinking (pushing people away for fear of rejection) and turns out it was a me problem.
There are women who would be perfectly happy with a loving partner regardless of size. You’ve been fed a lie about that your whole life.
I’m very sorry for the bullying you endured as a kid, there’s no denying that kind of thing can mess you up for life. Can I ask why it seems most of your disdain is faced towards women though? From reading, you mentioned it originating a locker room, so I tend to assume that means mostly men were perpetuating this bullying, at least at the origin of it. Not to say there aren’t women who didn’t contribute, but you mention not even liking being around women as a whole because of it. Why not the same disdain towards men?
I had a brief relationship with a great guy—tall, handsome, stylish, a talented musician, incredibly smart and charismatic. When he showed interest in me, I felt self-conscious and assumed he was out of my league.
For weeks we had awesome conversations, he was so funny and had a sharp wit. I’m def a person who falls for intellect and personality. I thought he was the total package…
But he avoided physical intimacy, so I planned a cozy home date to set the mood. He was nervous, which I found endearing, but things didn’t progress. I finally asked, “Do you want to have sex?”—and he blurted out, “It’s going to be the most mediocre sex of your life.” Total mood killer. Still, I’m sex-positive and joked, “How’s your head game?”
He was a generous partner—foreplay and oral were always great—but his deep anxiety and lack of confidence overshadowed everything. Attempts to initiate sex often turned into emotional conversations. He’d get upset or tearful when I reassured him that penis size wasn’t a big deal to me—but it clearly was to him. He had been bullied, shamed by women, even criticized by his dad.
Eventually, I had to end it. It became too emotionally draining to carry that burden. He had no self love or confidence, and I couldn’t be his cheerleader all the time. It was sad because he was a great guy – a catch in every sense of the word – but he was not emotionally available.
I hope OP can find a way to get through his body shame and find the confidence to enjoy a relationship. Intimacy is so much more than P in V. I wonder if they have considered a sex worker, or the kink scene…kink is inclusive and all about respect. Assuming the only avenue for kink is via shame or cuck dynamic is misguided. There are really open-minded and fun people into every body type. Just need to be open and find some self love. 🫶
Brother, I am not blessed in that area either! But I learned and make up for it in other ways. I’ve not ONCE been turned down or had a woman run away because of this. Confidence and knowing the woman’s anatomy will take you insanely far! Get out there and get it!
Just wanted to let you know trans guys struggle with this too, and I do understand your fear of having your “abnormal” genitals exposed and mocked. How hard it is to date in general.
So no, I can’t do normal guy hookups. I can’t have spontaneous sex. I have to explain and talk to any potential partners that “my junk probably isn’t what you’re normally expecting” and go from there.
But frankly, your fear is controlling you. And you’re turning bitter from the barriers you’re keeping yourself in. I think you’d genuinely be surprised that there’s people out there more than ready to hook up with you.
I dated someone with a micro penis. He was really cool and confident. We had great sex which mostly evolved around me, so that was great. Off course a slightly bigger one would have been nice, but it never even occurred to me that it is an issue. I have saggy tits, no hips, and pimples on my butt. Who cares!
Oh, and I go to nude campings. Believe me, there are a lot of 2 inch ones out there.
There’s so much nonsense in this thread. People who don’t have a micro telling OP what experiences he should have had, dismissing experiences he has had and attempting to blame Reddit and Porn and men.
This is why people don’t listen to you. You will refuse to admit that women aren’t the most kind and accepting people. And your lack of experience with that is not proof that it isn’t a thing.
OP, you’re doing nothing wrong.
You say the risk outweighs the reward. Are you sure? I don’t want to discredit your experiences. And you’re likely feeling this way due to some real trauma experiences. But have you ever tried truly letting go?
How will you ever know if the risk actually outweighs the reward if you never take the risk to begin with?
The people who degraded you around this are NOT your people. Your people will either not care about whether you even have a penis or not(Authentic friends) and your ideal partner may actually be into it.
Which does exist. I would guess there are more women that are intrigued by micro penises than there are men that have them.
Most women are turned off by insecurity. Not what a dudes dick looks like. If it’s a dealbreaker to someone that just means they aren’t meant for you. I promise you there are many people that could be meant for you.
