So me 23M and my girlfriend 22F have been together for about 6 months now, we pretty much live together and do everything together, I love her more than life itself. She’s done nothing but improve my life and wellbeing since she got here. We just met each others families and that went super well they loved me and vise versa. About a week ago she goes to show me a picture on her camera roll I look, and then see next to it an old picture of her and her ex. She looked so happy, glowing. It broke a piece of me. Not the being insecure about the thought of her with another man before me. That doesn’t bother me, But how happy she was. It hurt, so I looked away and got a little quiet, she noticed and nothing else was said about it, this weekend she goes to do the same thing, show me a picture on her camera roll, I kinda hesitate and she tells me, I went though and deleted every picture of me and him you don’t have to worry about that happening again. Phew I said to myself, glad she noticed that without having to make a big deal out of I say to myself. But a part of me just didn’t believe it I don’t know why. So when she went to sleep last night I went though her phone, they weren’t there anymore. But there was a folder called hidden photos, (not recently deleted). so I click it, put in the password, and sure enough there they are. The picture I saw plus so much more. Pictures of dates and fun times, and then videos of her sucking his dick and getting fucked. I ran to the bathroom and threw up, I haven’t eaten since, if I bring it up she’ll know I went through her phone, she doesn’t know that I know her password. if I don’t bring it up to someone I might shoot myself. I’m lost and don’t know what to do. I still love her. But I can look at her without those images burning though my retinas. I can’t look at her the same.
She either forgot about that folder when deleting everything or moved all the images to that folder when I noticed the first one. Idk which outcome is worse
What do I even do? I don’t know where to go from here
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Not to be that guy but I don’t think she forgot about those but at the same time you gotta know she had a life before you
Let’s just calm down a minute. You’ve only dated her for six months. Don’t be so dramatic to say you “love her more than life itself” and you “feel like shooting yourself” over this. You are the one that stole her password and snooped. You chose to look through her personal pictures and videos. She hasn’t done anything wrong.
Yes, like it or not, she was happy before she met you. Did you expect that she lived a miserable life until she met you?