I 21ftm grew up being a daddy’s girl, believing my dad was a great caring father and husband but i realized differently in the last 3.5 years since he had a medical event that left him physically disabled. My mom broke down and has been revealing how she did everything to hold the family together as I was growing up. He hasn’t done much to help himself since the medical event. Also since coming out as trans I feel like I will always be his daughter, never his son. I just wish he was the dad I grew up with. I wish he was still the dad I stayed up with by the campfire for hours until it burned out when my mom and sister went to bed hours ago. I wish he was the dad holding me close under a blanket while we looked at the stars and he’d showed me the constellations. I wish he was the dad that was my best friend. I want him to ask for help because I want my dad back but he won’t go to therapy. It’s to the point my mom asked for a divorce and I’m so worried about him and heartbroken because I hate him for so many things now but I also love him and I want him to be my dad again but he’s just like a stranger to me now. A stranger I know is in the wrong but a stranger I love so deeply because he was my dad.
I don’t know if there even is advice to be given Im just struggling with everything lately and needed to say this somewhere and I know from listening to tht this community is kind
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Backup of the post’s body: I 21ftm grew up being a daddy’s girl, believing my dad was a great caring father and husband but i realized differently in the last 3.5 years since he had a medical event that left him physically disabled. My mom broke down and has been revealing how she did everything to hold the family together as I was growing up. He hasn’t done much to help himself since the medical event. Also since coming out as trans I feel like I will always be his daughter, never his son. I just wish he was the dad I grew up with. I wish he was still the dad I stayed up with by the campfire for hours until it burned out when my mom and sister went to bed hours ago. I wish he was the dad holding me close under a blanket while we looked at the stars and he’d showed me the constellations. I wish he was the dad that was my best friend. I want him to ask for help because I want my dad back but he won’t go to therapy. It’s to the point my mom asked for a divorce and I’m so worried about him and heartbroken because I hate him for so many things now but I also love him and I want him to be my dad again but he’s just like a stranger to me now. A stranger I know is in the wrong but a stranger I love so deeply because he was my dad.
I don’t know if there even is advice to be given Im just struggling with everything lately and needed to say this somewhere and I know from listening to tht this community is kind
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