Wow I am so sorry. People can be cruel and I know how it can hurt. I was a late bloomer and so bullied in school for not wearing a bra in middle school. Lucky for me I grew eventually. But I feel sad for your loneliness because everyone deserves love and companionship. I wish you could find a partner that made you feel comfortable and loved and was willing to work with what you have. Most women want a loving, caring compassionate man more than they want someone well endowed. Perhaps you can put yourself out there little by little. Just start with dating and not planning for it to get sexual, when you find a great connection with someone talk about it with them first see how they react before putting yourself out there sexually. I do hope you can overcome your fears for your own sake.
Ok but why don’t you go for someone who’s asexual ? You can still have a companion
Let’s all band together to push OP into going out with her!!!!
You live your life OP!!! And tbh, women don’t always look for that 1. And 2, bro, you don’t realize how hard sex can be in general for EVERYBODY. Well, normal folks. Especially when talking about bigger weighted woman or man or both.
Also, let me just say. If a woman falls in love with YOU, it’s for you and your soul. Not your dick.
If that woman comes along, and is okay with your size, there are products to add length to your shaft. You could honestly even get a strap on, just to sort of give that effect to a girl.
The RIGHT woman will work with you and not against you.
Not every woman craves sex. Also, some women hate being penetrated. Seems like that’s the woman you gotta find!!
But you WONT unless you get out there and try!!! Everyone in the comments supports you my guy!!! 💪💪💪
I’ve met men with micro penises and still managed to have ways of finding different positions, angles, and ways to have sex with them. And I think Nathan Fielder is extremely attractive, and he’s very open about his small penis, and his confidence makes him more attractive. I get that you’re afraid for very valid reasons and concerns, and a co-worker rejecting you and telling everybody about your size could also make it worse, if she ended up being a nightmare of a person, but I do hope you gain confidence someday and accept what you’ve got and find someone who’s okay with it. It’ll take a while but it’s not impossible. Sending you love.
Ngl bruh I think you need to look for a woman with vaginismus bc that’s probably all that comfortable anyways. And there’s a lot more women with it than you’d think. My 8 person friend group of girls has 2 with it and neither of them do penetrative sex anymore because typical sex with “regular” sized penises/strap ons is too painful. You have hope just practice connecting with women until you find THAT woman
I went out with a guy recently who talked so much about his big dick, and how he can make a chick have so many orgasms.. . Come to find out, he didn’t give oral at all, and I guess he thought he could talk his massive dick up so much that it would make up for that. Of course it does not, and I eventually stopped seeing him because he asked if I would toss his salad… He assumed his big dick made him so irresistible that i would be okay with that. I was not. I’d take a 1 incher and give up vaginal pentatration for life before a guy like him
I personally think you made the right decision to not go out with either of the women at your work. I think it would have a big potential to backfire – people can be very cruel, and gossip is unfortunately common among women at the workplace – especially women who are both trying to go out with you. Hell, they might even be asking because they know you don’t say yes to anyone and want to see if they can break that chain for a confidence boost. I would hate for one thing to go wrong, and then your entire office knows of the secret you’ve been keeping for 30 years. I agree that would be very humiliating and not worth it.
However, I do feel like the way you are thinking is holding you back from happiness. There ARE women out there that wouldn’t care/would like it (for other reasons than a fetish). And there are women out there that would care and might try to make a joke out of it. People suck. BUT if we are taking sticky risk to reward – if you went out with a woman that didn’t know you and had no connection to your personal life and things went wrong why is there any skin off your back? It wouldn’t have any impact on your inner circle. You could still go about life with this secret without having to receive backlash from anyone else.
Also if you meet someone and get to know them as a person before you try anything sexual you should be able to gather a decent idea on how they would react before any intimacy occurs to almost completely eliminate the chance of a moment that feels humiliating.
At the end of the day it’s your choice – but at least consider that just because some of us hold a different view, doesn’t automatically mean we are gaslighting you.
I’m not being an obnoxious gaslighter by saying that penetration isn’t enjoyable for me, especially if the guy is over 4-5in. The majority of women feel the same way and sorry your feelings can’t handle facts, but you have a self fulfilling prophecy right now.
