I was a board certified death investigator for 6 years, specializing in infant/child death. AMA

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A few people asked me to put this up so i can answer their questions.

I was recently diagnosed with an extremely rare genetic disease and was forced to medically retire. Now, despite being legally blind, i learned to crochet and i donate blankets to funeral homes for families that have lost a child.

I have seen a lot of shit in 6 years. Nothing is off the table, i will do my best to answer every question!

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  1. Fun-Explanation-8278 Avatar

    Providing it doesn’t cause you trauma, what is your;

    Most memorable case?
    Most horrific case?
    Most interesting case?

  2. CantRespond_Berry0-0 Avatar

    How did you first get into that role? What original made you pick the job? How’s your mental health?

  3. BelleLupin99 Avatar

    What is your best advice to someone starting off in a career where children suffer and die?

    (New Grad Paediatric Oncology Nurse)

  4. RainbowDonkey473 Avatar

    How do you process what you’ve seen? How do you keep it from being dark?

  5. cheese_resurrection Avatar

    Favorite kind of cheese?

  6. Maui246 Avatar

    If you could go back and choose your career again knowing what you do now would you? Did you feel like work always followed you? Would you be “on call” constantly?

  7. CarnegieMellons Avatar

    I certainly respect what you’ve done for children and what you’re continuing to do now that you’ve retired. I couldn’t imagine the things you’ve had to endure in your previous profession.

    What steps or activities did you take/do for catharsis? How were you able to emotionally distance yourself from the cases?

  8. Mariner-and-Marinate Avatar

    What is your opinion on the Lucy Letby case in the UK?

  9. MagnoliasandMums Avatar

    How many cases were vaccine-related?

  10. sb2025za Avatar

    Hi there, so keen to hear your perspective.

    What shortcomings/obstacles did you come across in the legal/prosecution side of things?

    How often would you come across cases that were clear cut natural causes? and is it true that almost all infant/child deaths are treated as suspicious?

    Did you work independently, for the state or an organisation?

  11. Laaazybonesss Avatar

    Is true SIDS less common than people think? I hear it’s an umbrella category and true cases are quite rare. Regardless, it’s a new parents worst nightmare and I’d love your perspective.