To start I’m audhd and don’t really do well with social skills so I feel it’s why it’s taken me so long. I had known them from being social media mutuals. I’ve been in bad relationships in most of my adult life. I got out a traumatic relationship in ‘23 and we began slowly talking a few months after that. We text and send pics all the time. But we don’t really have any interaction past that. We have video chat before but it’s extremely rare.
It’s also they would disappear for a few days and text or send a picture. They work a lot so I just clock it to that. We lived many miles away before but now we’re an hour away and we have yet to meet. I’ve offered dates, but she’d heart the message and pop back up like usual. It’s not bad, we don’t fight or argue, but we don’t do much but talk bout things that happen in our day.
A video on YouTube popped up about intermittent relationships and it seemed right. I hate confrontation it causes a lot of anxiety. I feel like Tantalus just shy of that beautiful fruit. Just waiting.
TLDR me and love interest of two years have yet to meet and I’m too anxious to say how I feel for fear of losing her.
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Uhm, there’s no “relationship” here. You’re 2 people who are in contact through social media.
When you say you’ve offered dates, what did that look like? Did you say “I’d like us to go out on a date, are you free next Friday?” or was it more like “we should get together sometime?” No need for big declarations, just “Hey, I’d like to meet in person. Are you available Wednesday?”