I’ve had enough with my family. My sister posted in the family group chat that basically “taking care of your hair is gay”. She’s homophobic, racist, Islamophobic, transphobic etc (while she herself is lesbian…yeah). And the rest of my family, but my mom, is like that too. My dad, my brother, they all make these “jokes” about minorities, and about me too, especially since I’ve been diagnosed with ASD. I’m have resentment especially for my dad who’s most likely a narcissist. I just don’t want to come visit them anymore. And when we talk, since I’m the youngest (by far), I’m never taken seriously when I discuss political topics. I’m constantly being shut down and told things like “it’s not that deep”, or some bs conspiracy theories or alt-right propaganda. I cannot wait to be fully independent. I really wish I could go low contact. I’m sticking around just for my mom now, who’s the only decent human being.
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I have experience going no contact with my whole family.
It has been a few months and the peace is amazing. No anxiety, panic attacks or any other discomfort. I highly recommend. You won’t lose much.
I didn’t cut out my sister though. She’s the coolest!!
all humans have a percentage of narcissism and it gets worse as you get older. no one cares to hold back or rethink a lot of the time because of what cause and effect or wins and losses produce. somebody has to be the loser and somebody has to be the winner. some people lose a lot and start to think they’re the most winningest losers or the best loser possible. that comes along with an edgy and unrealistically unapologetic approach to life. the most you can aspire to do is lead by example (for yourself), be better than worse (for yourself), and love yourself (for yourself). everything will fall into place or it won’t, but at least you haven’t went bald from stress or sunken yourself into a place of despair just from trying to make the world a better place. shit happens, people do too
You don’t have to completely cut them off. You could perhaps try to keep your distance but still attend family events, etc. Unless you are finding them so toxic that they are mentally damaging you, I would try and keep some communication open. I have had to completely cut off my family, and it’s much harder than you would think, and I had to cut mine off because of abuse. It was and is still traumatic. I would definitely recommend making that your absolute last resort.