I understand your anguish. Occupational therapy assistant here there are ALWAYS adaptations. I can understand why you would not want to engage is intimate activity due to bullying and being self conscious. Your feelings are valid. I have had friends in this exact predicament good news for you it’s 2025 and there are options for men like you. First option double penetrating rabbit.(im going to add links for you) what worked for one friend this toy has a ring you slip your penis through and a second for double penetration. The receiver will be on all 4s bent over and go to town you both will climax. The second option is a penis extension sleeve. It works just like a strap on and there are options with no straps that wrap around your balls. There are lots of different variations of these with thrusting and vibrating functions. Try them out alone first get comfortable with them. I hope you find confidence in yourself woman LOVE confidence. Own it this is you and you are worth intimacy in this life time. https://www.edenfantasys.com/male-sex-toys/cock-rings/double-penetrator-rabbit?_gl=1*pr62g8*_up*MQ..*_gs*MQ..&gclid=Cj0KCQjw8vvABhCcARIsAOCfwwrSHPyQl2CjEn03CzmJ_-f7n-JUk9Q1Ps2ITt41UL8HH9riIvugQO0aArCqEALw_wcB&gbraid=0AAAAA9b212r9jzxLFVgYB8Bh012HurYmo
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Having been bullied as a youngster. It sticks deep in your psyche. So understand your need for protection. But you are missing out on life’s pleasures, as long as you have no regrets. Good for you.
I have a female that honestly prefers a small penis and yes I do mean small. Not every girl is out here looking for a big dick, there are people that care more about the other aspects in a relationship. Do I think you’re ready for a relationship? Absolutely not because you are super insecure and it’s not fair to date someone if you are not willing to accept even a positive comment. That will be super exhausting for anyone to deal with. As long as you react to every positive with a negative, your life will continue to be nothing but negative.
I think you‘re afraid of rejection in general and are blaming it all on your small dick. If you build an emotional connection with a good woman, she isn‘t judt gonna up and leave you once she „discovers“ your small penis – it‘s just not how it works. Women aren‘t only interested in penises, wtf?! Stop feeling sorry for yourself, put yourself out there!
You will become bitter if you continue this way.
A boat is always safe in the harbour.
But that’s not what boats are for.
Dude, I read your posts and replies, and you are exhausting. I wouldn’t date you because of your negativity regardless of your dick size. I dated a guy for 2.5 years with a 2-inch penis and sexy times were never an issue. He refused to take off his pants for the first month or so, and then explained to me that he was self conscious, and then we had plenty of fun without issue once he let me. Sure, I was initially a bit skeptical/disappointed upon seeing it, sure I told my best friend about the situation in confidence, but frankly he was really great at ensuring I was satisfied and I had much better sex with him than other partners (told my best friend that, too). Quit blaming genetics & other people for your problems and put yourself out there!
Get a penis enlargement they have those now!
Ever thought of just moving to somewhere in Asia?
I’ve been with someone in your predicament and yeah it sucks. I was frustrated/disappointed but we found other ways (toys) and made it work so we were both satisfied. The reason for the breakup was his lack of self confidence. He always thought I was cheating or looking to cheat. He couldn’t believe I would stay with someone who couldn’t perform like a regular man (his words not mine). So if you cannot believe that any woman would be happy with you then you shouldn’t date. BTW I know several women married to men like you and they have a great bedroom life using toys and other body parts. Small Johnson is not the deal breaker you think it is. Pathetic attitude is though.
Sometimes the biggest risk is not taking any risks.
All this energy you put into hating your body, put that into leaning how to give the fucking head any woman has ever had.
You talk about people downplaying your experience while you are simultaneously downplaying the experiences of all the other small-dicked men trying to share with you that it doesn’t have to be this way. That’s your prerogative I guess, but it’s hypocritical to say the least.
Trauma therapy. Not CBT. EMDR.
It’s not your dick that’s the problem, it’s your outlook. But yeah by all means you should definitely keep that perspective away from anyone.
Just throwing this out there, but you know women have fulfilling sexual lives with each other and there isn’t a penis between them. If you think your dick is the be all and end all of love, you’re sorely mistaken.
In my past, I dated a man with a micropenis and a man who was absolutely huge. If given the choice of which one I would date now, knowing the experience with them back then, hands down, I would be with the gentleman with the micropenis. As a matter of fact, after having my first encounter with the larger gentleman and he wanted sex another day, I broke up with him instead. I never wanted to have sex with him again!
