i(21f) feel alone in my relationship w my bf (22m)

my boyfriend and i have only been dating for two months and i already feel like it might not end well..

in the beginning he was super on top of planning dates, or randomly getting me flowers, being attentive and interested in me. but as time passed and we’ve spent more time together, i think he’s gotten comfortable or maybe bored?

we’ve had a few arguments, 1 being because i had set down boundaries before we even started dating, i told him i don’t mess with any exes being in the picture at all, whether that be on social media or irl, he AGREED to it. but then a few weeks after we started dating i found out that on one of the nights he was coming to pick me up for a date, he stopped by his exes house to “drop off a phone case” all while telling me he was stopping at a friend’s (mind u, i had alr set the boundary) i also then found out she was still all over his socials and had even spoken two weeks before i saw. i confronted him and we put it behind us.

then he had asked me how i felt about female friends, i told him im good with it as long as there was no feelings involved ever, he told me one of his close friends used to have feelings for him but he didn’t, i told him please only hangout in groups when with her if that’s the case. a week ago, i see that she had texted him to hangout 1on1, he said he would but couldn’t because he was leaving for a trip the next day.

now besides girls, let’s focus on us. He’s my first real relationship, Im not experienced in dating at all. He has been in two serious and long term relationships, so naturally he’s more experienced. i don’t know if im holding him to unrealistic standards or if im right and he’s genuinely not even doing the bare minimum for me anymore:

I have to ask him to go on dates, for example, i said we should go on a date to the aquarium, he said it was too far. then i said we should go paint pottery together the next day, he said sure, but when the next day came, his legs hurt too much from the gym so i canceled it.

He doesn’t do little sweet things like how i do for him, i’ll leave him little notes or drawings of us, i do his laundry for him, i clean his room, i just ordered him $170 basketball shoes bc he has mentioned he wanted them once, i bought us matching shirts from a popular brand, he mentioned skincare he wanted once so i bought it the next day, i make his plate for him, i show lots of physical affection, etc.

i feel just unappreciated.. and it’s not like im asking him to buy me things, i couldn’t care less about that. but i wish he’d return the physical affection, or maybe write me a paragraph or little message while im at work, i wish he’d do little things for me sporadically, doesn’t even have to be all the time.

i’m also kinda sad bc he games A LOT. from the moment i get home til the moment i wake up in the morning for work, he’s on the game. he spends no time with me, i think he thinks that just being in the same room is quality time but it’s not.

although, he has done some sweet things for me, like he learned how to make my fav starbucks drink and brought it to me once, his nana recently passed and he said he feels like she sent me to him, he surprised me with souvenirs from his trip, he got me flowers once.

tl;dr overall, i don’t know if im overreacting or what. i do confront him and he apologizes and changes for like a day and then it’s back to before like nothing happened.