Every weekend, my husband and 5 year old son have a sleepover on our blow up bed in the living room. For context, I just started Nicodem and am 5 days on the patch and they give me very vivid dreams. I had a dream that I was in the public washroom, peeing. I woke up mid pee and ran to the bathroom to find not only my underwear soaked, but my pants too. I finished using the bathroom on the toilet and went and got changed. When I went back to the blow up bed I had to move everyone so I could change the sheets because I had peed through them as well. I’m so embarrassed. This has never happened to me before and I didn’t expect this to happen until I was 80.
Thanks for listening to me. I just had to get this off of my chest.
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Don’t be embarassed Op. It happens to the best of us. I just pissed my pants last week because I waited too long to go to the bathroom 🤷♀️
Congrats on quitting smoking.
It weirdly happens. Try not to stress over it.
There’s no way you’ve never peed yourself before. Everyone has peed themselves, even if you don’t remember. If we’re lucky enough to become old, we’ll pee again. We pee if we severely injure ourselves. It’s no big deal
Thankfully it was just pee
Everyone has a pee dream- it comes for us all. If your family members haven’t they’re either lying or they will. Don’t sweat it
It happens. No biggie.
Literally just peed my pants at work last week from coughing so much. It happens more than you think.
The dreaded “instead of waking up I’ll just have a dream about going to the toilet” response to the urge to urinate in the middle of the night. Ugh! This isn’t uncommon. Human brains can be pretty annoying!
Oh geeze that sucks! I’ve had that happen before, dreaming about peeing and waking to find I actually did. Thankfully I was alone! It happens, op. I’m sorry it happened in the most embarrassing way possible.
I got drunk and peed in my sister’s guest bed. Middle of the night drunken laundry sucks.
Oh my gosh! I am sure it was embarrassing, but it could be a whole lot worse. I feel like in the future you are going to laugh about it 🙂
This happens to me when i take melatonin – knocks me out. Ill dream at a urinal peeing, but something feels off, then i wake up lol
I’ve peed myself as an adult. It happens.
I was sick and coughing, guess what, I peed my pants. It happens.
I’m 58 and this happens to me and sometimes I don’t even feel it until it’s too late. Dr is looking into it but says blatter is weak.
I have to wear a pad thing because it happens when I’m driving or walking stairs.
Don’t let people make fun of you
Girl, I use to pee my bed all the time as a kid due to these vivid dreams. I swore I’d even pinched myself to make sure I wasn’t dreaming, and yet I still was. I’ve done it once or twice as an adult, and once was when I was at work and I did something that required heavy lifting or something? And I tinkled myself a bit. Enough to ask to go home and I cried about it on the 5 min drive home. The other time, I was in my bed with my boyfriend and I had a vivid dream and sure enough, I ended up having to remove the sheets and sleep on a towel to soak up the rest of:,)
You’re actually not supposed to sleep with the patch on for two reasons. One is the dreams, as you learned, the other is that your natural pattern of nicotine intake usually doesn’t involve those six to eight hours you sleep. Part of the reason why is heavy smokers tend to light up as soon as we wake up. So if you sleep with it on you’re actually increasing your body’s desire for nicotine.
Don’t feel too bad about the pee. at least it was dream related and not because you were blackout drunk, you know?
that’s nothing to be embarrassed about. i accidentally shat myself while busy with a client the other day… these thing happen
You ain’t cool unless you pee your pants! (Billy Madison)
One time when I was pregnant my husband made me laugh really hard and I peed all through our sheets and mattress you are sooooo lucky weren’t on your normal bed. It happens. I’m only 24 and I have peed when I laugh too hard since I was like 12. It’ll be ok girl. Don’t be embarrassed, it happens
Don’t worry at all. Human bodies are weird and sometimes do stuff accidentally.
Say, most people, especially those kids, have seen it all, and understand. I had to clean up poop a few times from my ex partner who was having problems. He was embarrassed, I didn’t even think twice about it. Stuff just happens sometimes.
OP I did this once after switching up on meds and drinking/smoking. In my dreams I thought I was in the bathroom peeing. Woke up to find out I peed in my dress shoes outside my door. Was right after college and living with my mom. She just thought it was a bad night of being out drinking with work, and was a good sport about it. Embarrassing at the time but everyone forgot about it now.