The man with the micropenis also spent more time with me. There was more sexy talk, touching,foreplay, the things that women really enjoy and want. Larger men have the tendency to think that’s all they need, a big
d!€k.
Honestly, doesn’t sound like your dick is the problem
You know what to do, actually go out on a date and see where it leads and honestly most women don’t even give a fuck about dick size it’s how you use it and also they’re probably more worried about if you got money. For one second just live your life stop letting this hold you back and you been doing it for 30 yrs and I’m pretty sure your life is miserable besides work and home. Self care time some time for yourself and actually enjoy your life you’re going to wish you had a family and it’s too late. The best thing that ever happen to me was being a father
It’s the right choice. Don’t ever mate with a coworker. It’s a wise wise choice.
Had a boyfriend for a LONG time who was about the same size as you, but was a literal wizard with his hands and mouth and could grind up on me like nobody’s fucking business. I also honestly really enjoyed the sex. He was always so thoughtful and boy’s hips did. not. lie. We broke up for completely different reasons. Zero of them were his dick.
Hiding yourself away from women because of a small dick is honestly breaking my heart. Life isn’t porn. Find a woman willing to show you what she likes and you’ll be pleasing her AND yourself soon enough.
Also. Women are often just as self conscious about our bodies and ‘nether regions’ as men. I hope you learn to love yourself as much as you deserve to be loved. Because you do. And so does the woman you’re meant to be with. She’s just… waiting for you.
I am a 43F who has dated men of all sizes, and my current partner (31M) of >18mos would be classified as a micro-penis. Women willing to accept this DO exist, even if we are the exception rather than the rule.
For me, there are plenty of things I look for in a relationship, and while sexual compatibility is one, it isn’t the only one. Mutual interests, respect, sense of humor, and emotional intelligence are all much higher on my list of important qualities than penis size.
I find men put way more importance on that one physical aspect than women do. Sex is more mental than physical for many women. Intimacy, even sexual intercourse, is about WAY more than penetration. It is risk, it is trust, it is sensory seeking, it is exploration, it is acceptance of, and including, even going so far as finding ways to celebrate each others flaws.
My current partner is too small for standard penetrative sex. He also sometimes suffers from impotency related to performance anxiety. Still, we have learned to adapt around these hurdles. Oral is much more comfortable for me to perform on him, because of its size. He has also become very skilled with his hands, mouth, and come to accept that toys are his comrades, not his competition.
You miss out on all the opportunities you don’t take. If she really likes you for you, the rest can be figured out as your relationship grows.
One of my best friends was absolutely IN LOVE with a man in the same situation as you. Had he not been a total idiot seeking validation from other women I’m pretty certain they’d be married.
You must have something this woman likes. Give yourself a chance.
Some ppl are actually into your anatomy despite the culture constantly joking about it to make themselves feel better. Gay guy here, and I have enjoyed sex with men of all dick sizes. Separately, I’ve been overweight my whole life, and can understand not meeting the norm and feeling the need to self preserve. I’ve gained and lost over the years. I’ve aged and my hair has thinned out, and somehow there are still hotties of every size that I have connected with and are mutually into me. Don’t rule anything out.
Maybe start being open about size on a place like Reddit which have affirming communities, or at least kink communities who can help you self accept. Try to find pleasure in your body, and remember to show it love for taking care of you. It’s time to reframe.
Why don’t you just learn how to deal with other people’s reactions and build self confidence instead? There are other options in life than shame-avoidance. These options require an investment and a level of maturity. As an adult, you get to decide how you want to live your life. Avoiding relationships because of shame is living a fear-led life.
Genuinely curious. Have you thought about a relationship with someone who is asexual or celibate? I’m not saying it would be easy to find someone with those orientations but, if you could, would you be open to it?
So I went to Jamaica with a few couples and we all hung out at the nude area. Us girls were talking about our sex lives and the one friend in the group RAVED ABOUT HER HUSBAND. They have like 6 kids and you would tell she got lucky the night before and was glowing. We were all naked so I know he had a micropenis. Get therapy. Build some confidence and remember your abusers all hated themselves which is why they wanted you to hate yourself. You aren’t living and deserve more.
