I wish I was a woman sometimes

r/

I (20m) feel ugly.

I feel brutish and useless and violent, I feel like I’m a rusty tool that’s started rusting way too early.

I could still be dependable and useful as a woman, but I wouldn’t be as worthless. I don’t feel like I am remotely useful or worthy of anything.

Keep in mind, and I don’t intend this as egotistical, just personal experience, I’m considered by my friends and community as a decently beautiful man.

I don’t say that to humble brag, it makes it worse. That I could be considered beautiful but all I see is worthless muddied bronze and features that I know to take care of but have zero care for.

Comments

  1. whatscookinbeach Avatar

    Changing your gender won’t heal your broken self esteem. You’re so young and figuring yourself out. Feeling like you’re “made wrong” is a common side effect of trauma.

  2. EasePuzzleheaded2115 Avatar

    Sometimes I wish I was a man so I wouldn’t have to deal with periods and pregnancy lol

  3. IReallyWantSkittles Avatar

    I’m curious if this feeling is limited to you or you feel this way about men in general?

    I also have had the feeling of wanting to be a woman, but never felt bad about being a man. I’d say that the language used warrants a visit to a therapist.

  4. Brilliant_Banana7742 Avatar

    You’d still be brutish, violent and useless tho, just a female version.

  5. azdoroth Avatar

    Why would you be less useless as a woman?