Do I need a grand or dramatic reason to end things? I don’t think I do. I know that I want to break up with him. Right now, I have too much on my plate, and I can barely keep myself afloat. I can’t keep looking for connection or love when I’m struggling to stay sane.
I don’t want to hurt him. He’s a good person, and he doesn’t deserve to be dragged through the mess that I am right now. Staying in this relationship would only mean suffering for both of us—me, because of everything I’m going through, and him because he might keep trying to help me when it’s draining him and undermining his worth.
I want to end things on a good note, as kindly and respectfully as possible. Not because I don’t care—but because I care enough to let go. Please, help me. I don’t want to hurt him. But I also can’t keep pretending I’m okay when I’m not.
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You don’t need the other party to agree to breakup
Nobody can refuse a breakup 😭 that’s like rejecting a rejection letter from a university
If you want to end it, he can’t stop you doing that as it’s your choice. Just be kind, tell him you are sorry but it isn’t working for you and you want to be on your own. It is kinder to both of you if you are just honest with him.
It isn’t something you HAVE to agree on. It is something you can do unilaterally as in “if you don’t agree to break up then I am dumping you, so long goodbye”
You can break up with anyone and for whatever reason.
It’s just like getting fired from a job. You have no choice when you’ve been fired from the boyfriend role. Don’t try to maintain friendship with him either as that will be confusing & you need this to be clear. Breaking up always hurts someone, it’s just a part of life.
You can break up with someone for any reason at any time. They don’t have to agree or like it. You are an individual.
Blink twice if you’re in danger
There isn’t any way you can end the relationship without hurting him. That is the price for being free of this.
The best thing you can do is be kind, be very firm and remove yourself from his life as much as you can so he can move on.
I’m sorry it’s hard, but as it stands, you’re both stuck in an unhappy, doomed relationship. The kindest thing you can do now is walk away and not give him false hope of reconciliation just to make leaving him easier on you.
Whatever he invites you to do just say No.
Of course you can break up with your boyfriend, but I wonder from what you’ve written if you’re wanting to break up with him because of him, or because you’re trying to save him some hurt you think might be coming if you stayed together.
Everyone deserves the opportunity to have connections and be loved. Regardless of their struggles and their mental health.
If the relationship is demanding too much of your time and attention that you feel would be better prioritised on figuring things out for yourself, that’s a great reason to end things.
But don’t do it just because you want to save him some imagined future hurt. If he’s bringing good things and peace into your life, let him stick around to make the choice of what he’s willing to endure.
What ? Just cancel him. Block him, avoid him.
Its like ripping off a band-aid, so just get it done. If hes mature and understanding and truely cares for you then he will understand and try help you while remaining friends. Unfortunately, some guys dont handle rejction so well but it aounds like you got a fair enough reason to end it peacfully but if he doesn’t then thats his problem not yours. Irs harder to break up with someone then have them break up with you so yes it feels tough but it sounds like the right thing for you right now. Just dont let him emotionally corner you or make you feel guilty if he he doesnt take it like a man. They are forms of emotional abuse and even more reason to leave someone. Just get it done, you will bith be hurt but if ot turns into a big drama then just ignore him and carry on with your life! It moat probably happen again and you will know exactly what you want and what to do next tjme.
you don’t need his consent. i don’t know the situation, but when my ex did this and i caved, he only got progressively more emotionally abusive and manipulative to where i thought i COULDNT leave at all.
not saying that will happen, but it does to some and nonetheless the relationship will quickly deteriorate if you don’t want it. he’ll be grasping for straws and you’ll be creating grievances and frustration with him over trivial things because the negativity you feel from staying will start to leak out. it’ll be toxic.
his health is not your responsibility, and it is always possible to remain in touch platonically. i was friends with my ex fiancé for years after before we drifted.
Only one person can want a break up, it’s still a break up. He doesn’t have to agree. It might be impossible to end it on a good note though if he’s trying to refuse but you’ll have to accept that
You always need to prioritise yourself and your needs. It will hurt him, but it doesn’t matter. What matters is that you want to end it for your own good. His pain isn’t worth your suffering. His feelings are not more important than yours. Yeah breaks ups suck, but being unhappy and stressed in a relationship is much worse.
Just tell him you are breaking up for your own emotional health and then ghost/block him. You don’t need his permission.
You can break up with someone at any time for any reason.
You can break up at any time for any reason. He doesn’t need to agree. It takes two to choose a relationship and only one to end a relationship.
Tell him you are done. Don’t ask for his agreement. Be firm. We’re done.
Lol, he doesn’t need to agree. Send him a text saying you’re breaking up with him, and he is to never contact you again. If he does contact you again, tell him you will report him to the police for stalking if he does it again.
Hey no one can accuse to break up! People do try but you know that’s not really how it goes. So you just say hey sorry this is not working out I’m going to be moving on and we’re going to be going our separate ways. Then no more communication. It doesn’t seem to me like you guys live together so it should be easy enough for you
Not wanting a person is actually the best reason to leave a relationship. Its over, he doesn’t have to agree to the break up. If he harasses you or tries to make you feel guilty, block him
Sounds like yall are married