OP, we’re not trying to deny your lived experience.
but you might want to ask yourself whether the concept that “whoever’s with you will always be settling” is actually a self serving narrative that’s there to deny the possibility of finding connection, and hence make things easier for you as you don’t have to take those risks and face potential rejection or disgust.
Those are shitty things and I’m not going to deny that they can be amplified by having a small dick. But also, you can only generalize people’s preferences so far. I’ve seen women date men who are paralyzed from the hip down, women who have a fear of penetration or vaginismus, women who enjoy being eaten out far more and only tolerate PIV for their partner. You simply cannot deny that these things are true. A woman who picks a boyfriend that is paralyzed is not “settling” but deciding to love them regardless and find their own ways to be pleasured in the relationship. Because that’s what we do when we care about people. “Settling” implies they will genuinely view you as insufficient, but how fulfilled someone is by you depends on so much lol
take the fucking risk. you can only feign apathy so much.
I can fully understand the trauma you went through as a youth and I’m so sorry you were treated so cruelly. Kids are fucking awful. I was repeatedly and violently SA’d by a group of boys at around the same age and it traumatized me to my core. I was also severely bullied outside of that for, a lot of which revolved around my body. It kills a part of you, but you need to rise above and love yourself. Otherwise you’re stuck as an adult completely stunted by the past energy of children. You shouldn’t be 30 and held back by the comments of 13 year olds. I’m not downplaying the trauma, believe me. It shapes you forever, but you need to stop giving your bullies power.
It sounds like the anger in you that was caused by boys is making you preemptively blame women. Please observe this entire thread of women saying that size truly does not matter to them. What matters is someone with a healthy attitude, a sense of humour, someone who loves women. I don’t think you want to hear that because it doesn’t fit the narrative you’ve developed. You’re choosing anger and self loathing over self development. I get that. It’s so scary to make yourself vulnerable. But I promise you, rejection would come from women sensing your anger way before it would come from women caring about your junk.
Women had lifetimes among us built up around sex that only revolves around penises and frankly, we’re collectively over it. Give us men who are relaxed, happy, confident and who know their way around a pussy. Men who don’t want to make us puke on their dicks from throat fucking.
I’m queer (hear me out since your previous comments about lesbians seem extremely negative) and the best sex of my life was with a trans man. I don’t ascribe to the politics of “passing”, but this guy was undeniably a man, 6’2, hairy chest, drank like a fish (unfortunately). His dick was about an inch long and (not but) the sex was mind blowing. And yes he came too, well and often. I loved his dick and loved making him cum. We were together for 5 years and engaged but what killed it eventually was his drinking and immaturity.
After him, I dated a man with a dick that was under 4” fully erect. Not a micro penis, but a pretty small one. Did I care? Not for a minute. Did he care? Nope. Sucking him off was great, I was able to do so much more without having to unhinge my jaw and gag. His soul regularly left his body when I was blowing him. It was so hot. Ultimately what killed that relationship was him never going down on me or touching me in a loving way. If he had shown me the same affection and eagerness to please as I’d shown him, I would have wanted to marry him.
Anyway. Listen to what we’re telling you. Maybe size matters to a very shallow, emotionally unintelligent minority of women. But the vast majority of us don’t care. The vast majority of women also have lived experiences with having been physically and sexually subjugated so we have empathy for others who have suffered through similar experiences. All we want is a partner or partners who are happy, kind, thoughtful, who love themselves and love us, and who want a mutual exchange of pleasure where both partners are satisfied. This has absolutely nothing to do with penis size and absolutely everything to do with attitude.
Based on your current attitude, women would be running for the hills. Change that and know happiness. Even if you stayed single, having that peace in your soul would be priceless for you and you alone. The anger is poison. I second the suggestions for trauma-based therapy. And Buddhist principles. I wish you well, OP ❤️
Sex is more than just penis in vagina.
Sex is intimacy with your partner. I’m sure you have a tongue, you have fingers, you can go online and buy toys to fulfill your partner. Don’t think it’s all about your penis. Once you learn to satisfy your partner you’ll never look back.
As a woman who thoroughly enjoys sex and who has a knack for brutal honestly, here are some thoughts.
Yes, size does matter but it matters the most when penetration is the only pleasure a woman is able to recieve from sex. If I rarely climax with my partner I will of course want someone who is larger so I can feel some pleasure during sex or else why the heck am I doing it. And yes, being with someone bigger who is able to hit the right spots while I’m trying to usually make myself climax, does help speed the process along and make the orgasm stronger.
