I’d much rather masturbate than have sex. And I don’t feel like there is anything wrong with me because of that.
I’ve had lots of sex with lots of different people. Relationship sex and casual sex; incredible, amazing sex and bad sex. And I’ve realized that I enjoy masturbating more than I like having sex with a person.
I’m not lacking for sexual opportunities. I get hit on. And I did well on dating apps when I was on them. So it’s not that I have to masturbate because I can’t find anyone to have sex with me. It’s just my choice.
I do think that people wonder “What’s her problem?” when I turn down dates with attractive guys. But your’e not allowed to say “I’d just rather bang some dildos and vibes than a guy” to someone. I guess it’s not polite.
I have a high sex drive, so I’ve put together a large sex toy collection. I masturbate daily with long sessions of multiple orgasms. It’s often the highlight of my day.
I know that this is uncommon. And it’s like a dirty secret that you can’t really share. If I post about it on Reddit, I’m called a degenerate or assumed to be mentally ill or socially incompetent. I also get lots of advice on how to change.
And I don’t tell many people. Some who do know about it look at me like I’m nuts. But I’m fine with that. Ultimately, I get to pick how best to live my life.
I guess I’m tired of how society sees what I do as wrong or shameful. Sex is natural. Be happy for me that I’ve found a way to enjoy it.
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Maybe… You don’t like guys? Try a woman.
Have you ever deeply thought about why you enjoy that more? Maybe because you know what you like. And another person would have to learn that. But I feel like sex is more than just a physical pleasure. It’s the connecting on a deeper level with a person.
Actually a Level 95 Gooner, keep those numbers up
Who says there’s something wrong with you?
Not feeling like involving someone, is quite okay.
Personally I would miss breasts, going down on her and exploring, but we all have preferences, and that’s all good!
You do you(pun intended)!
Man here and feel the same
You are watching too much porn
I see, I may not understand but maybe 1 day you might feel that connection or maybe you’ll be OK doing what you are already doing. In my opinion i feel like its something special to be shared between a man and woman. No judgment here, just curious.
100% sounds like an addiction.
People will say this and then say porn is good and not an addiction
to me, sex is only as good as the person you have it with. casual sex does absolutely nothing for me and I’d rather use my hand. sex with the right person? no comparison. I feel like this is a pretty common sentiment
Good for you. Do what makes YOU happy.
Respectfully, I think it’s just proof of your alienation. I’m not judging, I just don’t think it’s optimal and where you want to stay. It’s cool for a phase but for a well adjusted life.
Honestly I’m kind of the same most of the time. Glad it’s not just me, honestly.
Honestly? I think I can relate somewhat.
For me however it’s because people are a bother. It’s not that I can’t work with them, it’s just that having to meet, talk and finally pay for a date because of the country I live in, while having sex somewhere at the back of the entire meeting is just bothersome.
I had met many people and the general feeling I get is that I have to walk on glass just so that I can get through two hours of boring conversations which might end in bed.
At this point I mostly enjoy curious people while keeping my bedroom to myself.
This is tricky. The thing is you know what you like and when you have sex usually they don’t know how to work your body like you do. Women are hard you need the right angle the right headspace blah blah. I still feel if this is affecting your ability to have relationships then it’s probably a problem
Ever got married?
Guys, sometimes this is called personal preference and has nothing to do with addiction… Yes it activates brain chemicals, but often it’s the feeling we’re after and not the dopamine high. Orgasms are different between sex and masturbation, and you have more control over it by yourself.
This is supposed to be a nonjudgemental sub man.
I don’t think anyone gives a fuck girl lmao
Why do you think that is? You wrote a fair amount but never touch on why you feel this way.