I have always been a super shy and introverted person, I very rarely go out with friends and I absolutely hate places with loud music and too many people. I do like to hang out with people but I’m just very shy and I suck in social instances, I would rather die than to go alone to a party where I know no one.
A month ago I had a sort of existential crisis and a switch flipped inside me, I decided that was it, I was gonna start doing the things I never dared to, I wasn’t going to keep letting my shyness stop me. Two weeks after that I was invited to a birthday party, I usually wouldn’t have gone because even though I knew the partygoers I wasn’t too familiar with them. But I thought “heck, this is my chance” and I went and I got taught how to dance and I discovered the logistics of a three way kiss. Never in my life before I would’ve done anything like that, never. I was ecstatic.
Last weekend I had a date with one of the people of the 3 way kiss, but they had to cancel last minute. If that had happened to me a few months ago I would’ve convinced myself that they probably disliked me anyways, that the world sucks and I would’ve sat on my ass feeling sorry about myself. But I didn’t, I said “fuck it” and decided on the go that I was gonna go alone to the biggest gay nightclub in my country and have the time of my life.
I was super nervous, this wasn’t just a little outside my zone of comfort, it was UNIVERSES away from it. I got a little tipsy to get brave enough, gave myself a pep talk in front of the mirror and I went for it…and I absolutely loved it. I met new people all on my own! Maybe even made some friends, got a kiss from a Drag Queen and then a girl and then some guy. I had tried to keep my expectations low but honestly I shouldn’t have bothered, everything was incredible.
I had never felt this way before in my life, I’m super happy and proud. I can barely believe that all it took really was to just go for it…was it so easy all this time? For anyone out there who may be struggling with something similar, you just need to decide to change and it will happen. Maybe become a little insane cuz I have definitely felt crazy the past couple of weeks. It is true what they say, the sky is the limit.
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How hard was it to interact with people? Did people approach you or did you have to approach them?
Good shit dawg. Get wild with it and enjoy yourself.
Are you a girl?
I work as a bartender part time, and am pretty introverted (I know but it works) and have on occasion gone to clubs or bars by myself and just chilled and watched the tvs and talked with random strangers. It’s a blast.
Female life.
This is so cool & I love this for you. Like you, I’ve always been introverted & quiet my entire life. I’m 27 now & recently started to reflect on my past self. Realizing I’ve been letting life & opportunities pass me by. Feels bad knowing I don’t have any crazy or wild stories to share with my coworkers. I secretly get so jealous when I hear them talk about something crazy happening from their weekend or with their friends. I’m currently in a relationship I’m unhappy to be in because he is very controlling & never wants to go to concerts or raves or any sort of adventure with me & I only stay because I would have nowhere else to go. I work two jobs & I can’t seem to save enough to move out & be on my own. I wish one day things will be different & I get to grab life by the balls & create memories I can look back on & think “yes I had fun :)”
The comments assuming you’re a girl are so weird🫠
Glad to hear bout your experiences tho! Honestly kinda needed something like this today. I’d also describe myself as really shy and socially anxious. Recently been trying to out myself out there more but feel like I clam up really easily. You’re giving me hope tho that I just gotta keep trying things, and hopefully it’ll start working out or I get better at socializing lol
This just gave me the inspiration I needed. Will do that first thing when I’ve some time off
haha that’s awesome dude. I remember the first time I wound up at a club by myself, I accidentally sneaked in with a bachelor party and the cover charge gal was so flustered she didn’t charge me, had so much fun, danced my ass off, then fell asleep on a stranger’s shoulder on the bus ride home lol