Location: Pennsylvania
This guy I went on date with is threatening to sue me for “my portion of the bill”. It was a very fancy restaurant and we ordered tons of drinks and appetizers with our main meals. As you could image the date didn’t go that well but he was insistent on ordering these things I thought he was okay with paying for it all considering he asked me out. As soon as he realized this date wasn’t gonna turn into anything serious, he basically switched up on me tried to force me to pay at the table. I refused at first but he was causing a scene so I just said I’ll text him later to talk about it. He ended up paying for it all but is now harassing me to Venmo him asap or he’ll take me to court. I’m on the verge of blocking him.
Does he have a case? I honestly don’t think I am in the wrong. I’m only 21 so I don’t know the law well. I didn’t choose the restaurant but date are normally implied that the man will pay. Do I need to pay him or can I just block him and move on?
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No. block him and move on.
I doubt he’ll actually sue you but you should always be prepared to pay for the things you ordered. He could have (and should have) asked for separate checks.
Block all contact and move on. Don’t reply. He’s not suing shit.
Hell of a way to get a second date…. Smh
Block and run. Make the restaurant aware of the situation, too, as awkward as it is. Just in case.
What does your contract say?
No. Explicitly text him to stop contacting you and block him. If you met on an app, report him. Hopefully yoh didn’t let him know where you live.
He doesn’t have a case.
It would only be small claims court if he was crazy enough to pursue it, as no lawyer would even talk to him about an amount that low. And he’d be laughed out of small claims, too. You have nothing to worry about.
You didnt sign anything so he can throw a hissy fit all he wants. Sure, he can be upset but this guy is way overreacting. However, next time be prepared to pay your half since its a lot more common now for people to split the bill on first dates
Filing a case even in small claims will cost him about $200. He’s never going to actually do that lol
Let him sue you then. Lol $250 isn’t worth the time it would take to fill out the paperwork
Block and roll
People who threaten to sue have generally never even consulted an attorney to see if it is possible.
Don’t you know that you entered a legally binding contract when you sat down and started eating with him? Obviously you’re legally required to either pay or put out
Won’t sue you. Would have to pay more funding his lawsuit than he would be getting in return from suing. Generally who did the invite and planning is expected to pay outside of any agreement if made in advance, but may not be law. It’s definitely rude to invite someone out and then not clarify they will not be paying especially someone who isnt old enough to have completed uni and doesn’t have a career. I believe the law would be on your side
Block him.
Any lawyer he goes to with this will laugh in his face.
Also, if you block him and he somehow persists, you could sue him for harassment. Considering how crazy the guy is already acting, it might be a good idea to keep the texts he’s already sent and anything else from this point on.
Block & Report to Tinder!
I don’t think your legally ready no fed to anything you’re just an asshole for not paying your share.
Block & Report to Tinder!
No, he doesn’t
Block and ignore
Verge of blocking him??? Block his ass…
Just block him! (:
He doesn’t have a case anyways. There was no prior formal or informal agreement that you’d pay for what was ordered.
If he’s worried about $250, he can’t even afford one hour with a lawyer anyways. 🤷♀️
If anything, you could take him to civil court for harassment and get a settlement, or an order of protection. But it’s not worth all that. Thank God for the block button, right? Haha
You can claim he did this to scam you. Because this is probably not his first time.
Block him. Let him sue you. That’s way more effort than it’s worth for $250.
This is why you take a girl for coffee first for $5 instead of dropping $500.
He’s not doing anything of the sort but $500 for dinner for two people in Pennsylvania? Wut?
What JacKass would go to a Restaurant that would cost $500 ($250/each??)
ON A FIRST FECKIN DATE?!?
wtf
Everyone is the Ah.
I doubt if he has a case. Dunno, though.
No, he doesn’t have a case.
But don’t order a lot on someone else’s tab, even if they are.
Expect to pay for yourself on dates.
