I’m speaking from a male POV, which is why “She” was used. I date women. I can’t directly speak for women.
I nearly ruined my 20s tolerating bad behavior from two separate women:
Abusive behavior (scars on my arms from declining sx).
Tolerating hatred towards men in general (why is she with me, then)?
Wanting me to pay for everything.
Suddenly changing their mind about wanting children, and crying when I want to wait to go condomless until my vasectomy (for the second woman).
Young men and boys reading this…take my advice: Don’t think with your small head; don’t be impatient; don’t toss out your hobbies/money/time, just because she threatens to break up.
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Makes me think of one of my favourite Offspring songs from back in the day – Self Esteem. Check it out, lyrics are basically about you in your 20s.
I regret that today you have to explicitly state you’re a man dating a woman. We’re all so terrified of assuming certain highly common truths.
Anyway, good on you OP. I wouldn’t regret it, everything has to be learned somehow. Now your future is a lot better for it.
jesus and i thought I had bad taste…
That’s heartbreaking, but also powerful cause you learned your worth the hard way. No one should have to bleed for love. You deserve peace, not pain disguised as affection.
That was a rookie mistake.
Try hard mode: when they pretend to be kind (if you value that shit) but turn batshit as soon as you’re official.
That will mess you up and make you paranoid lmao.
Universal rule: simply don’t tolerate bad partners.
It’s the same for women too. Everyone needs to learn what their core values/wants/need are, and then learn not to compromise them.