Hello,
My girlfriend and I have been together about 4-5 months and dont live together. 5 ish days ago she started her period. She has a normal reusable device that deals with it but that thing broke and she needed tampons for the first time in a while so when we went to the grocery together we got her a box.
While at work yesterday I was thinking about it. She mentioned her flows are typically higher than most people’s and I figured she was probably running low and underestimated how many she needed. So after work I went to the grocery store and got her two more of the same boxes, picked up some dinner and went over there. She did not ask me to grab the boxes i think is important to note.
I get there and she is dumbfounded. She was down to her very last one and couldnt figure out how I knew. I explained to her i was just thinking about it and it made sense. It took a bit for her to process it but when she did. She hugged me so tight and was so happy she cried pretty hard. Shes usually affectionate but this was on a whole other level. I havent had a girlfriend for a long while before her and this was surprising since this feels like something normal. After this she’s usually nice affectionate and does things for me. Its amplified up to 11 now. She’s normally wonderful I dont know how its gotten better but it has. And I want to do this again for her.
I’ve been thinking about it all morning and dont understand how i made her so happy. I knew she needed them. The store is literally on my home from work it took 10 minutes all in to stop in and get them. They only cost like 30 bucks. It seems like a reasonable normal thing to do. But she said no one has ever done that for her before but she also has exes that were not great men.
What did I do that made her feel this way? How do I do something that makes her feel this way again? And how do I know if this is normal boyfriend behavior or what is normal boyfriend behavior?
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Just keep being THOUGHTFUL. Good Job!
you took something off her plate and were thoughtful about her needs. it was very kind of you
She didn’t have to ask you for one and you thought about how something would affect her and anticipated a need. Here is a w for you.
I think you just lightened the mental load. it seems mundane because its “just” tampons but the fact that you were aware of the need, went out of your way and also picked up dinner shows you think ahead and thats lovely. knowing you can rely on your partner is reassuring in many ways. keep it up mate
The fact you were thoughtful of her needs probably made her realize that you are an amazing partner. She could have felt that way but your act of kindness and thoughtfulness made her sure and that’s why the affection has gone up.
If you keep thinking of little ways to help her out or be there for her you will continue to make her a very happy woman. Just keep showing up for her. The fact you even consulted strangers on how to make your girlfriend stay happy shows you’ve got the right mind set to keep her happy 😁
I’m 56. None of the men in my life(boyfriends, brothers or my dad, have ever been comfortable buying feminine hygiene products. Either they refused, or would struggle against it like I (or my mom/sister ) wanted to pull out their teeth. I’ve heard the same from girlfriends.
It is or should be a normal thing for a boyfriend/significant other to do. It made her especially emotional (I think) because you did this without having to be asked.
You sound like a wonderful, considerate partner. Just keep being yourself. It really is the small, thoughtful things like this that show her that you care and that she’s important to you.
I find it extremely attractive when a guy asks me what I need and does it / does whatever I ask him to without forgetting or making excuses. When a man does something for me without me even mentioning it? Oooooft. It’s the hottest thing ever. It tells me he was thinking about me when I wasn’t there, and caring about my needs.
It can be little things like that. Or tucking a blanket around her if she’s sleeping and it slips off. Or buying her a snack while she’s on her period. Or giving her a neck massage if she says she has a headache. Or offering to go for her favourite food if she had a bad day. These are all examples off the top of my head of things my husband does that … are big parts of the reason why he became my husband.
>And how do I know if this is normal boyfriend behavior or what is normal boyfriend behavior?
This is what should be normal boyfriend behaviour. You took a moment and thought about her and her needs where she didn’t have to ask, nor did she have to beg you to pay attention and remember.
We should all have partners who are considerate of our needs, likes, dislikes and whatnot.
>What did I do that made her feel this way?
You showed her you thought of her and acted without needed to be instructed or begged.
> How do I do something that makes her feel this way again?
Keep an open note on your phone and when she mentions something of note, somewhere she wants to travel to, a restaurant she wants to try, a brand of pen she likes, her favourite flower, her childhood best friend’s cat’s name, write it down.
You’ll always have notes of things that are meaningful to her and ways you can surprise and treat her.
Her love language is clearly acts of service. You can make her happy like this again and again by simply anticipating her needs and then filling them. Sometimes it’s just picking up donuts when she’s having a tough work day. Sometimes it’s running an errand for her. Just keep paying attention and you will know what she needs. And sometimes just ask- what can I do to make your day easier?
I’m just blown away here, what exactly did you do that made her feel so incredibly cherished?
its called be kind and thoughtful, never change that!
You did good.
I think it’s just the fact that you thought of her, and you took notice of the right ones to get too.
It’s the little things like that, that makes all the difference.
You remembered what she said and was able to interpret what that meant for the situation at hand. She probably felt very seen and that you listen to her when she talks. That is not as common as you would think.
Continue to listen to her and remember her likes/dislikes/problems, and show her that you remember them just as you did in this situation.
Good job OP. W boyfriend!
You were thinking about her, you took care of her.
You actually bought tampons, which a lot of men don’t. You paid attention to the kind she uses, and remembered that when you went to buy more.
You picked up dinner so she didn’t have to think of that, too.
You were just really thoughtful. That’s all it takes.
Your care and consideration is most likely what touched her, especially in a world where most only think of themselves. Proof that something seemingly so easy or simple can have the power to change lives. Good job! 💗
You anticipated her needs. You were thoughtful. You were considerate of her. You are doing exactly what you SHOULD be doing in a relationship as a partner! Keep it up, you’re doing great!
By doing exactly what you should be doing in a relationship, you are way ahead of the majority of men in this regard; and she clearly recognizes this and knows how lucky she is to have you. You are the catch a lot of women hope they get and it should not be as uncommon as it is.
Keep doing what you’re doing, buddy. It’s refreshing to see a wholesome post like this. I wish you the best!
It’s because most men don’t treat us like human beings, and buying tampons for us is a whole class above what we’re used to from partners. You’ve shown with your actions that you’re caring and considerate and observant.
You made her feel special, so now she’s trying to make you feel special.