BUT if a man came to me and had an honest conversation about his size and that he was smaller but he was genuinely willing to learn what I wanted/needed to be able to climax and was willing to take his time to practice and become good at getting me there and was maybe even open to using toys if I wanted that deeper penetration feel sometimes, I would 100% take that over a man with a larger size who didn’t care about my pleasure, had no idea/no desire to improve the experience for me, or a man not willing to take his time to make it happen.
The majority of a woman’s orgasm is mental and being with a partner who genuinely wants to please you and doesn’t rush you, will go farther than any dick.
On the flipside of this, size does NOT matter from a woman’s perspective when she’s giving pleasure. The woman you can have the above conversation with will want to please, reciprocate, and do what makes you feel good. Your size will be the farthest thing from her mind.
(Also p.s. no one actually likes gagging, we just pretend we do)
Your fears are completely valid and I’m not saying this to persuade you on this specific woman, in fact I don’t think you should try with this woman due to the fact that you work with her. In addition, if you try to have a conversation like this with an immature or shallow woman, it will go badly. What I am trying to do though, is give you brutally honest insight and tell you that there is a woman out there that you can find happiness with and make it work with and when that time comes and you find her, the above is what she’ll care about. Will it be perfect? No. Will it be easy? Also no. But no relationship is and there are always challenges but you deserve to be loved. Belive in everything you have to offer to someone and belive that love for you exists.
You know, I was really ready to respond with compassion and to be one of the voices echoing literally HUNDREDS OF OTHERS in this thread, as a real-life woman (TM) who’s experienced peen large and small and has a preference for smaller. Then I kept reading his responses, and realized that there’s no point. Do you want us to all think you’re noble or something for shunning the advances of an attractive woman? Do you realize that you’re probably now part of HER wondering if something is wrong with her and having her question herself? Your insecurity has festered into contempt, because it’s much easier for you to cling to a falsehood (and stop fucking telling us that you’re right and we’re wrong, literally no one has a reason to lie to you about this on Reddit) than to be vulnerable and risk rejection. Idk what incel holes you’ve been existing in, but EVERYONE has been rejected for a number of reasons both legit and non. Rejection is part of the human experience. You’re just protecting yourself from it, which is understandable, but look. If you don’t want to change, don’t. But you have to fucking listen to the rational truth that your dick isn’t going to be the reason people shun you; it’s your presumptive attitude about what I want.
P.s. you fucking CANNOT take childhood mockery and apply it to the rest of your existence. None of us would ever be naked in front of anyone else ever again if we let teenage perceptions linger.
Way too much focus on your dick, my guy! There is a woman out there that won’t give a fuck! Trust me, I know as a woman that doesn’t give a fuck!
Self fulfilling prophecy. You are quite literally the only one who is standing in your way of finding love. Not your penis, it’s you and your shitty, bitter attitude.
Bullying is horrible and creates trauma. Your bullies in high school are super shitty and I don’t doubt you hold a lot of trauma from that.
However, every single day you hold and reinforce these bitter and negative beliefs you have of yourself and women, is letting your high school bullies win.
There comes a time in life, where you need to decide whether or not you’re going to continue being a perpetual victim (who lets their high school bullies continue to live rent free in their head as a literal adult)—or instead decide to make a good life for yourself. The best revenge against those assholes is making a beautiful life and learning to love yourself, your WHOLE self.
“I’ve mostly made my peace with it” no you haven’t. That’s exactly why you came on here to complain, in the hopes that other men who have the same negative mentality about women as you would join in on your pity party and reinforce these bitter and negative beliefs you hold against women and against yourself.
You decided long ago that all women are just like your bullies from high school. Because of this, you hold extremely toxic and untrue absolutes of all women when you’ve purposefully never even attempted to give them or love a try. This is because you don’t WANT your negative view of women and yourself to be changed or challenged.
Women are quite literally TELLING YOU that good sex isn’t about a dude jackhammering our vaginas. You completely dismiss us and our experiences with men of your size because you’re so deep in your bitter delusion and are determined not to change and grow.
80% of women can’t cum from PIV alone. 80%!!!!!!! Did you even know that? The size doesn’t matter because if you can’t make a woman cum with your hands and your mouth without PIV, you’re probably not great at sex.
