I(20F) have been with my bf(19M) for 1 1/2 years. Everything as of recent has been amazing in my relationship. 6 months ago I believe my bf may have lied several times and I can’t help but to still think about it. Keep in mind I struggle with insecurity but I try to stay level headed. Back at this time something felt off with my bf. I asked if he was talking to another girl. He said no and said he had no female friends. I then found a girl who he followed all over my socials. I asked him about this and he said he had been texting her over snap as a friend. It is ok to have female friends but he never mentioned her despite our conversation. I told him because of this I didn’t want to continue but then he blocked her and we stayed together. Is it reasonable to say he should have told me about her and should I address that he can have female friends but I just would like to know who they are? My other concern is from his friend we went out of town to visit. Let me preface this by saying the past is the past but honestly is still important. His friend tried to secretly bring up how they used to go to the club and implied I didn’t know about it. My boyfriend told him I already knew. But then a trip they took to SC was brought up and my bf shushed his friend. This was prior to being with me but the only thing is he said he hadn’t actually did anything with anyone prior to me. Now I still wonder if he lied to me. Do I bring this up or forget about this? Also personally I don’t want my partner to go to this type of club while they with me. He did say he no longer plans to do this. Should I still communicate I wouldn’t be ok with him going in the future?
TL;RD my bf may of have lied to me 6 months ago several times and I don’t know if I should bring it up now
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This is hard to say what is going on here. I do think it is weird to just force a partner to block someone if they are just a friend but I am not sure if you even did that based on what you said or he just did it in response to what you said. I also am confused if this new friend you just met is the same one or someone different. It is odd he would shush her that is probably the weirdest part of this. Imo you both are just young and just need to communicate and don’t spiral so much apart.