You haven’t pooped yourself in front of him yet? You will.
Life ain’t about never shitting your pants. Life is about how you respond to shitting your pants.
I poop my pants like once a year or so. Not fully, but you know, enough.
I’ve done that as recently as this past year. We’re all one bathroom dream away from it, my friend.
If it makes you feel slightly less embarrassed about it, my dream was that I was in a really dim bathroom with like 12 toilets lined up like barracks bunk beds, I couldnt choose which one to use, so I just pissed myself … in the dream and in real life.
It happened to me once. Dreamed I was peeing and it woke me up and a little had come out. I quickly stopped once I realized I was in bed lol
Don’t be embarrassed. Congrats on quitting. Things happen. I my self have been caught mid pee in my bed. It’s always the bathroom dreams for me.
Sometimes it happens and I think it’s fine, if they judge you for something like this it’s p stupid
This is more common than you think and for a many number of reasons. Dream-peeing is one of those reasons. I’ve talked to so many people who have had that exact experience.
Quitting smoking is far more important than wetting the bed.
One time me and my friend (younger but still adults) were walking (fully sober, in the middle of the day) in public and we both had to pee, so we were looking for a bathroom. I don’t remember what it was, but something i said was so funny, that it resulted in both of us on the sidewalk literally peeing our pants in public (in front of other friends) we were laughing so hard. It happens lmao
Happens to everyone around your age at least once and most people will admit it. There seems to be no direct correlation between Nicoderm and enuresis, but indirectly it’s possible, though a bit of a stretch. I’m not a physician, however. If I were you and it happened again, I’d want to see my family doctor about it.
I had a total knee replacement two months ago. When I woke up in the middle of the night to pee, I had to pull myself out from under flannel sheets, a blanket, and a down comforter, (I couldn’t get warm) and manually lift my leg off the bed. After going through almost all my pajamas, I sent my husband to get me some Depends. I used them for the next 3 weeks. Convenience before pride.
Haven’t had a problem since, and grateful that it was temporary.
What goes around comes around. Just wait and those making fun of you will be humbled without you having to do anything.
Every single person you have ever met or will meet, has pissed their pants at some point in their lives.
When I was 16, I slipped and fell on my ass getting off the bus. I guess I did something to my back because later that night I accidentally peed my bed. Which was massively embarrassing and I can absolutely relate. Things happen and time will be your friend making this matter less and less
it’s happening all over the world. don’t worry it’s normal but do 1 thing before go to sleep just go for washroom 💤💤
One time when I was younger, I was on an air mattress and I also peed. The grooves of the plastic mattress felt like a toilet in my sleep. So it’s not just you!
I was running across the cross country course cheering for my son and had a coughing fit mid-run/cheer. Totally peed my pants.
I wasn’t on meds, wasn’t sick, I was just having a dream, similarly , about peeing in a bathroom. Well, I pissed my pants. I joke about it now and everything in the universe is the same. You’re OK, you can keep moving forward without worrying. At least you have a reason why, mine was just being me hahaha. Good luck!!!!!
My sister in law at one point was having an operation because of urinary incontinence. I found out very indirectly and my wife made me promise to keep it a secret. Then I went to visit the sister in law and not only did she tell me about the operation she went into detail about how she had soaked herself in a public park after a run, and that was what prompted it.
Anyway, I guess the point is, hopefully you and the family can all think of this as a funny story, but nothing to be embarrassed about.
I trusted a fart I shouldn’t have while working 10 miles from a bathroom. We are all gods in a cartoon.
Some years ago when me and my gf were long distance (about 3 hrs apart) I was 30 minutes to an hour away or maybe even a little more and I started feeling like I had to pee but since I was close I didn’t want to stop. I held it as long as I could. Got all the way to the street she lived on and my potty dance while driving couldn’t hold up anymore. So I peed on myself while driving. Luckily she was at work when I arrived so I washed my clothes before she got back
There are two kinds of people: people who have had the pee dream and made it a reality, and liars. It’s ok, OP. Don’t let it get ya down. 💕
I’ve shit the bed when really ill, and had to walk the sheets past my baby and partner so I unfortunately get it 😭
I once pissed by accident under the lid, my father in law was the one to go next to the toilet. This was very embarrassing.