Wtf this dude is a tool. Let him try to sue. He’s wasting his time.
i don’t know why people are saying he doesn’t have a case at all. he almost certainly won’t sue, but that doesn’t mean he wouldn’t be entitled to money.
if two people go out for dinner and each eat, they’re probably both jointly and severally liable to the restaurant to pay.
then whoever pays, if they pay in full, are probably entitled to contribution for the other party. at least, that’s how it works for joint tortfeasors.
it’d be really interesting to see if a court had ever dealt with this question before and whether they applied the same rule as with joint tortfeasors
Block and move on but also don’t always assume a man is paying in the future.
You dodged a bullet
Just ignore him. Don’t block, let him keep texting you, in case he becomes truly unhinged, not just a douche, so you have evidence.
Also so you and your friends can laugh at him.
I signed something that said all disputes from payment of the date and subsequent activities would be handled via binding Alternate Dispute Resolution. Am I cooked?
Girl, in today’s hyper environment, always insist on paying your portion of the order. That way, you can avoid these scumbags and their puerile aftermath.
Also, never accept a date to an expensive-ass place if you feel it’s too extravagant for your tastes and affordability.
Block him and wait to see if he files something in small claims court. Next time, dont be a mooch and be ready to pay your bit.
Pay for your food . Why do you expect a stranger to pay for you ?! Are you kidding me ?
I will keep it a whole buck with you (honest).
I wont speak on legality as I’m no lawyer. But i would encourage you to just pay your portion of the bill (whatever that was). Dude could honestly go pyscho on you and cause harm to you.
Think. This is beyond a legal issue. This is a “protect yourself” issue.
Unless you have expertise in living under the radar, it is best to just pay your portion because people are not that hard to find.
I have no horse in this race so I’m just telling you this from the point of view of someone who knows how dangerous people can get when they think you used them. Doesn’t take a lawyer for that persective.
Ps. I dont think he will sue you. But again I dont think getting sued is even the worst thing here. Physical harm is.
Normally I would say you should be prepared to pay for your half. However, in this case when he is the one choosing such a fancy restaurant and also ordering all of those things, I think it’s fair that he pays. He could have chosen a less fancy restaurant and not ordered so much for the both of you. I would say the risk of him actually going through with it and suing you is very low. I wouldn’t worry about it if I was you.
Let him sue. Gonna be funny as hell in small claims court when he shows up whining about a bad date.
Tell him to have his lawyer send a formal request and you’ll run that by your lawyer. That’s what I do at my dealership when maniacs threaten litigation for ridiculous reasons. 99.9% they are not going to pay a lawyer to do so
You ate the steak, just pay for your damn dinner.
He can’t sue you for not putting out after an expensive date. There’s no contract, real or implicit. Block him and don’t communicate with him at all..
Let him sue tbh, I want him to get laughed at by everyone from the lawyers office to the judge then so I can laugh at him even harder when it gets covered on “stupid court cases, number one, bad date”
I’m going to get downvoted for this but here goes… the dude sounds mentally unstable so to be rid of him I would pay him the half and chalk it up to a bad experience that could have gotten a whole lot worse.
Guy sounds like a douche. If I practiced in Pennsylvania I’d take this case on pro bono.
…..Block his ass and be done with it. No he cant do shit
Yes he can sue you in small claims court and he will likely win. There was no agreement at any point that he would pay for your meal. Him asking you out to dinner is not the legal equivalent of him having to pay…..that’s just what you wanted him to do because of your personal belief that this is the thing a man should do. You said that “we ordered tons of drinks and appetizers with our main means” so you were a participant in ordering and you never asked him before hand if he was going to pay for your meal and drinks. If he sues you and wins, the court will order that you pay for any filing fees and court costs that he had to pay in addition to the cost of all food & drink that you had yourself. To be honest, it sounds like you were looking for a free meal and he wasn’t going to play your game. I think you should pay for what you ate & drank and stop with the outdated mindset that a man should always pay no matter what….its 2025 now and women have fought hard to be equal to men…..so start acting like it.
No lawyer will take such a petty case. Ignore.
Not a lawyer but no contract was agreed to, they settled the bill, and they’re harassing you. I’d consider going to the police for a restraining order lol
No he has no case (if he’s dumb enough to sue)
What I’d do if I were you:
So in short: He has no case. You don’t owe him anything.