I(26f) am no longer attracted to my bf(32m) of almost two years

So my boyfriend and I moved in together a few months ago. Things were okay at first, but lately I’ve found myself totally unattracted to him. All he does is sit around, eat junk food nonstop, and play League for hours. He’s let himself go completely—he’s pushing 300 pounds, constantly smells bad, and I literally have to remind him to shower. He blames it on ADHD and depression, but it’s at the point now where I don’t think it’s just mental health anymore. It feels like pure neglect.

We haven’t been intimate in months. Every time I try, he says he feels too gross, but then I’ll catch him watching porn between games. He doesn’t clean up after himself, and when I ask him to, he either guilt-trips me with stuff like, “Wow, I must be such a horrible boyfriend,” or just straight up says he doesn’t care because it doesn’t bother him. Like… what? I don’t care if it doesn’t bother him—it bothers me. We’re supposed to be a team.

He works at the same little family-owned restaurant and barely makes any money—like sometimes he’ll come home after a weekend shift with five dollars. Then he’ll mope around about how broke he is. And like… yeah, same. I have Hashimoto’s and I’m constantly dealing with health bills and co-pays, and I’m still working two jobs to make it work. The difference is, I’m trying. He just stays stuck and spirals, and I don’t see him putting in any real effort to change anything.

At first, I tried to be patient. I know mental health can be brutal. I was gentle, supportive, gave him space. But now it’s clear he’s just walking all over me. And it’s wrecking me. I feel like his mom instead of his girlfriend. I feel unwanted, unattractive, and honestly unlovable at this point. I know what I need to do, but I feel so fucking stuck. The only silver lining is that I’m renting the basement from you, so I don’t have to deal with a landlord freaking out if I end this. But emotionally, I’m really struggling.

I hate feeling like this. He’s still a human being I care about, and I don’t want to crush him or make things worse for him mentally. But I’m losing myself in this. I hate that it’s come to this. I hate that he’s letting it come to this. I feel like the future we could’ve had is just falling apart, and I’m the only one trying to stop it

tl;dr (I’ve been really struggling in my relationship—he’s let himself go completely, stopped trying, and I’m feeling more like his caretaker than his partner. I care about him, but it’s breaking me, and I think I need to end it—I just really need your support right now.)