I met an incredible woman 2 months ago, and we start to like each other and right now we are kind of best friends. However, lately we are having some sort of discussions where she stays unhappy with me because of the things that I say, the things that I do.
I’m a very depressive guy, and she told some things that she noted about myself, the emotional dependency that I have on her, which makes her feel pressed and have a kind of obligation. The fact that I always think about the worst, that I can’t sleep and eat when something happens, that I start to be a bit aggressive, that I’m not too much connected with my family and some other things.
I know that this all kind of true things, but those are things that I’ve tried to change, and I simply can’t. I don’t know how to do it, I don’t know how to start again, and all of this is overwhelming, and I’m tired.
I want your help, please.
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It definitely soundslike you are not in a state to be in a relationship, at least not one that is fair to whoever you date. You really do need to work on yourself before getting into a relationship. You cannot make yourself emotionally dependent on someone else, especially if you just met them 2 months ago, but also in general. The only person you should be depending on emotionally is you. Noone wants to be responsible for you being depressed simply because they didn’t text back for a few hours. It’s not healthy and puts a lot of unnecessary pressure on the other person. The main things I would suggest to you is to work on your confidence and to build a life for yourself that you are satisfied with by yourself. A partner is a wonderful addition but should not be the basis for your happiness and purpose of your life. And then of course you need to manage your anger and aggression. No woman wants to date a man that doesn’t make her feel 100% safe.