Accidents happen. Don’t feel bad.
My mom started hallucinating from her meds! Very distressing.
I’ve had pee dreams a few times and It caused me to shoot up out of bed going wtf am I doing! Danger close to weeing the bed.
NEVER USE THE DREAM TOILET.
The same thing happened to me in the 8th grade!!! I dreamed I was peeing and actually did pee. It was so upsetting because I was headed to overnight camp soon and I was so worried I’d wet my pants there. Ofc that didn’t happen because I wasn’t actually incontinent. It won’t happen again to you, OP – and I’m sure you’d wake up if you had a pee dream again!
Dream peeing is the perfect deception. Also the "getting ready for work" dream is also frustrating. At least you have the recognition of the dream so you’re not wondering if this is who you are now.🥲
Don’t be embarrassed though, this is shit that unfortunately can happen sometimes. Look at like this, if you react all embarrassed and trying to hide it, your kids and the other one takes from that that it is something terrible and shameful but if you keep a cool head and just explain like shit happens, preferably backed by hubsand, they think of it as that.
Hey hon, I’m 37 trans MtF, it happens. Two of my hormones are also diuretics and we had to figure out a dosage that was still effective for my transition that still left me with bladder control.
Don’t stress about it, maybe sleep on a pad or towel for the adjustment period, but it isn’t a big deal.
The other night I desperately needed a public bathroom in a dream but then it was beyond disgusting so I had to leave. I’ve been wondering what would have happened if it was clean…
Also, is there any reason you’re sleeping with the patch? I take patches off before bed because of the crazy dreams. Sometimes I use gum in the am if I need a quick nicotine boost
Honestly, this happened to me once or twice. I guess if you’re dreaming about going to the bathroom, you really need to go.
The patches gave me terrifying dreams. Couldn’t handle them. The gum worked for me when I attended a Cooper Clayton Cessation class and learned to use properly. Weekly accountability helped also. The Y gives those for free. You are going to be so pleased when you beat this. I am hoping you are successful.
You ain’t cool, unless you pee your pants!
Body fluids happen.
I’m in the medical field and the amount of bodily excretions that I have involved with on a near daily basis Just accentuates the universality of our physiology
Hey girl just own it
Give yourself some grace… People are gross from time to time.
I was withdrawing off some meds at one point and shit the bed in my sleep.
Thank God my girlfriend loves me.
I sometimes pee when coughing or laughing too hard, which I do often.
But when husband and I were around year 2, I also had a dream where I went pee in a toilet but was my bed. Except I knew we had a mattress protector. So I slide a towel under us and went back to bed and handled it in the morning
I piss my pants when I sneeze too hard sometimes. You had a kid lol we get fucked up and can’t hold it as well anymore. Embarrassing yeah but laugh at yourself and move on! It’s a normal bodily function and the human brain sucks. At least you realized and didn’t sleep through it
Shit happens they probably already forgot. FYI I hated that patch. Irritated my skin so bad. Had migraines nausea and nightmares. It was awful. Switched to lozenges and had nausea migraines and dry mouth. I got a smaller dose and cut those in half. Most of the time I used life savers. You may need to try a few different things. It’s hard but you got this!
I did it once as an adult. I was mid-dream that I was standing at a public urinal having a conversation with someone at the urinal next to me before I realized I was peeing all over myself and my bed.
Things happen no worrys.
It’s fine last week I coughed too hard and shit myself in front of a customer at work
I’ve had that dream befor. I was 20, had a dream I was in the army and went to use the urinal. I peed in my bed. It sucked so bad. I think I just flipped my mattress like a gross person🤮
You’re looking at this all wrong.
Almost everyone who’s been heavily pregnant a couple of times or given birth within the previous year has peed themselves, often during the pregnancy or in the first few weeks post-birth.
If you have even one sibling and your mum is over fifty, she has DEFINITELY peed herself. Look up the statistics on "stress incontinence" if you want to feel better and worse simultaneously.
6 months into a relationship with my now wife, I decided to stay up watching movies while drinking gin and lemonade (buzzed for it at the time).
Woke up in the morning, took a big stretch and went to climb out of bed, when she stopped me.
"Don’t put your foot down. Don’t you remember what happened last night?"
"…No?"