Additionally, if you’re upset with your size and are concerned about penetration, there are a million other options to help with that! Penetration is not the most important thing when it comes to sex with women. We keep telling you this but you don’t care.
If you think this bitterness and complete lack of self esteem won’t bleed into your everyday life you’re wrong.
If you want to have a forever pity party and continue to let this resentment towards women to continue to grow, that’s your choice. But you self sabotage yourself at every turn, to “prove” to yourself your beliefs are correct. You are your own worst enemy.
I hope you reread what people have said and it gives you a push towards working on yourself.
My brother in Christ YOU are the reason you haven’t been in a relationship. YOU choose to reject women, not your small dick. The world is so much larger than you are lead to believe. The minute you learn to love yourself is the moment you start to live.
Let me tell you as a woman- it’s tough to climax from just penetration alone for most of us. There’s lots of other fun stuff to do. Even men confined to wheelchairs due to paralysis can find women who want to be with them, if they are engaging and loving partners. It’s sad to miss out on what’s out there due to fear of rejection- I hope you can move past it and find fulfillment with a partner.
it hurt me to my core to read this.
I am so sorry that you feel the main thing you have to offer in a relationship is your dick. Yes sex is an important component to a healthy relationship but it isnt everything. Id say communication and companionship and adventure and understanding and empathy are more important.
That being said i have had AMAZING SEX with men your size. And TERRIBLE sex with average/ big guys. Honestly sometimes guys that are packing suck in bed bc they think thats all that matters.
Pleasing your mate is about alot more than just sticking it in. Ive also had partners who liked to use toys to supplement what they have downstairs and it made things more enjoyable for me. Which i liked bc it showed they were interested in my pleasure.
I understand your fear and it’s deeply rooted. You cant live hiding yourself forever.it will be half a life. I say find the right person someone willing to take it slow( not jump right into bed) and get comfortable with each other. The right person wont belittle you. Theyll help you feel comfortable and find a way for both of you to reach the climax.
Some chicks are size queens. Most are not. Please continue to work on your mental health, because you’re missing out on fulfilling relationships out of fear.
I’m gonna tell you from a woman’s perspective. It’s really sad that it’s seems you’ve based the rest of your life on the size of your piece. Being intimate can involve A LOT more than just your privates. You can find many different ways to satisfy a woman. From my perspective my hubbies doesn’t work but he sure does 🥵 and he’s proud of his work.
Lol all the incel vibes. How being bullied in the locker room turns into not trusting woman?
Seems that therapy didn’t work because you are so hellbent into living your life placing blame on “genetic” lottery.
Trust me any bond you could make will not crash because your dick size, will crash because you seem to have a very awful personality
Wait how did women get blamed for the locker room bullying? Wasn’t that the boys??
Just tell her. Someone did a poll in a women’s group and average was most popular but big and small had almost equal votes. Big only got two more votes than small. Women are different sizes too. If you don’t feel comfortable speaking to women in real life, on dating websites like Fetlife, they let people list their sexual preferrences so you can only speak to women who prefer smaller penises.
You seriously think women date / marry a penis and not a person?
As a woman I’m gonna be super honest because I don’t think sugar coating things is helpful for anyone. Penis size is truly not that important. It’s way more important to men than it is women. Sure bigger penises are a turn on and can feel nice during sex, but the overwhelming vast majority of women would not say penis size is their top priority in a man. I’d much rather date a guy with a small dick who is kind, stable, competent, intelligent, has a good career, and gives a shit about me than a loser who has a massive penis. Learn how to eat pussy.
I’m bi and have dated both men and women and 9/10 women are better in bed and they do not have a penis they just know how to eat pussy. Truly just make sure you’re a good person who treats women well, is hygienic, and you have a good life and your penis will be pretty irrelevant to most women.
As a woman, I just think it’s a shame that you view your entire worthiness as a partner by the size of your dick. I won’t patronize you and act like it’s never a factor, but a kind, supportive, confident man with a small dick is 100 times more attractive than a big dick with no personality.
I feel like you’re so focused on what you can’t control that you maybe have neglected the areas where you have more control.
My husband was straight up with me right off the bat that he wasn’t the largest guy in town. I honestly appreciated his honesty and straight forward with me