I want a girlfriend but I hate myself and have mean thoughts

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It’s an issue because even if a woman is interested in me I just ruin it because I have jealous thoughts or get insecure about specific things so I just cancel it and regret it later.

I just want someone I can trust and feel comfortable around but I ruin that by thinking people are so evil that they’d string me along and toy with me for fun.

Comments

  1. Vigil-Venandi Avatar

    Hey it’s okay, you should go to therapy and seek some counseling. Go for it man, get a girlfriend.

  2. Jenna2k Avatar

    Get some counseling. These issues are way above a girlfriends capabilities.

  3. C1sko Avatar

    Work on yourself first.

  4. avid-learner-bot Avatar

    Well… it’s tough. I feel like everyone goes through something like this, but I just never quite figured it out. My niece has a similar issue, and honestly, I’m probably just saying that because I feel guilty about not helping her more. I mean, therapy is great and all, but who really gets it? It just feels so… vulnerable, doesn’t it? Seriously, though, I just don’t understand how people manage to just be okay. Do you think it’s easier when you’re younger?

  5. yushyushyboo Avatar

    Sorry to hear you going thru tough stuff like that. If you do want some advice, I think its best to first work on yourself. Maybe seek out professional help? There are fantastic books out there written by therapists so they can give you some insight too :)) Best of luck OP, youll get a GF one day