"I woke up and you were stood next to the bed doing a massive piss. I kept telling you to go to the toilet and you just kept saying ‘its fine love, I don’t need the toilet.’"
Allegedly went on for about 2 minutes. Pissed all over her clothes, her makeup bag, and my work laptop bag. My sticky notes were sodden.
She forgave me pretty quickly and saw the funny side… And was pretty vanilla compared to the great pissing incident of 08 for my 18th birthday. Or indeed the great golden shower I gave my best mate on a sleepover in 09.
Since learned – too much gin (or indeed beer if I REALLY go for it) makes me sleepwalk and piss wherever I see fit. Got caught every bastard time, too.
You’re cool OP.
I have had my fair share of embarrassing moments like this. You were home with your immediate family, I would call this a win and laugh it off.
I remember those dreams on the patch, and vivid can be an understatement. Sucks it happened, but oh well. Best of luck in your journey to quit. I’ll hit eight years cigarette/tobacco free in June after smoking for 24 years. It’s worth it in the end.
Oooh the dreaded toilet dream. That’s one of the most fucked up dreams. Ever. Evil 😈. It happens to a few of us. And it’s ALWAYS AN OCEANIC AMOUNT OF PEE. That dream is right up there with the falling dream. Don’t hit bottom. They say you don’t wake up. Always wake up with a jumping whole body jolt. And so hyperventilating all over the place.
I’ve been sick and had to do one of those nasal flush things yesterday, it made me gag so hard I full on pissed my pants. It’s a part of a life
When you said your whole family knows, I thought this was gonna be like at thanksgiving. This is honestly not that bad! Your sleepover is a cute idea
I was driving cross country and suddenly had to go. It was a desolate stretch. Well, desolate for me cause I had to GO. I finally had to let loose.
The next stop was a convenience store/diner or laundromat (?been a while). I was soaked and had to do a walk of shame to the bathroom carrying fresh clothes. I was stepping quickly and avoiding eyes.
I have also had the dreaded looking for a bathroom dream. The joy of finally finding a toilet, the sweet relief to let that stream start, and the wet reality that shocks you awake.
Nothing as funny as waking up to a drunk roommate peeing in your closet all over your stuff. Or a guest peeing on a paper roll in the kitchen cause they couldn’t find the bathroom.
Ah memories.
Nobody really cares after awhile, don’t let it bother you
My bf and I took mushrooms and, for whatever reason, I couldn’t hold my pee. I kept peeing on the bed. Eventually we just put extra blankets down instead of trying to clean up every time. I guess that’s different. Whatever, it’s my pee story.
At least you weren’t dreaming about pooping.
Thats called being human. We all have moments like this. Its important that those closest to you support you throught it.
Listen lady
I was in the USMC infantry for 15 years and have outright shit my pants in front of 13 people while deployed in AFG.
It wasnt even a one time thing. And im not the only one in my squad or platoon that had this happen.
Dont even give it a second thought. These things happen.
All I’m going to add is to never ever trust a fart.
My boyfriend saw me shit and throw up at the same time from a stomach bug from hell this week. We just laughed and he still thought I was cute. You’ll survive. I’m your age too shit happens, literally.
I keep a mattress protector on my bed because I just KNOW once every 10 years the dream pee is coming for me
I blame parents on the shame that is associated with accidents. They get so angry/disappointed when potty training and when you have accidents as a kid that you feel like a failure if something out of your control happens as an adult. You had a dream, you peed… oh well! It’s not gross and you have nothing to be embarrassed about.
Lol I once needed to pee, saw a toilet and got to pee. Then I woke up.. DURING A SCHOOL CAMPING TRIP! I slept in my own pee and never told anyone
I was at a party, well on my way to becoming quite drunk, so decided to sit down to piss because my aim was not too great. My dick somehow managed to rest on the toilet seat, so I pissed into my own pants. I had to ask the host to borrow a pair of dry pants and leave with a plastic bag containing piss soaked boxers and jeans.
PLEASSEEEE this is not nearly as bad as me. I got REALLY sick twice this year and BOTH TIMES I SHIT MY BOYFRIENDS PANTS!!!! IN FRONT OF HIM!!!! I was mortified but he just laughed with me and told me it was okay I couldn’t help it because I was sooooo fucking sick it wasn’t even funny both times. I had extreme HG and could barely move due to pregnancy issues on top of having pneumonia then getting influenza B halfway through my pneumonia treatment. We laughed and moved on, if they love you they won’t be weird about it. Embarrassing things will happen when you live with someone. It’s part of life!
I’m gonna be so honest with you I shit my pants like three weeks ago. My body only gave me about 30 seconds of bathroom cues (aka the worst cramps of my life) before it happened. I was driving in my car…. commando…
I did this a couple of months ago. I’m 30, never wet the bed (as an adult) or had any bladder issues. Just had a random dream on night that I was peeing and woke up peeing lol. Wasn’t a lot but had to change the sheets. Hasn’t happened since so not worried about it 🤷♂️
This is way more common than you think.
If it makes you feel any better I have IBS and I’ve shit my pants in Costco twice this year.
Who hasn’t had a dream where they are going to the bathroom only to find out they are doing it in real life and wake up wet. It happens. And as you get older waking up in the middle of the night to go pee will become a nightly occurrence.
Hey, it’s ok! My husband, while dreaming, pulled out the drawer on his nightstand, sat down on top of the stand, and peed into the drawer. Very creative! And it was new drug related too!
I went through nicotine withdrawal and almost did the same thing ( woke up before it happened) people have no idea how hard nicotine is to quit – do not be embarrassed- just blame the withdrawal side affects – i had a 2 pack a day 30 yr habit and finally stopped
Cold turkey smoking at age 43 all i can say is you will feel so much better within a year
And those cravings will pop up 5 yrs later out of no where but once you finally stop
It is very freeing and frees up more money and time – keep up the good work – it will get easier as each month goes along
I had a dream where I had to pee in a cup for my doctor. I woke up in the morning to find I’d peed into my full prescription bottle of highly controlled pain meds and I couldn’t get a refill for another two weeks.
Drugs are baaaad, mmmmmmky
Been there, done that. You’re not alone!
Don’t worry. We all know what peeing in the dream feels like. Had this done to me in childhood many time although I learnt my lesson and I don’t pee in my dream anymore because my subconscious mind know it, it’s a trap
You peed your pants and needed to get that off your chest? It happens. Not even worth talking about. Your friends won’t even laugh about it, peeing yourself at night is nothing.
I’ll shit my pants right now just to prove a point.
Update: pants shit. Left Dick’s Sporting Goods and not even one person laughed. 🤷🏻♂️ People just don’t know how to have fun anymore.
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It’s okay, honey. Once, I was shopping at a TJ Maxx with my husband and managed to bump the hell out of my heel/ankle with a fully loaded cart. The pain was so bad that I got woozy and actually passed out a couple minutes later. I woke up having peed myself in the middle of the store.
We ditched the cart and he helped me to the car where I stripped out of my pants and he let me sit on his jacket. I had to leave my shoes in the parking lot because there’s no coming back from that.
Once you have kids it gets a lot harder to hold it. You think that’s bad? One time I walk out in my kitchen, my bathroom is upstairs, and felt like i had to go. The moment I started moving, I started. I had no choice but to stand there as a puddle formed around me. I had to tell for my bf to go get me a towel. Then he stood there watching me clean up until I yelled at him. So yeah. Good times.
I had a dream I was peeing once and woke up. Guess what.
You are ok. I had an almost "oops" from a dream where I was in the restroom peeing. I learned from that to not trust the dream. Hey it happens 🤷🏾♂️
An adult who says that they have never pissed or shat themselves is lying.
Shit happens.
So does piss.
Laugh it off
NEVER trust a toilet 🚽 in your dreams…
It’s not a big deal unless it continues to happen in a regular basis. You are human. Don’t obsess about it!
I full-out shit my pants right after I had my first baby. Baby was crying. I was crying.
My cousin was walking her dog when the coffee kicked in. She shit her pants in her neighbourhood and had to do the walk of shame. And she hasn’t given birth, haha.
Shit (literally) happens.
This happened to me about 7 years ago (I was 30) while on vacation with my then girlfriend now wife. Just started peeing, woke up, and went to the bathroom. She stayed asleep and I never told her about it. Luckily it wasn’t a lot and none got on the bed at all. But the front of my shorts were soaked 😂